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WE ARE SORRY about your loss ๐
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WE ARE SORRY about your loss ๐
THIS GROUP IS OPEN TO ALL GRIEVERS NO MATTER HOW LONG IT HAS BEEN [years,days].
To participate, click on reply button at bottom of this post. Enter your comment. Click on reply again.
Grief & Loss Team ๐ค
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โโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ๐คโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ SIGNS from love ones we lost!!!
A source of COMFORT on those days/nights when we NEED IT.
(1) Timing: SIGNS often appear when they are most needed, such as on anniversaries, birthdays, or in moments of distress, according to a blogger at O'Connor Mortuary.
(2) Intuition: They are described as giving a sense of peace, love, or comfort, rather than fear.
(3) Directness: They often feel too specific to be coincidences, appearing personal to the relationship you shared.
*** When we get "quiet" (relax, meditate) & "believe" - they will contact us! โโโ๐โโโ
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GROUP DISCUSSION!!!
What is "comforting" you in the midst of YOUR grief?
โโก๏ธโ[*** While I still have my SAD days & nights, as I travel towards PEACE & COMFORT = I have "less" tears. I think I will ALWAYS have "tears" when I think about losing them but as EACH day & night "unfolds", I WELCOME it "trusting" somehow I will get through it. โ๐โ
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โโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโก๏ธโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ[*** What is a Grief JAR?
A grief jar is a PHYSICAL CONTAINER, such as a jar, box, or vase, that you use to COLLECT and acknowledge your emotions during times of grief and loss. It serves as a REMINDER of your feelings and experiences, allowing you to connect, express and process your emotions safely and intentionally. This can give some COMFORT during an overwhelming time.
[1] Write Your Thoughts and Feelings:
Whenever you feel overwhelmed by emotions, take a moment to write down your thoughts and feelings on a small piece of paper. It could be a memory, a message to your loved one, or simply a reflection on your grief journey.
[2] Place Your Notes in the Jar:
Fold your notes and place them gently into your grief jar. Each note represents a piece of your heart and soul, allowing you to release and honor your emotions tangibly. You can revisit these notes whenever you feel the need to connect with your feelings.
[3] Visit Your Grief Jar as often as you can:
Try to make it a habit to check in with your grief jar regularly. Take time to reflect on your notes, acknowledge your emotions, and offer yourself compassion and understanding.
*** Of course YOU can "adjust" all of this to what works for YOU.
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โโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ๐กโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ Strategies and Tips for Grieving!
CONNECT with people.
WE may NOT be ready to "interact" with people = connect in a way that works for you.
(1) Maybe just "smiling" when we are out on errands. Some people may ignore us, but others will "smile" back.
(2) Reconnect with friends & family as you "feel" up to it. Maybe meet for coffee. This gets you out of your 4 walls. Yes, staying home feels safe for awhile.
You got this!!! โโโโโโ
Grief & Loss Team โโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ๐คโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ
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โโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ๐โโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ๐โโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ When YOU feel READY, go through your loved oneโs clothes and other personal items.
(1) Instead of parting with everything at once, you might make three piles: one to keep, one to give away, and one โnot sure.โ Ask your children or others to help.
(2) Think about setting aside items such as a special piece of clothing, watch, favorite book, or picture to give to your children or grandchildren as personal reminders of your loved one.
*** Do what feels right for you!!! โโโ๐โโโ
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โโโโโโโโโโโโโโ๐คโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ๐ดโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ NOT Sleeping At Nights?
Try to "nap" during the day.
Why?
Even a FEW MINUTES of "shut eye" will help with YOUR sadness. โโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ
Try NOT to "worry" on those SLEEPLESS NIGHTS. Just get up & find something to do. Then try again later.
Luv,
Nicole โโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ๐คโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ๐คโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ๐คโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ (Grief Forum)
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โโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโป๏ธโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ SOME of us have been MEMBERS of this group for YEARS.
Over the YEARS, we stop by "when we can" to SHARE and also to SUPPORT other members.
This group is NOT only about grief & loss - it is about ALL areas of our lives that have been "affected" by our loss.
Support that NEVER ends.
So stop by when you can to see us.
โโโโโโโโโก๏ธโโโโโโโโ[*** Members "helping" members. ***]โโโโโโโโฌ ๏ธโโโโโโโ
Grief & Loss Team โโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ๐คโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ
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โโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ๐กโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ A Suggestion!!!
Explore YOUR area to find spots that may bring you COMFORT.
Some of us DREAD the old familiar hangouts we had with our luv ones.
Maybe one day WE will be able to visit them WITHOUT tears. But until then, EACH day maybe "act" like a TOURIST.
SO MANY possibilities out there.
SO MANY new friends to meet.
You got this!!! โโโโโโโโโโโโ
Luv,
Nicole โโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ๐คโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ๐คโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ๐คโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ (Grief Forum)โ
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โโโ๐โโโ โPeople you love never dieโฆ Not completely. They live in your MIND, the way they always lived inside you. You keep their light ALIVE. If you remember them well enough, they can still GUIDE you, like the shine of long-extinguished stars could guide ships in unfamiliar waters.โ โ MATT HAIG.
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โโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ๐คโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ โ On those days/nights when YOU wonder WHY you are still here???
*** YOU are still here for the folks who CARE ABOUT YOU (they are still alive)!!!
(1) So get out of bed EVERY DAY, hug them, tell them you CARE.
(2) This way when YOU ARE GONE, mixed in with THEIR GRIEVING will be GOOD MEMORIES.
(3) Parents [I am one] OUR KIDS [even adults] need their ONE PARENT - you.
Luv,
Nicole โโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ๐คโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ โโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ๐คโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ๐คโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ (Grief Forum)
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โโโโโโโ๐โโโโโโโ Group Members, stop by when you "feel" up to letting us know how you are doing. Our AARP Experts Amy @agoyer , Jane @JaneCares & OTHER members are here to "support" you (listen,chat,comfort). Our WELCOME MAT is "always" in front of our door for you guys. We are thinking about you TODAY/TONIGHT!
Grief & Loss Team โโโโโโโโโโ๐คโโโโโโโโโโ
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โ๐ฐโ Finances WHILE GRIEVING!!!
I don't know about you guys, but boy was I "blindsided" when I lost the luv of my life!!! โ๐ฑโ
We are used to TWO "handling" the finances, but got "bumped" to ONE.
(1) 1st, try NOT to panic. Easier said than done, I know!!!
(2) Deal with what needs to be done RIGHT NOW!!! Things like the cell phone bill, rent/mortgage, water, electric, internet - CALL them. Most will give you some "grace" with what you OWE or WILL OWE with the coming month.
(3) Let the folks who CARE about you KNOW what "financial" help you may need. A simple GIFTCARD or CASH to get groceries, gas, prescriptions are a lifeline.
(4) Then make a list of what is RELATED to "burying" or cremating your luv one. ALWAYS check to see what they may have. In my case I am paying on my FUTURE cremation. Started late at age 67, but glad I did. This way something is in place to "help" my only child.
(5) The main thing here is to have somewhere SAFE to live dear friend. No need to get "evicted" or foreclosed. So try NOT to wait to CONTACT the folks you OWE. Do this ASAP. โ๐โ
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โ๐โ If you are looking for local, in-person support groups or specialized professionals, consider reaching out to your primary care provider for a local behavioral health referral. Or contact a nearby bereavement center, which frequently offers community grief support programs.
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โโโโโโโโโโโโโ๐โโโโโโโโโโโโโ Make a MEMORY blanket, teddy or cushions out of YOUR loved onesโ clothes.
*** Something to "snuggle" up with on those "sleepless" nights or when the "tears" arrive. โ
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๐ฅ AARP hosts FREE virtual GRIEF & LOSS WEBINARS that are open to both members and NON-members. These Zoom-based sessions focus on coping with grief overload, managing the guilt of loss, and end-of-life planning. You can explore and register for these upcoming discussions on the AARP events page.
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โโโโ๐ดโโโโโโโโ๐ตโโโโ Grieving in OLD AGE is uniquely challenging due to accumulated loss โ often called BEREAVEMENT OVERLOAD. Itโs a whole-body experience extending beyond losing loved ones to include grief over declining health, independence, and shifting identities. Isolation worsens this, making ACTIVE SELF-CARE, community connection, and PROFESSIONAL SUPPORT absolutely vital.
