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- WE ARE SORRY about your loss ๐
WE ARE SORRY about your loss ๐
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WE ARE SORRY about your loss ๐
THIS GROUP IS OPEN TO ALL GRIEVERS NO MATTER HOW LONG IT HAS BEEN [years,days].
To participate, click on reply button at bottom of this post. Enter your comment. Click on reply again.
Grief & Loss Team ๐ค
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โโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโป๏ธโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ Yes, YOU posted when YOU 1st lost someone YOU cared about.
But WE would luv to "hear" from you AGAIN!!!
OUR GROUP is about OUR journeys as WE "figure" out our NEXT step.
Sometimes WE stop by to SHARE some good news or a decision WE finally made.
And it is ALWAYS awesome when "Members Support Members" = YOU KNOW how you felt when you first lost someone. Thank you SO MUCH for our "supporters". There is something SPECIAL when we support others in the midst of OUR GRIEF.
So stop by, say hi and let us know how you are doing. WE are "family" here.
Grief & Loss Team โโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ๐คโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ
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Expert Webinars: AARP frequently hosts FREE "online" events focusing on specific MOURNING challenges which is free and open to non-members.
โโโโโโก๏ธโโโโโ[*** We post these for your convenience with LINKS TO REGISTER. These take place EVERY MONTH during the week.
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โโโ๐ดโโโโโโ๐ตโโโ Grieving in OLD AGE is uniquely challenging due to accumulated loss โ often called BEREAVEMENT OVERLOAD. Itโs a whole-body experience extending beyond losing loved ones to include grief over declining health, independence, and shifting identities. Isolation worsens this, making ACTIVE SELF-CARE, community connection, and PROFESSIONAL SUPPORT absolutely vital.
โโโก๏ธโโ[*** If you know a Senior who is "grieving", please CHECK on them daily. If you are a Senior who is GRIEVING, please "reach out" to let the CARING folks in your life KNOW you need them. My daughter CHECKS on me daily. โโ๐โโโโ๐คโโ
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โโโโโโโโโ๐โโโโโโโโโ GOOD morning!!!
Another "day" for us to get out of bed, "believing" somehow WE WILL survive while grieving.
Stop by when you can to let us know how you are doing.
Remember to GET BACK UP everytime you fall (stay in bed,depressed,crying and so on).
EVERY TIME you do so = makes you a SURVIVOR.
Someone who "survived" a loss.
Someone who is "creating" a life without someone they cared about.
Keep "stepping" my friend.
I am "thinking" about YOU TODAY!!!
Nicole โโโโโโโโโ๐คโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ๐โโโโโโโโโ
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โโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโป๏ธโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ A place to share and support EACH OTHER with comments. โโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ โโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ๐คโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ
What is going on in YOUR LIFE? โโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ โโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ๐คโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ
WE share OUR JOURNEY while grieving & after grieving. Some of us are still grieving AFTER losing our luv one(s) YEARS AGO. Grief has NO schedule & TOGETHER we will make it. โโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ โโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ๐โโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ
Some days we have a "chuckle" at what a member posts.
Some days "tears" are in our eyes.
Other days we are doing a HAPPY DANCE WITH THEM as they get STRONGER on their journey.
YOU got this. โโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ๐โโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ
Members "helping" members!!!
Grief & Loss Team โโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ๐คโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ โโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ
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โโโโโโโโ๐ดโโโโโโโโ Wishing Everyone REST when they head to bed TONIGHT!!!
Yes, those "sleepless" nights are a CHALLENGE but know that with TIME, they will "decrease". โโโโโโโโ๐โโโโโโโโ
You got this my friend!!!
Luv,
Nicole โโโโโโโโ๐คโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ๐โโโโโโโโ
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๐ชง Life after loss isn't about "moving on" or forgetting. It is a continuous process of rebuilding your identity, establishing new routines, and finding pockets of joy. Healing happens in small, steady steps, and it's completely normal to feel a shift in your priorities and perspectives.
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AARP Grief Resources for Loved Ones of Deceased AARP Members!
โโโโโโโก๏ธโโโโโโ[*** FROM THE WEBSITE.
We're here to help!
(1) AARP extends our deepest sympathies to you and your family for your loss. We have resources available to help you navigate this challenging time.
