WE ARE SORRY for your loss 💛

[SummerOnTheWay1]

THIS GROUP IS OPEN TO ALL GRIEVERS NO MATTER HOW LONG IT HAS BEEN [years,days].

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Grief & Loss Team  🤗

[SummerOnTheWay1]

📸[*** .gif attached] Keep stepping to feel BETTER!!!

[SummerOnTheWay1]

At what AGE is grief the hardest? Children under 5 years old!

‌➡️‌[*** Children under the age of five will NOT understand the finality of death. Very young children often think that death is reversible and that their person who died CAN COME BACK.

[SummerOnTheWay1]

‌‌🕯‌‌‌‌  DECISIONS that often cause people distress include:

(1) When to sort through their loved one's belongings.

(2) Whether or not to take off their wedding ring.

(3) When to return to work.

(4) How often to visit the cemetery.

(5) Whether or not to sell or move.

*** Take your time with decisions. ‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌

[SummerOnTheWay1]

📸[*** Attachment] Stay Safe...

[SummerOnTheWay1]

📸[*** .gif attached] Sending these YOUR way!!!

[PaulW643687]

Would like to join this group husband passed away 2 months ago

[SummerOnTheWay1]

‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌📎   The EXPERTS tell us to WAIT before making Housing Decisions!!!

Why?

While WE ARE GRIEVING, sometimes we tend to make "decisions" based on OUR EMOTIONS.

We want the "memories" to NOT hurt!!!

Maybe "step away" from YOUR Housing Setup & stay with family/friends.

Use THIS TIME to deal with the stuff that CANNOT WAIT.

Then REVISIT the Housing Topic.

Some of us stayed put & made changes.

Some of us downsized as finances had changed.

Some of us relocated to be near to family.

DO WHAT WORKS FOR YOU ALWAYS.

Grief  & Loss Team  ‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌🤗‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌

[mc6844]

I am back here at this wonderful group. It's been 3 yrs for me. I've been wanting to move. Except don't feel physically up to it. I'm looking into other options. I remember everyone from the group and hope both old and new are finding hope and help. Thank you for all your support along the way. It's easy to drop in here, no appointments etc.

[SummerOnTheWay1]

📸[*** .gif attached] WE care about YOU!!!

[mc6844]

Thank you! I care about you all too.

[SummerOnTheWay1]

📸[.gif attached] I am ALWAYS here IF you need someone to chat with or just listen. Hang in there my friend!!!

[mc6844]

That's 🙂 nice! 

[SummerOnTheWay1]

📎 [Tuesday 4/14/26]

So you have a birthday soon Joe @JoeJ415665 !!! Getting older does make us "wiser" about life in some cases. It took "retiring" for me to get things set up. Now I can RELAX & enjoy the rest of my time here.

Luv,

Nicole  🤗🤗🤗  (Grief Forum)

[JoeJ415665]

 Glad you can relax now and do good work!!!

Luv,

Joe

[JoeJ415665]

 That birthday thing just slipped out. 

[SummerOnTheWay1]

🪔   You might need to:

(1) Write a NEW will and UPDATE your advance care planning.

(2) Look into a durable power of attorney for legal matters and health care in case you are unable to make your own medical decisions in the future.

(3) Put JOINT property (such as a house or car) in your name.

(4) Consider changes you may need to make to your health insurance as well as to your life, car, and homeowner’s insurance.

(5) Make a list of BILLS you will need to pay in the next few months, for example, your rent or mortgage; utilities such as electricity, water, and phone and internet services; insurance; and state and federal taxes.

*** Try NOT to "stress" and take 1 step at a time!

[JoeJ415665]

 Good advice, as always, Nicole!!

In the past two years I made a new will, executor, power of attorney for both personal and medical situations. I even created my obituary because no one knows my life better than me (sad to say). I'm 78 and will be 79 in 13 days. It's never too early to plan. You can enter the pearly gates worry free and those left behind will thank you.

[SummerOnTheWay1]

📎 [Tuesday 4/14/26]

Lol, don't kick yourself too hard Joe @JoeJ415665 !!!

We all have "seasons" in our journey and like the weather "ours" change.

You will FINISH your book.

Sounds like a "change" just took place for you = getting back to YOUR book.

Yes, please stop by when you can dear friend.

Luv,

Nicole  🤗🤗🤗  (Grief Forum)

[JoeJ415665]

 I'll try to limit the kicking; however, my butt is pretty sore now. 😉

Joe

[SummerOnTheWay1]

📎 [Monday 4/13/26]

Dear Joe @JoeJ415665 , we are totally honored to have you with us.

Keep stopping by to see us.

Luv,

Nicole  🤗🤗🤗  (Grief Forum)

[JoeJ415665]

 Good morning, Nicole,

Thanks for the kind words. I can't remember the last time, if ever, I was considered "honored".

I will stop by from time-to-time. At present I'm kicking myself for being delinquent in completing my first children's book. 0ver 140 pages containing over 21,000 words. Not a toddler's book.

Take care, hear from me soon!!

 Luv,

Joe

[SummerOnTheWay1]

📎  [Monday 4/13/26]

Joe @JoeJ415665 , MC @mc6844 - please keep OUR Michelle @MichelleC103656 in your thoughts. OUR dear friend has just lost her 6-year old granddaughter.  😭

I just cannot understand WHY people CANNOT "slow down" - drive carefully.

My heart goes out to you Michelle.

And you know you have a place to be as needed. Yes, with us.

Luv,

Nicole  🤗🤗🤗  (Grief Forum)

[JoeJ415665]

 Thanks, Nicole for sharing.

I've already had a conversation with the BIG GUY.

Nothing tears at me more than innocence taken so young.

 Joe

[SummerOnTheWay1]

📎   SIGNS from love ones!

(1) Timing: SIGNS often appear when they are most needed, such as on anniversaries, birthdays, or in moments of distress, according to a blogger at O'Connor Mortuary.

(2) Intuition: They are described as giving a sense of peace, love, or comfort, rather than fear.

(3) Directness: They often feel too specific to be coincidences, appearing personal to the relationship you shared.

*** When we get "quiet" (relax, meditate) & "believe" - they will contact us!

[JoeJ415665]

 The night before my mom passed in 1975, my phone (land line) rang at exactly 2am. 

 When I answered there was a conversation taking place on the other end in a language I didn't understand. I hung up and went back to sleep.

 The next day around noon I found my mom still in bed and not breathing. 

 One year to the day the phone rang at 2am. Same conversation on the other end. 

 Then one day in 2010, some 34 years later, my cell phone rang. When I answered there was that same conversation on the other end. I hung up and just sat there for the longest time. Then, it occurred to me that day's date was May 23. My mom's birthday. 

[JoeJ415665]

 When we lose someone we love we must learn not to live without them, but to live with the love they left behind.

[SummerOnTheWay1]

📎  Don’t let ANYONE tell you how to feel.

*** Your grief is YOUR OWN, and no one else can tell you when it’s time to “move on” or “get over it.” Let yourself feel whatever you feel without embarrassment or judgment. It’s okay to be angry, to yell at the heavens, to cry or not to cry. It’s also okay to laugh, to find moments of joy, and to let go when you’re ready.

[JoeJ415665]

 Good advice, Nicole!

There is no clock for grief. Look in the mirror, you're stronger than you think or feel!!

[JoeJ415665]

 If I may, I'd like to add a few words.

My mother passed in 1975, in her sleep and I was the one who found her. It was a heart attack. She was 52.

 My dad was a wreck; I had to do the legwork of setting up the funeral. The circumstances dictated it.

 I was pretty much a wreck myself. However, in the weeks that followed, no one asked me if I was okay, seeing as I was the one who found her and felt her cold neck when I checked her.

 It took a long time for me to get close to normal.

 What I realized later is that I need to be with people I loved and trusted. The person has to have both. I found out that grief in a person is unique and personal. People kept telling me it was time to move on. I'm sure they meant well, however, I found that no one could tell me when to move on. Only I would know when the time was. I found that time when I had peace in my heart. It took a while.

 I miss my mom every day. I cry a tear for her every day. After her passing she contacted me three times. Not again for many years. I don't mean for that to sound eerie or creepy. Just fact.

 Thanks.

[SummerOnTheWay1]

📎  [Friday 3/20/26]

Dear Michelle @MichelleC103656 , I know you MISS HER SO MUCH dear friend!!!  😞

Yes, those "tears" pop up when we THINK/TALK about them.

Know that she is looking down at you RIGHT NOW. Proud of you for "trying" to MOVE FORWARD the best you can.

Some days/nights, all I do is cry.

Other times, the "tears" are NOT there, but I so MISS him SO MUCH.

Thank you SO MUCH for stopping by my friend.

Luv,

Nicole  💛🤗