AARP Hearing Center
- AARP Online Community
- Games
- Games Talk
- Games Tips
- Leave a Game Tip
- Ask for a Game Tip
- AARP Rewards
- AARP Rewards Connect
- Earn Activities
- Redemption
- AARP Rewards Tips
- Ask for a Rewards Tip
- Leave a Rewards Tip
- Help
- Membership
- Benefits & Discounts
- General Help
- Caregiving
- Caregiving
- Grief & Loss
- Caregiving Tips
- Ask for a Caregiving Tip
- Leave a Caregiving Tip
- Entertainment Forums
- Rock N' Roll
- Leisure & Lifestyle
- Health Forums
- Brain Health
- Healthy Living
- Medicare & Insurance
- Health Tips
- Ask for a Health Tip
- Leave a Health Tip
- Home & Family Forums
- Friends & Family
- Introduce Yourself
- Our Front Porch
- Money Forums
- Budget & Savings
- Scams & Fraud
- Retirement Forum
- Retirement
- Social Security
- Technology Forums
- Computer Questions & Tips
- Travel Forums
- Destinations
- Work & Jobs
- Work & Jobs
- AARP Online Community
- Caregiving
- Grief & Loss
- Re: WE ARE SORRY about your loss ๐
WE ARE SORRY about your loss ๐
- Subscribe to RSS Feed
- Mark Topic as New
- Mark Topic as Read
- Float this Topic for Current User
- Bookmark
- Subscribe
- Printer Friendly Page
- Mark as New
- Bookmark
- Subscribe
- Mute
- Subscribe to RSS Feed
- Permalink
- Report
WE ARE SORRY about your loss ๐
THIS GROUP IS OPEN TO ALL GRIEVERS NO MATTER HOW LONG IT HAS BEEN [years,days].
To participate, click on reply button at bottom of this post. Enter your comment. Click on reply again.
Grief & Loss Team ๐ค
- Mark as New
- Bookmark
- Subscribe
- Mute
- Subscribe to RSS Feed
- Permalink
- Report
Allowing EMOTIONAL release: Cry, journal, talk, or use art to express feelings.
โโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโก๏ธโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ[*** Sometimes we may feel we are on a Rollercoaster Ride. But like those rides, we will have "opportunities" to get off our ride. TREASURE those "opportunities" & know with time we will have MORE "peaceful" moments. โโ
- Mark as New
- Bookmark
- Subscribe
- Mute
- Subscribe to RSS Feed
- Permalink
- Report
๐ช You might NEED to do these!!!
(1) Write a NEW will and UPDATE your advance care planning.
(2) Look into a durable power of attorney for legal matters and health care in case you are unable to make your own medical decisions in the future.
(3) Put JOINT property (such as a house or car) in your name.
(4) Consider changes you may need to make to your health insurance as well as to your life, car, and homeownerโs insurance.
(5) Make a list of BILLS you will need to pay in the next few months, for example, your rent or mortgage; utilities such as electricity, water, and phone and internet services; insurance; and state and federal taxes.
*** Try NOT to "stress" and take 1 step at a time!
- Mark as New
- Bookmark
- Subscribe
- Mute
- Subscribe to RSS Feed
- Permalink
- Report
โโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ๐ฅโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ It is OKAY to "hide" on those days/nights when YOU FEEL unable to deal with people.
With time YOU WILL be able to get out, spend time with family/friends.
Just let THEM KNOW and those who REALLY CARE will "respect" this much needed "time away" = they will still REACH OUT, but with NO pressure to see them (or talk to them).
I luv those THINKING ABOUT YOU texts from caring folks in my life. โโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ
Luv,
Nicole โโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ๐คโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ๐คโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ๐คโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ (Grief Forum)โโ
- Mark as New
- Bookmark
- Subscribe
- Mute
- Subscribe to RSS Feed
- Permalink
- Report
โโโโโโโโโ๐โโโโโโโโโ Remember to "pat" YOURSELF on YOUR back "everytime" you do 1 step.
Why?
So many times WE donot realize that 1 step is COURAGE.
Courage to "pick" ourselves up after OUR world fell apart from OUR GRIEF.
You got this!!!
Luv,
Nicole โโโโโโโโโ๐โโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ๐คโโโโโโโโโ (Grief Forum)
- Mark as New
- Bookmark
- Subscribe
- Mute
- Subscribe to RSS Feed
- Permalink
- Report
- Mark as New
- Bookmark
- Subscribe
- Mute
- Subscribe to RSS Feed
- Permalink
- Report
- Mark as New
- Bookmark
- Subscribe
- Mute
- Subscribe to RSS Feed
- Permalink
- Report
โโ๐ฃโโ Maybe "reading" the posts in this AARP Grief & Loss Forum "may" help you! READING what OTHER grievers have POSTED has "helped" me with my journey of healing & creating a new life without my luv one.