โโโโก๏ธโโโ[*** If you know a Senior who is "grieving", please CHECK on them daily. If you are a Senior who is GRIEVING, please "reach out" to let the CARING folks in your life KNOW you need them. My daughter CHECKS on me daily. โโโ๐โโโโโโ๐คโโโ
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AARP Grief Resources for Loved Ones of Deceased AARP Members!
โโโโโโโโก๏ธโโโโโโโ[*** FROM THE WEBSITE.
We're here to help!
(1) AARP extends our deepest sympathies to you and your family for your loss. We have resources available to help you navigate this challenging time.
(2) To cancel or transfer the account, go to How To Notify AARP About a Deceased Member. They provide a link for this.
(3) USE LINK BELOW TO ACCESS ALL AARP INFO ON GRIEF!
*** Give it a little time to come up. NOT sure WHY it does this! ***
https://help.aarp.org/s/article/resources-for-loved-ones-of-deceased-members
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โ๐โ "When you experience LOSS, people say youโll move through the 5 stages of grief.
(1) Denial, (2) Anger, (3)Bargaining, (4) Depression, (5) Acceptance.
What they donโt tell you is that youโll CYCLE through them all every day." RANATA SUZUKI.
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โโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโป๏ธโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ Stop by to SHARE YOUR JOURNEY!!!
WE will ALWAYS leave a comment in response to YOUR POST. โโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ
Sharing "may" HELP with our healing and "may" also HELP another griever who stops by = members supporting members.
*** They will KNOW there are OTHERS out there and "may" find YOUR solutions to YOUR grief works for them. Thank you for CARING about others. โโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ โโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ
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๐ช While GRIEVING, it's important to spend time with SUPPORTIVE people to:
(1) Talk about how you are feeling.
(2) Accept offers of help.
(3) Simply be together.
โโก๏ธโ[*** Your support may come from a Support Group or Counselor. Try to find people who UNDERSTAND you.
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โโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโป๏ธโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ What are YOU dealing with at THE MOMENT? โโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ
NEVER feel ashamed about any challenges you are facing.
WE ALL will have them at some point of our lives.
*** Stop by to SHARE when you feel up to it and/or SUPPORT another griever (with a comment to their post). Members helping members. โโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ
We are ALWAYS here IF you need us (listen & chat & support).
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โโโโโโโโ๐คโโโโโโโโ๐โโโโ Because you are GRIEVING you may "feel" unable to "reply" to (support) ANOTHER GRIEVER here in the AARP Grief & Loss Forum.
But doing so (replying) has helped ALL of OUR GROUP members "feel" more in control of THEIR GRIEF.
Why?
Maybe because being a GRIEVER themselves = they know what TO SAY = comforting someone else "fills" THEIR INSIDES with "feeling" they have HELPED someone.
Thank you SO MUCH for stopping by when you can.
Grief & Loss Team!
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โโโ๐ฏโโโ If you have lost someone, HONORING their memory may help you process your emotions.
You can try:
(1) Collecting photos or keepsakes.
(2) Writing a letter to the person who died.
(3) Sharing stories and rituals with loved ones.
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LIVE IN THE MOMENT while grieving!!!
Right now is your chance to take 1 step towards MOVING FORWARD in "creating" a new life WITHOUT your luv one.
Yes, it hurts.
Yes, we maybe angry.
Yes, we have NO idea what the FUTURE holds for us as we travel through our GRIEF.
But RIGHT NOW, is an "opportunity" to either "give up" or continue to travel.
You got this my friend. โโโโโโโ๐โโโโโโโ
Luv,
Nicole โโโโโโโ๐คโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ๐คโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ๐คโโโโโโโ (Grief Forum)
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โโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโป๏ธโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ WELCOME!!!
While WE cannot bring back YOUR luv one, we do UNDERSTAND. โโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ
Why?
We too have lost luv ones and together we have "muddled" through the best we can.
Our Welcome Mat is ALWAYS there for YOU my friend.
Grief & Loss Team โโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ๐คโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ

