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WE ARE SORRY about your loss ๐
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WE ARE SORRY about your loss ๐
THIS GROUP IS OPEN TO ALL GRIEVERS NO MATTER HOW LONG IT HAS BEEN [years,days].
To participate, click on reply button at bottom of this post. Enter your comment. Click on reply again.
Grief & Loss Team ๐ค
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๐ช You might NEED to do these!!!
(1) Write a NEW will and UPDATE your advance care planning.
(2) Look into a durable power of attorney for legal matters and health care in case you are unable to make your own medical decisions in the future.
(3) Put JOINT property (such as a house or car) in your name.
(4) Consider changes you may need to make to your health insurance as well as to your life, car, and homeownerโs insurance.
(5) Make a list of BILLS you will need to pay in the next few months, for example, your rent or mortgage; utilities such as electricity, water, and phone and internet services; insurance; and state and federal taxes.
*** Try NOT to "stress" and take 1 step at a time!
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โโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ๐ฅโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ It is OKAY to "hide" on those days/nights when YOU FEEL unable to deal with people.
With time YOU WILL be able to get out, spend time with family/friends.
Just let THEM KNOW and those who REALLY CARE will "respect" this much needed "time away" = they will still REACH OUT, but with NO pressure to see them (or talk to them).
I luv those THINKING ABOUT YOU texts from caring folks in my life. โโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ
Luv,
Nicole โโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ๐คโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ๐คโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ๐คโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ (Grief Forum)โโ
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โโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ๐กโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ PARENTS who lost their "other" half!!!
For those of us [I am one] who are parenting on OUR OWN, remember no matter how old our children are - THEY NEED US.
So take care of yourself (medical appointments, sleep, eat, hydrate and so on) FOR THEM. โโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ
Luv,
Nicole โโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ โโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ๐คโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ๐คโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ๐คโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ (Grief Forum)
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โโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ๐ฃโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ Creating a NEW LIFE AFTER A LOSS is not easy, but we will ONE STEP AT A TIME.
Sometimes in life WE NEED TO TAKE A STEP BACKWARD.
Why?
WE may have thought we had a SOLUTION to an "issue" only to find it IT WAS NOT A FIT.
It is okay. You got out there dear friend(s) INSTEAD OF STAYING IN BED sleeping your life away.
It is OKAY to "step backwards" to REGROUP & TRY AGAIN when you are ready.
Luv,
Nicole โโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ๐คโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ๐คโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ๐คโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ (Grief Forum)
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โโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ๐โโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ Grief CHANGES You!!!
Grief may alter your perspective on life, priorities, and beliefs.
*** Sometimes it "reminds" us to make time for the people we CARE about TODAY (who are still alive). Tomorrow is NOT "promised" to any of us. Yes, GRIEVE for the one you lost but MAKE TIME for the ones YOU CARE about who are STILL LIVING. Nicole โโโโโ๐คโโโโโโโโโโ๐โโโโโโโโโโ๐โโโโโ
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RUSHING or IGNORING Grief!!!
Do not force yourself to get over it quickly. Grief has no timeline, and suppressing it can make it RESURFACE later in DESTRUCTIVE ways.
โโโโโโโโก๏ธโโโโโโโ[*** Let things "fall in place" as you EXPERIENCE your grief. Feeling EACH emotion helps with our HEALING. It takes time & patience my friend. You will SURVIVE!!! Luv, Nicole โโโโ๐โโโโโโโโ๐คโโโโ
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โโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโป๏ธโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ A place to share and support EACH OTHER with comments. โโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ โโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ๐คโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ
What is going on in YOUR LIFE? โโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ โโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ๐คโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ
WE share OUR JOURNEY while grieving & after grieving. Some of us are still grieving AFTER losing our luv one(s) YEARS AGO. Grief has NO schedule & TOGETHER we will make it. โโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ โโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ๐โโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ
Some days we have a "chuckle" at what a member posts.
Some days "tears" are in our eyes.
Other days we are doing a HAPPY DANCE WITH THEM as they get STRONGER on their journey.
YOU got this. โโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ๐โโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ
Members "helping" members!!!
