It's difficult for my 89 year-old dad to spend very much time away from home due to health issues. For this reason, he's hard to convince to get out of the house even for a day. On a beautiful (and rare for South Dakota) 70 degree "summer" afternoon ...

You sound so overwhelmed! Have you checked with your county social service agencies to see if there's any kind of respite care available to help with your mom? If she can't afford to pay for someone to help her, perhaps her income would allow her to ...