Why does it "help"? โโ๐คโโ
On those "sleepless" nights or mornings I CANNOT get out of bed - reading how OTHERS are doing "reminds" me I am NOT alone.
Thank you SO MUCH for "sharing" & keep stepping โโ๐ฃโโ the "best" you can each day/night. EACH "step" brings us COMFORT & PEACE my friends. โโ๐โโ
Luv,
Nicole โโ๐คโโโโ๐โโ
- Mark as New
- Bookmark
- Subscribe
- Mute
- Subscribe to RSS Feed
- Permalink
- Report
Finding STRENGTH in Your NEXT CHAPTER!!!
Healing from heartbreak does not mean forgetting your loss. It means learning to move forward in a way that HONORS what you have experienced while strengthening your ability to live fully. Grief changes us, but it can also deepen our empathy, STRENGTHEN our resilience, and help us rediscover what matters most.
- Mark as New
- Bookmark
- Subscribe
- Mute
- Subscribe to RSS Feed
- Permalink
- Report
โโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ๐กโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ PARENTS who lost their "other" half!!!
For those of us [I am one] who are parenting on OUR OWN, remember no matter how old our children are - THEY NEED US.
So take care of yourself (medical appointments, sleep, eat, hydrate and so on) FOR THEM. โโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ
Luv,
Nicole โโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ โโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ๐คโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ๐คโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ๐คโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ (Grief Forum)
- Mark as New
- Bookmark
- Subscribe
- Mute
- Subscribe to RSS Feed
- Permalink
- Report
โโโโโโโโ๐โโโโโโโโโโโโ There will be GOOD & BAD days!!!
You may feel guilty or surprised for LAUGHING at a joke or ENJOYING a visit with a friend.
It is important to understand that these can be COMMON feelings.
*** OUR "emotions" are a part of OUR journey moving forward WHILE GRIEVING.
- Mark as New
- Bookmark
- Subscribe
- Mute
- Subscribe to RSS Feed
- Permalink
- Report
โโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ๐ฃโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ Creating a NEW LIFE AFTER A LOSS is not easy, but we will ONE STEP AT A TIME.
Sometimes in life WE NEED TO TAKE A STEP BACKWARD.
Why?
WE may have thought we had a SOLUTION to an "issue" only to find it IT WAS NOT A FIT.
It is okay. You got out there dear friend(s) INSTEAD OF STAYING IN BED sleeping your life away.
It is OKAY to "step backwards" to REGROUP & TRY AGAIN when you are ready.
Luv,
Nicole โโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ๐คโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ๐คโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ๐คโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ (Grief Forum)
- Mark as New
- Bookmark
- Subscribe
- Mute
- Subscribe to RSS Feed
- Permalink
- Report
โโโโโโโโโโโโโโ๐โโโโโโโโโโโโโโ Grief CHANGES You!!!
Grief may alter your perspective on life, priorities, and beliefs.
*** Sometimes it "reminds" us to make time for the people we CARE about TODAY (who are still alive). Tomorrow is NOT "promised" to any of us. Yes, GRIEVE for the one you lost but MAKE TIME for the ones YOU CARE about who are STILL LIVING. Nicole โโโโ๐คโโโโโโโโ๐โโโโโโโโ๐โโโโ
- Mark as New
- Bookmark
- Subscribe
- Mute
- Subscribe to RSS Feed
- Permalink
- Report
RUSHING or IGNORING Grief!!!
Do not force yourself to get over it quickly. Grief has no timeline, and suppressing it can make it RESURFACE later in DESTRUCTIVE ways.
โโโโโโโก๏ธโโโโโโ[*** Let things "fall in place" as you EXPERIENCE your grief. Feeling EACH emotion helps with our HEALING. It takes time & patience my friend. You will SURVIVE!!! Luv, Nicole โโโ๐โโโโโโ๐คโโโ
- Mark as New
- Bookmark
- Subscribe
- Mute
- Subscribe to RSS Feed
- Permalink
- Report
GROUP DISCUSSION!!!
What is "conforting" you in the midst of YOUR grief?