Grief & Loss Team โโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ๐คโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ โโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ
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๐ค Good Morning!!! What "step" are you taking TODAY? Steps "help" us to arrive at our DESTINATIONS (finding peace of mind & courage while grieving). โก๏ธ[*** Mine is the DREADED "Dental Cleaning". Lol, have to keep what teeth I have left at age 67. Nicole ๐๐ค
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โโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ๐ดโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ Wishing Everyone REST when they head to bed TONIGHT!!!
Yes, those "sleepless" nights are a CHALLENGE but know that with TIME, they will "decrease". โโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ๐โโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ
โโโโโโโก๏ธโโโโโโ[*** And on those SLEEPLESS nights, stop by if you need to chat or just someone to listen to you. Trust me, one of us are ALSO up = NOT able to sleep = Members Supporting Members. โโโโโโ๐โโโโโโ
You got this my friend!!!
Luv,
Nicole โโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ๐คโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ๐โโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ
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โโโโโโโโโโโ๐โโโโโโโโโโโโโ CAT OWNERS, our babies are "missing" our luv one just as much as we are.
So try to make some EXTRA time to "cuddle" with them.
TOGETHER you will BOTH "move" forward the best you can.
*** Mister, my cat along with my "only" child (a daughter in a different state from me) are MY REASONS for "creating" ways to MOVE FORWARD. Find yours!!!
Nicole โโโโ๐โโโโโโโโ๐คโโโโ
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โโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ๐โโโโโโโโ DOG OWNERS, a "daily" walk will help BOTH of you with "missing" your luv one. Yes, pets do "grieve" like we do.
And the "exercise" will aid with sleeping at nights.
*** A GREAT way to "connect" with OTHER dog owners & "possible" NEW friends.
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โโโโโโโโโโ๐โโโโโโโโโโ Remember to "pat" YOURSELF on YOUR back "everytime" you do 1 step.
Why?
So many times WE donot realize that 1 step is COURAGE.
Courage to "pick" ourselves up after OUR world fell apart from OUR GRIEF.
You got this!!!
Luv,
Nicole โโโโโโโโโโ๐โโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ๐คโโโโโโโโโโ (Grief Forum)
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โโโ๐ฃโโโ Maybe "reading" the posts in this AARP Grief & Loss Forum "may" help you! READING what OTHER grievers have POSTED has "helped" me with my journey of healing & creating a new life without my luv one.
Why does it "help"? โโโ๐คโโโ
On those "sleepless" nights or mornings I CANNOT get out of bed - reading how OTHERS are doing "reminds" me I am NOT alone.
Thank you SO MUCH for "sharing" & keep stepping โโโ๐ฃโโโ the "best" you can each day/night. EACH "step" brings us COMFORT & PEACE my friends. โโโ๐โโโ
Luv,
Nicole โโโ๐คโโโโโโ๐โโโ
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Finding STRENGTH in Your NEXT CHAPTER!!!
Healing from heartbreak does not mean forgetting your loss. It means learning to move forward in a way that HONORS what you have experienced while strengthening your ability to live fully. Grief changes us, but it can also deepen our empathy, STRENGTHEN our resilience, and help us rediscover what matters most.
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โโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ๐กโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ The EXPERTS tell us to WAIT before making Housing Decisions!!!
Why?
While WE ARE GRIEVING, sometimes we tend to make "decisions" based on OUR EMOTIONS.
We want the "memories" to NOT hurt!!!
Maybe "step away" from YOUR Housing Setup & stay with family/friends.
Use THIS TIME to deal with the stuff that CANNOT WAIT.
Then REVISIT the Housing Topic.
Some of us stayed put & made changes.
Some of us downsized as finances had changed.
Some of us relocated to be near to family.
DO WHAT WORKS FOR YOU ALWAYS.
Grief & Loss Team โโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ๐คโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ
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โโโโโโโโโ๐โโโโโโโโโโโโโ There will be GOOD & BAD days!!!
You may feel guilty or surprised for LAUGHING at a joke or ENJOYING a visit with a friend.
It is important to understand that these can be COMMON feelings.
*** OUR "emotions" are a part of OUR journey moving forward WHILE GRIEVING.
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โโโโโโโโโโโโโโก๏ธโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ[*** PLAN AHEAD for grief โtriggers".
Anniversaries, holidays, and important milestones can reawaken painful memories and feelings. BE PREPARED for an emotional wallop, and know that itโs completely normal. You can plan ahead by making sure that youโre not alone, for example, or by marking your loss in a creative way.
