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WE ARE SORRY for your loss ๐
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WE ARE SORRY for your loss ๐
THIS GROUP IS OPEN TO ALL GRIEVERS NO MATTER HOW LONG IT HAS BEEN [years,days].
To participate, click on reply button at bottom of this post. Enter your comment. Click on reply again.
Grief & Loss Team ๐ค
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Guess what? โโโโโโโ โโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ๐คโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ
WE made it through ANOTHER day/night!!!
And yes, maybe a little bruised but WE DID IT. โโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ๐โโ
TOMORROW has "possibilities" for PEACE & COMFORT my friend(s). 1 step at a time. โโ๐ฃโโ
Luv,
Nicole โโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ๐คโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ๐คโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ๐คโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ (Grief Forum)
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โโโโโโโ๐กโโโโโโโ PARENTS!
For those of us who are parenting on OUR OWN, remember no matter how old our children are - THEY NEED US.
So take care of yourself (medical appointments, sleep, eat, hydrate and so on) FOR THEM. โโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ
Luv,
Nicole โโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ โโโโโโโโโโโโ๐คโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ๐คโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ๐คโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ (Grief Forum)
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โโโโโโโโโโป๏ธโโโโโโโโโโโโ ARE YOU NEW TO OUR FORUM [Grief & Loss]? โโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ๐คโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ
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[2] IF you need help with anything on THIS SITE, you can "reply" to this post or send me a PM (AARP Private Message).
[3] WE have ALL been "new" at some point & this site can be a "challenge" to use.
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๐โโโโ There will be GOOD & BAD days. You may feel guilty or surprised for laughing at a joke or enjoying a visit with a friend. It is important to understand that these can be common feelings.
*** OUR "emotions" are a part of OUR journey moving forward.
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โโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ๐ฃโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ Creating a NEW LIFE AFTER A LOSS is not easy, but we will ONE STEP AT A TIME.
Sometimes in life WE NEED TO TAKE A STEP BACKWARD.
Why?
WE may have thought we had a SOLUTION to an "issue" only to find it IT WAS NOT A FIT.
It is okay. You got out there dear friend(s) INSTEAD OF STAYING IN BED sleeping your life away.
It is OKAY to "step backwards" to REGROUP & TRY AGAIN when you are ready.
Luv,
Nicole โโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ๐คโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ๐คโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ๐คโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ (Grief Forum)
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โโโโโโโโโโโโโก๏ธโโโโโโโโโโโโ[*** What is a Grief JAR?
A grief jar is a PHYSICAL CONTAINER, such as a jar, box, or vase, that you use to COLLECT and acknowledge your emotions during times of grief and loss. It serves as a REMINDER of your feelings and experiences, allowing you to connect, express and process your emotions safely and intentionally. This can give some COMFORT during an overwhelming time.
[1] Write Your Thoughts and Feelings:
Whenever you feel overwhelmed by emotions, take a moment to write down your thoughts and feelings on a small piece of paper. It could be a memory, a message to your loved one, or simply a reflection on your grief journey.
[2] Place Your Notes in the Jar:
Fold your notes and place them gently into your grief jar. Each note represents a piece of your heart and soul, allowing you to release and honor your emotions tangibly. You can revisit these notes whenever you feel the need to connect with your feelings.
[3] Visit Your Grief Jar as often as you can:
Try to make it a habit to check in with your grief jar regularly. Take time to reflect on your notes, acknowledge your emotions, and offer yourself compassion and understanding.
*** Of course YOU can "adjust" all of this to what works for YOU.
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โโโโโโโโป๏ธโโโโโโโ Feeling LONELY with the passing of someone you CARED about?
(1) WE are ALWAYS here to "listen".
(2) Different TIME ZONES means someone is "available" 24/7.
(3) And our AARP Experts Amy @agoyer & Jane @JaneCares have SUPPORTED us throughout the years.
Have a QUESTION for them - ask away!!!
(4) Keep in mind Group Members have "experienced" loss too = WE UNDERSTAND & SUPPORT EACH GROUP MEMBER.
โก๏ธ[***Members helping members. ***]โฌ ๏ธ
Grief & Loss Team โโโโโโโ๐คโโโโโโโ
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โโโโโโโโโโโ๐กโโโโโโโโโโโ Strategies and Tips for Grieving!
CONNECT with people.
WE may NOT be ready to "interact" with people = connect in a way that works for you.
(1) Maybe just "smiling" when we are out on errands. Some people may ignore us, but others will "smile" back.
(2) Reconnect with friends & family as you "feel" up to it. Maybe meet for coffee. This gets you out of your 4 walls. Yes, staying home feels safe for awhile.
You got this!!! โโโโโโ
Grief & Loss Team โโโโโโโโโ๐คโโโโโโโโโ
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โโโโโโโ๐กโโโโโโโโ Being ALONE can also increase concerns about SAFETY. Itโs a good idea to ensure there are working locks on the doors and windows.
*** You can also ASK your neighbors to keep an eye out. I miss the old days when neighbors looked out for each other. Now, with so many of us moving out of our houses (move in with family), we are losing that neighborhood connection it seems in our lives.
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โโโโโโโ๐โโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ๐โโโโโโโโ When YOU feel READY, go through your loved oneโs clothes and other personal items.