โก๏ธ[*** While I still have my SAD days & nights, as I travel towards PEACE & COMFORT = I have "less" tears. I think I will ALWAYS have "tears" when I think about losing them but as EACH day & night "unfolds", I WELCOME it "trusting" somehow I will get through it. ๐
- Mark as New
- Bookmark
- Subscribe
- Mute
- Subscribe to RSS Feed
- Permalink
- Report
โโ๐โโ โPeople you love never dieโฆ Not completely. They live in your MIND, the way they always lived inside you. You keep their light ALIVE. If you remember them well enough, they can still GUIDE you, like the shine of long-extinguished stars could guide ships in unfamiliar waters.โ โ MATT HAIG.
- Mark as New
- Bookmark
- Subscribe
- Mute
- Subscribe to RSS Feed
- Permalink
- Report
โโโโ๐ฃโโโโ Did YOU take a step today/tonight? Stop by to tell us about YOUR step(s).
โโโโโก๏ธโโโโ[*** Keep stepping to a NEW life everyone. One we will ALWAYS "miss & remember" the people we lost - but HONORING them with seeking ways to MOVE FORWARD.
You got this my friends!!!
Luv,
Nicole (Grief Forum) โโโโ๐คโโโโโโโโ๐คโโโโโโโโ๐คโโโโ
- Mark as New
- Bookmark
- Subscribe
- Mute
- Subscribe to RSS Feed
- Permalink
- Report
โโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโป๏ธโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ WELCOME!!!
While WE cannot bring back YOUR luv one, we do UNDERSTAND. โโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ
Why?
We too have lost luv ones and together we have "muddled" through the best we can.
Our Welcome Mat is ALWAYS there for YOU my friend.
Grief & Loss Team โโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ๐คโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ
- Mark as New
- Bookmark
- Subscribe
- Mute
- Subscribe to RSS Feed
- Permalink
- Report
โโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโก๏ธโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ[*** What is a Grief JAR?
A grief jar is a PHYSICAL CONTAINER, such as a jar, box, or vase, that you use to COLLECT and acknowledge your emotions during times of grief and loss. It serves as a REMINDER of your feelings and experiences, allowing you to connect, express and process your emotions safely and intentionally. This can give some COMFORT during an overwhelming time.
[1] Write Your Thoughts and Feelings:
Whenever you feel overwhelmed by emotions, take a moment to write down your thoughts and feelings on a small piece of paper. It could be a memory, a message to your loved one, or simply a reflection on your grief journey.
[2] Place Your Notes in the Jar:
Fold your notes and place them gently into your grief jar. Each note represents a piece of your heart and soul, allowing you to release and honor your emotions tangibly. You can revisit these notes whenever you feel the need to connect with your feelings.
[3] Visit Your Grief Jar as often as you can:
Try to make it a habit to check in with your grief jar regularly. Take time to reflect on your notes, acknowledge your emotions, and offer yourself compassion and understanding.
*** Of course YOU can "adjust" all of this to what works for YOU.
- Mark as New
- Bookmark
- Subscribe
- Mute
- Subscribe to RSS Feed
- Permalink
- Report
โโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ๐กโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ Strategies and Tips for Grieving!
CONNECT with people.
WE may NOT be ready to "interact" with people = connect in a way that works for you.
(1) Maybe just "smiling" when we are out on errands. Some people may ignore us, but others will "smile" back.
(2) Reconnect with friends & family as you "feel" up to it. Maybe meet for coffee. This gets you out of your 4 walls. Yes, staying home feels safe for awhile.
You got this!!! โโโโโโ
Grief & Loss Team โโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ๐คโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ
- Mark as New
- Bookmark
- Subscribe
- Mute
- Subscribe to RSS Feed
- Permalink
- Report
โโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ๐โโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ๐โโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ When YOU feel READY, go through your loved oneโs clothes and other personal items.
(1) Instead of parting with everything at once, you might make three piles: one to keep, one to give away, and one โnot sure.โ Ask your children or others to help.
(2) Think about setting aside items such as a special piece of clothing, watch, favorite book, or picture to give to your children or grandchildren as personal reminders of your loved one.
*** Do what feels right for you!!! โโ๐โโ
- Mark as New
- Bookmark
- Subscribe
- Mute
- Subscribe to RSS Feed
- Permalink
- Report
โโโโโโโโโโโโโ๐คโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ๐ดโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ NOT Sleeping At Nights?
Try to "nap" during the day.
Why?
Even a FEW MINUTES of "shut eye" will help with YOUR sadness. โโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ
Try NOT to "worry" on those SLEEPLESS NIGHTS. Just get up & find something to do. Then try again later.
