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Two cautions re passings.
We had a friend who experienced the passing of three close relatives in one year. The stress from the grief was so severe, that he became extremely ill, had to go to the hospital and almost lost his eyesight (from some kind of profound infection from the illness he had).
If you experience profound loss, please consider taking a bit of counseling for awhile.
The second caution is a bit unusual. I saw a friend a few days after my father passed. He said to me, "Be careful driving." I said, "What? What did you say?" He said, "Be careful driving." I thought he was nuts.
Later that day, sure enough, I ran a red light and almost killed myself.
Apparently, grief has some kind of side effect that it powerful absorbs your thinking...and, I guess your concentration level can slip. I would not have believed this until I experienced it myself.
Sorry for everyone's losses.
Take care.
Thank you, John, for sharing these important cautions. It really helps to bring these out in the open, particularly the risks of driving. I experienced that myself and also almost killed myself, in addition to "constructively" totaling the car. Very few people empathize. and in fact, I have been ridiculed and laughed at by many in my church, neighbors and so-called friends. My Grief Counselor at the time confirmed that those who just lost a loved one seem to have more car accidents and there are studies to prove that. What to do? Like everything else on this seemingly never-ending grief experience, do what feels right for you. Don't let others rush you in a potentially future dangerous situation. Take your time, take a deep breath, and be your own best friend and caregiver. You will find your way in time. Thanks for sharing, Sue
Sue, I just saw your post. In response to John about caution. I am sorry Sue, especially for the ridicule of others. How insensitive since you could have been seriously hurt or worse. Grieving affects people in so many ways. I don't drive distances any more. It's too much. If the family wants me at their houses I appreciate them picking me up. I drive short distances now. Grief is a tricky business. Hits at odd times. But it seems like we always carry it with us, which of course feels upsetting. Caution is a good word for these times. When I get in the car these days I let the engine run and envision my route. I hope you are okay Sue. Did you get checked by your Dr. were you hurt physically in any way? I can't believe people would be so insensitive knowing your situation and in need of support and their love. Please take care!
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