(1) Instead of parting with everything at once, you might make three piles: one to keep, one to give away, and one โnot sure.โ Ask your children or others to help.
(2) Think about setting aside items such as a special piece of clothing, watch, favorite book, or picture to give to your children or grandchildren as personal reminders of your loved one.
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โโโโโโโป๏ธโโโโโโโ Stop by to SHARE YOUR JOURNEY!!!
WE will ALWAYS leave a comment in response to YOUR POST. โโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ
Sharing "may" HELP with our healing and "may" also HELP another griever who stops by = members supporting members.
*** They will KNOW there are OTHERS out there and "may" find YOUR solutions to YOUR grief works for them. Thank you for CARING about others. โโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ โโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ
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๐ Remember to "pat" YOURSELF on YOUR back "everytime" you do 1 step.
Why?
So many times WE donot realize that 1 step is COURAGE.
Courage to "pick" ourselves up after OUR world fell apart from OUR GRIEF.
You got this!!!
Luv,
Nicole ๐๐ค (Grief Forum)
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โโโโโ๐คโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ๐ดโโโโโโโ NOT Sleeping At Nights?
Try to "nap" during the day.
Why?
Even a FEW MINUTES of "shut eye" will help with YOUR sadness. โโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ
Luv,
Nicole โโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ๐คโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ๐คโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ๐คโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ (Grief Forum)
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โโโโโโโ๐ฃโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ ONE STEP may mean making sure YOU EAT today/tonight.
Sometimes OUR interest in food is gone along with the energy to face EACH day/night. โโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ
*** Try "snacking & sipping water" IF you are NOT able to consume a regular meal. Doing this "several" times during the day/night will help to keep you hydrated & well.
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โโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ๐กโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ A Suggestion!!!
Explore YOUR area to find spots that may bring you COMFORT.
Some of us DREAD the old familiar hangouts we had with our luv ones.
Maybe one day WE will be able to visit them WITHOUT tears. But until then, EACH day maybe "act" like a TOURIST.
SO MANY possibilities out there.
SO MANY new friends to meet.
You got this!!! โโโโโโโโโโโโ
Luv,
Nicole โโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ๐คโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ๐คโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ๐คโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ (Grief Forum)โ
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โโโโโโโโโโโโโ๏ธ Myth:
The pain will go away faster if you IGNORE it.
โโโโโโโโ โโโโโโโ๏ธ Fact:
Trying to IGNORE your pain or keep it from surfacing will only make it worse in the long run. For REAL HEALING, it is necessary to face your grief and actively deal with it.
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โโโโโโโโโโโโโป๏ธโโโโโโโโโโโโ Yes, YOU posted when YOU 1st lost someone YOU cared about.
But WE would luv to "hear" from you AGAIN!!!
OUR GROUP is about OUR journeys as WE "figure" out our NEXT step.
Sometimes WE stop by to SHARE some good news or a decision WE finally made.
And it is ALWAYS awesome when "Members Support Members" = YOU KNOW how you felt when you first lost someone. Thank you SO MUCH for our "supporters". There is something SPECIAL when we support others in the midst of OUR GRIEF.
So stop by, say hi and let us know how you are doing. WE are "family" here.
Grief & Loss Team โโโโโโโโโโโโ๐คโโโโโโโโโโโโ
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โโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ๐กโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ The EXPERTS tell us to WAIT before making Housing Decisions!!!
Why?
While WE ARE GRIEVING, sometimes we tend to make "decisions" based on OUR EMOTIONS.
We want the "memories" to NOT hurt!!!
Maybe "step away" from YOUR Housing Setup & stay with family/friends.
Use THIS TIME to deal with the stuff that CANNOT WAIT.
Then REVISIT the Housing Topic.
Some of us stayed put & made changes.
Some of us downsized as finances had changed.
Some of us relocated to be near to family.
DO WHAT WORKS FOR YOU ALWAYS.
Grief & Loss Team โโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ๐คโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ
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โโโโโก๏ธโโโโโโโโโโ[*** PLAN AHEAD for grief โtriggers".
Anniversaries, holidays, and important milestones can reawaken painful memories and feelings. BE PREPARED for an emotional wallop, and know that itโs completely normal. You can plan ahead by making sure that youโre not alone, for example, or by marking your loss in a creative way.
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โโโโโโโโ๐คโโโโโโโ SIGNS from love ones!
A source of COMFORT on those days/nights when we NEED IT.
(1) Timing: SIGNS often appear when they are most needed, such as on anniversaries, birthdays, or in moments of distress, according to a blogger at O'Connor Mortuary.
(2) Intuition: They are described as giving a sense of peace, love, or comfort, rather than fear.
(3) Directness: They often feel too specific to be coincidences, appearing personal to the relationship you shared.
*** When we get "quiet" (relax, meditate) & "believe" - they will contact us!
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Give yourself permission to not be okay.
You are ALLOWED to crumble.
You are ALLOWED to feel lost, broken, or incomplete.
You are ALLOWED to have days when you canโt show up, when you cancel plans, when you stop pretending youโre fine.
This is a tender season. You donโt have to rush through it or prove how strong you are.
You can simply be. Resting, grieving, pausing, surviving. That, in itself, is an act of COURAGE.