(2) To cancel or transfer the account, go to How To Notify AARP About a Deceased Member. They provide a link for this.
(3) USE LINK BELOW TO ACCESS ALL AARP INFO ON GRIEF!
*** Give it a little time to come up. NOT sure WHY it does this! ***
https://help.aarp.org/s/article/resources-for-loved-ones-of-deceased-members
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Allowing EMOTIONAL release: Cry, journal, talk, or use art to express feelings.
โโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโก๏ธโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ[*** Sometimes we may feel we are on a Rollercoaster Ride. But like those rides, we will have "opportunities" to get off our ride. TREASURE those "opportunities" & know with time we will have MORE "peaceful" moments. โโ
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๐ช You might NEED to do these!!!
(1) Write a NEW will and UPDATE your advance care planning.
(2) Look into a durable power of attorney for legal matters and health care in case you are unable to make your own medical decisions in the future.
(3) Put JOINT property (such as a house or car) in your name.
(4) Consider changes you may need to make to your health insurance as well as to your life, car, and homeownerโs insurance.
(5) Make a list of BILLS you will need to pay in the next few months, for example, your rent or mortgage; utilities such as electricity, water, and phone and internet services; insurance; and state and federal taxes.
*** Try NOT to "stress" and take 1 step at a time!
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โโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ๐ฅโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ It is OKAY to "hide" on those days/nights when YOU FEEL unable to deal with people.
With time YOU WILL be able to get out, spend time with family/friends.
Just let THEM KNOW and those who REALLY CARE will "respect" this much needed "time away" = they will still REACH OUT, but with NO pressure to see them (or talk to them).
I luv those THINKING ABOUT YOU texts from caring folks in my life. โโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ
Luv,
Nicole โโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ๐คโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ๐คโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ๐คโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ (Grief Forum)โโ
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โโโโโโโโโ๐โโโโโโโโโ Remember to "pat" YOURSELF on YOUR back "everytime" you do 1 step.
Why?
So many times WE donot realize that 1 step is COURAGE.
Courage to "pick" ourselves up after OUR world fell apart from OUR GRIEF.
You got this!!!
Luv,
Nicole โโโโโโโโโ๐โโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ๐คโโโโโโโโโ (Grief Forum)
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โโ๐ฃโโ Maybe "reading" the posts in this AARP Grief & Loss Forum "may" help you! READING what OTHER grievers have POSTED has "helped" me with my journey of healing & creating a new life without my luv one.
Why does it "help"? โโ๐คโโ
On those "sleepless" nights or mornings I CANNOT get out of bed - reading how OTHERS are doing "reminds" me I am NOT alone.
Thank you SO MUCH for "sharing" & keep stepping โโ๐ฃโโ the "best" you can each day/night. EACH "step" brings us COMFORT & PEACE my friends. โโ๐โโ
Luv,
Nicole โโ๐คโโโโ๐โโ
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Finding STRENGTH in Your NEXT CHAPTER!!!
Healing from heartbreak does not mean forgetting your loss. It means learning to move forward in a way that HONORS what you have experienced while strengthening your ability to live fully. Grief changes us, but it can also deepen our empathy, STRENGTHEN our resilience, and help us rediscover what matters most.
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โโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ๐กโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ PARENTS who lost their "other" half!!!
For those of us [I am one] who are parenting on OUR OWN, remember no matter how old our children are - THEY NEED US.
So take care of yourself (medical appointments, sleep, eat, hydrate and so on) FOR THEM. โโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ
Luv,
Nicole โโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ โโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ๐คโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ๐คโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ๐คโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ (Grief Forum)
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โโโโโโโโ๐โโโโโโโโโโโโ There will be GOOD & BAD days!!!
You may feel guilty or surprised for LAUGHING at a joke or ENJOYING a visit with a friend.
It is important to understand that these can be COMMON feelings.
*** OUR "emotions" are a part of OUR journey moving forward WHILE GRIEVING.
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โโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ๐ฃโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ Creating a NEW LIFE AFTER A LOSS is not easy, but we will ONE STEP AT A TIME.
Sometimes in life WE NEED TO TAKE A STEP BACKWARD.
Why?
WE may have thought we had a SOLUTION to an "issue" only to find it IT WAS NOT A FIT.
It is okay. You got out there dear friend(s) INSTEAD OF STAYING IN BED sleeping your life away.