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โโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ๐โโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ GOOD Morning Everyone!!!
Another "day" for us to get out of bed, "believing" somehow WE WILL survive while grieving.
Stop by when you can to let us know how you are doing.
Remember to GET BACK UP everytime you fall (stay in bed,depressed,crying and so on).
EVERY TIME you do so = makes you a SURVIVOR.
Someone who "survived" a loss.
Someone who is "creating" a life without someone they cared about.
Keep "stepping" my friend.
I am "thinking" about YOU TODAY!!!
Nicole โโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ๐คโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ๐โโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ
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โโโ๐โโโ Birthdays, anniversaries or holidays can trigger intense feelings of GRIEF.
It may help to mark these occasions with a SIMPLE CEREMONY like:
(1) Lighting a candle.
(2) Playing music.
(3) Gathering with family.
*** Do what brings you COMFORT!
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โโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ๐คโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ SIGNS from love ones we lost!!!
A source of COMFORT on those days/nights when we NEED IT.
(1) Timing: SIGNS often appear when they are most needed, such as on anniversaries, birthdays, or in moments of distress, according to a blogger at O'Connor Mortuary.
(2) Intuition: They are described as giving a sense of peace, love, or comfort, rather than fear.
(3) Directness: They often feel too specific to be coincidences, appearing personal to the relationship you shared.
*** When we get "quiet" (relax, meditate) & "believe" - they will contact us! โโโ๐โโโ
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GROUP DISCUSSION!!!
What is "comforting" you in the midst of YOUR grief?
โโก๏ธโ[*** While I still have my SAD days & nights, as I travel towards PEACE & COMFORT = I have "less" tears. I think I will ALWAYS have "tears" when I think about losing them but as EACH day & night "unfolds", I WELCOME it "trusting" somehow I will get through it. โ๐โ
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โโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโก๏ธโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ[*** What is a Grief JAR?
A grief jar is a PHYSICAL CONTAINER, such as a jar, box, or vase, that you use to COLLECT and acknowledge your emotions during times of grief and loss. It serves as a REMINDER of your feelings and experiences, allowing you to connect, express and process your emotions safely and intentionally. This can give some COMFORT during an overwhelming time.
[1] Write Your Thoughts and Feelings:
Whenever you feel overwhelmed by emotions, take a moment to write down your thoughts and feelings on a small piece of paper. It could be a memory, a message to your loved one, or simply a reflection on your grief journey.
[2] Place Your Notes in the Jar:
Fold your notes and place them gently into your grief jar. Each note represents a piece of your heart and soul, allowing you to release and honor your emotions tangibly. You can revisit these notes whenever you feel the need to connect with your feelings.
[3] Visit Your Grief Jar as often as you can:
Try to make it a habit to check in with your grief jar regularly. Take time to reflect on your notes, acknowledge your emotions, and offer yourself compassion and understanding.
*** Of course YOU can "adjust" all of this to what works for YOU.
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โโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ๐กโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ Strategies and Tips for Grieving!
CONNECT with people.
WE may NOT be ready to "interact" with people = connect in a way that works for you.
(1) Maybe just "smiling" when we are out on errands. Some people may ignore us, but others will "smile" back.
(2) Reconnect with friends & family as you "feel" up to it. Maybe meet for coffee. This gets you out of your 4 walls. Yes, staying home feels safe for awhile.
You got this!!! โโโโโโ
Grief & Loss Team โโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ๐คโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ
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โโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ๐โโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ๐โโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ When YOU feel READY, go through your loved oneโs clothes and other personal items.
(1) Instead of parting with everything at once, you might make three piles: one to keep, one to give away, and one โnot sure.โ Ask your children or others to help.
(2) Think about setting aside items such as a special piece of clothing, watch, favorite book, or picture to give to your children or grandchildren as personal reminders of your loved one.
*** Do what feels right for you!!! โโโ๐โโโ
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โโโโโโโโโโโโโโ๐คโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ๐ดโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ NOT Sleeping At Nights?
Try to "nap" during the day.
Why?
Even a FEW MINUTES of "shut eye" will help with YOUR sadness. โโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ
Try NOT to "worry" on those SLEEPLESS NIGHTS. Just get up & find something to do. Then try again later.
Luv,
Nicole โโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ๐คโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ๐คโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ๐คโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ (Grief Forum)
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