Luv,
Nicole โโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ๐คโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ๐คโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ๐คโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ (Grief Forum)
- Mark as New
- Bookmark
- Subscribe
- Mute
- Subscribe to RSS Feed
- Permalink
- Report
โโโโโโโโ๐โโโโโโโโ GOOD morning!!!
Another "day" for us to get out of bed, "believing" somehow WE WILL survive while grieving.
Stop by when you can to let us know how you are doing.
Remember to GET BACK UP everytime you fall (stay in bed,depressed,crying and so on).
EVERY TIME you do so = makes you a SURVIVOR.
Someone who "survived" a loss.
Someone who is "creating" a life without someone they cared about.
Keep "stepping" my friend.
I am "thinking" about YOU TODAY!!!
Nicole โโโโโโโโ๐คโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ๐โโโโโโโโ
- Mark as New
- Bookmark
- Subscribe
- Mute
- Subscribe to RSS Feed
- Permalink
- Report
โโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ๐กโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ A Suggestion!!!
Explore YOUR area to find spots that may bring you COMFORT.
Some of us DREAD the old familiar hangouts we had with our luv ones.
Maybe one day WE will be able to visit them WITHOUT tears. But until then, EACH day maybe "act" like a TOURIST.
SO MANY possibilities out there.
SO MANY new friends to meet.
You got this!!! โโโโโโโโโโโโ
Luv,
Nicole โโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ๐คโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ๐คโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ๐คโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ (Grief Forum)โ
- Mark as New
- Bookmark
- Subscribe
- Mute
- Subscribe to RSS Feed
- Permalink
- Report
โโโโโโโ๐ดโโโโโโโ Wishing Everyone REST when they head to bed TONIGHT!!!
Yes, those "sleepless" nights are a CHALLENGE but know that with TIME, they will "decrease". โโโโโโโ๐โโโโโโโ
You got this my friend!!!
Luv,
Nicole โโโโโโโ๐คโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ๐โโโโโโโ
- Mark as New
- Bookmark
- Subscribe
- Mute
- Subscribe to RSS Feed
- Permalink
- Report
โโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ๐คโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ โ On those days/nights when YOU wonder WHY you are still here???
*** YOU are still here for the folks who CARE ABOUT YOU (they are still alive)!!!
(1) So get out of bed EVERY DAY, hug them, tell them you CARE.
(2) This way when YOU ARE GONE, mixed in with THEIR GRIEVING will be GOOD MEMORIES.
(3) Parents [I am one] OUR KIDS [even adults] need their ONE PARENT - you.
Luv,
Nicole โโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ๐คโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ โโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ๐คโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ๐คโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ (Grief Forum)
- Mark as New
- Bookmark
- Subscribe
- Mute
- Subscribe to RSS Feed
- Permalink
- Report
โโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ๐ฏโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ DECISIONS that often cause people distress!!!
*** Please "take your time" with these decisions & deal with life the "best" YOU CAN. โโโโโโโโโโโ๐โโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ๐คโโโโโโโโโโโ
(1) When to SORT through their loved one's belongings.
(2) Whether or not to take OFF their wedding ring.
(3) When to RETURN to work.
(4) How often to VISIT the cemetery.
(5) Whether or not to SELL or move.
- Mark as New
- Bookmark
- Subscribe
- Mute
- Subscribe to RSS Feed
- Permalink
- Report
โโโโโโ๐ฃโโโโโโ Did YOU take a step TODAY/TONIGHT? Tell us about YOUR STEP!!!
Sometimes it maybe a half a step (not quite where we hoped to be, but you TRIED). โโโโโโ๐โโโโโโ
Those half steps do "help" with moving past your grief = finding peace & comfort.
*** EVERYONE'S step will be DIFFERENT. For some of us, just "getting" out of bed is a CHALLENGE. Celebrate that step when YOU DO!!! And keep on "stepping" IF you can into a DAY/NIGHT FULL OF "possible" comfort & peace. You got this my friend!!! โโโโโ๐โโโโโ
Grief & Loss Team โโโโโโ๐คโโโโโโ
- Mark as New
- Bookmark
- Subscribe
- Mute
- Subscribe to RSS Feed
- Permalink
- Report
- Mark as New
- Bookmark
- Subscribe
- Mute
- Subscribe to RSS Feed
- Permalink
- Report
โโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ๏ธ Myth:
Grieving should last about a YEAR.
โโโโโโโโโโโโโโ โโโโโโโโโโโโโ๏ธ Fact:
There is NO specific time frame for grieving. How long it takes DIFFERS from person to person.