It is OKAY to "step backwards" to REGROUP & TRY AGAIN when you are ready.
Luv,
Nicole โโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ๐คโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ๐คโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ๐คโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ (Grief Forum)
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โโโโโโโโโโโโโโ๐โโโโโโโโโโโโโโ Grief CHANGES You!!!
Grief may alter your perspective on life, priorities, and beliefs.
*** Sometimes it "reminds" us to make time for the people we CARE about TODAY (who are still alive). Tomorrow is NOT "promised" to any of us. Yes, GRIEVE for the one you lost but MAKE TIME for the ones YOU CARE about who are STILL LIVING. Nicole โโโโ๐คโโโโโโโโ๐โโโโโโโโ๐โโโโ
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RUSHING or IGNORING Grief!!!
Do not force yourself to get over it quickly. Grief has no timeline, and suppressing it can make it RESURFACE later in DESTRUCTIVE ways.
โโโโโโโก๏ธโโโโโโ[*** Let things "fall in place" as you EXPERIENCE your grief. Feeling EACH emotion helps with our HEALING. It takes time & patience my friend. You will SURVIVE!!! Luv, Nicole โโโ๐โโโโโโ๐คโโโ
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GROUP DISCUSSION!!!
What is "conforting" you in the midst of YOUR grief?
โก๏ธ[*** While I still have my SAD days & nights, as I travel towards PEACE & COMFORT = I have "less" tears. I think I will ALWAYS have "tears" when I think about losing them but as EACH day & night "unfolds", I WELCOME it "trusting" somehow I will get through it. ๐
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โโ๐โโ โPeople you love never dieโฆ Not completely. They live in your MIND, the way they always lived inside you. You keep their light ALIVE. If you remember them well enough, they can still GUIDE you, like the shine of long-extinguished stars could guide ships in unfamiliar waters.โ โ MATT HAIG.
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โโโโ๐ฃโโโโ Did YOU take a step today/tonight? Stop by to tell us about YOUR step(s).
โโโโโก๏ธโโโโ[*** Keep stepping to a NEW life everyone. One we will ALWAYS "miss & remember" the people we lost - but HONORING them with seeking ways to MOVE FORWARD.
You got this my friends!!!
Luv,
Nicole (Grief Forum) โโโโ๐คโโโโโโโโ๐คโโโโโโโโ๐คโโโโ
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โโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโป๏ธโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ WELCOME!!!
While WE cannot bring back YOUR luv one, we do UNDERSTAND. โโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ
Why?
We too have lost luv ones and together we have "muddled" through the best we can.
Our Welcome Mat is ALWAYS there for YOU my friend.
Grief & Loss Team โโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ๐คโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ
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โโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโก๏ธโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ[*** What is a Grief JAR?
A grief jar is a PHYSICAL CONTAINER, such as a jar, box, or vase, that you use to COLLECT and acknowledge your emotions during times of grief and loss. It serves as a REMINDER of your feelings and experiences, allowing you to connect, express and process your emotions safely and intentionally. This can give some COMFORT during an overwhelming time.
[1] Write Your Thoughts and Feelings:
Whenever you feel overwhelmed by emotions, take a moment to write down your thoughts and feelings on a small piece of paper. It could be a memory, a message to your loved one, or simply a reflection on your grief journey.
[2] Place Your Notes in the Jar:
Fold your notes and place them gently into your grief jar. Each note represents a piece of your heart and soul, allowing you to release and honor your emotions tangibly. You can revisit these notes whenever you feel the need to connect with your feelings.
[3] Visit Your Grief Jar as often as you can:
Try to make it a habit to check in with your grief jar regularly. Take time to reflect on your notes, acknowledge your emotions, and offer yourself compassion and understanding.
*** Of course YOU can "adjust" all of this to what works for YOU.
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โโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ๐กโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ Strategies and Tips for Grieving!
CONNECT with people.
WE may NOT be ready to "interact" with people = connect in a way that works for you.
(1) Maybe just "smiling" when we are out on errands. Some people may ignore us, but others will "smile" back.
(2) Reconnect with friends & family as you "feel" up to it. Maybe meet for coffee. This gets you out of your 4 walls. Yes, staying home feels safe for awhile.
You got this!!! โโโโโโ
Grief & Loss Team โโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ๐คโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโโ

