🕯 A Place To Be With OTHERS Who Are Grieving! WE support each other.

[Spring2025]

THIS GROUP IS OPEN TO ALL GRIEVERS NO MATTER HOW LONG IT HAS BEEN [years,days].

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Luv,

Nicole  🤗🤗🤗  (Grief Forum)

[MarcyW882921]

Thanks Cadee @Cadee2719 . I wish the same for you!

Marcy

[Spring2025]

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Dear Julie @JulieT507376 !!!

You have been with us 10 months and I have watched you blossom with determination to keep busy.

Hats off to you my dear friend as you ARRIVE at your DESTINATION (tomorrow).

A day WE all have DREADED (our 1st anniversary).

Some leave after this arrival, STRONGER and knowing IF needed, they are ALWAYS WELCOME BACK.

While I HOPE you continue to be a part of our group, I will understand that it is time to say goodbye.

Goodness, Sadie  🐕  has ADDED SO MUCH to my life and Mister's  🐈.

How is your sweet girl doing? Still limping?

And how are you doing Ms. Busier than I am?

Cookies all ready for tomorrow?

Luv,

Nicole  🤗🤗🤗  (Grief Forum)

[JulieT507376]

Cookies are done and the neighbor ladies are excited to come and bring their special cookies.  They all know what the day is and yet are willing to support me by letting me celebrate Mark.   It was hard deciding what cookie to make Mark.  He was so easy to bake for!  He loved everything I made for him.❤️ I’m taking day by day now.  I need to start thinking about his clothes.  Maybe in the spring.  For now I continue to get comfort knowing they are where they belong.  It is

definitely a process.  One that is felt with every breath I take.  
BTW…The eagle is still at my house sitting in trees or on the poles.  It gives me great peace. 

Thank you everyone for your support!  It’s has been calming and healing at times when I’ve really needed it. 

[Spring2025]

Lol, Julie @JulieT507376 , didnot see Sadie & your BEAUTIFUL CHRISTMAS TREE!!!! Glad I read your post again. Guys, Julie has 2 pictures 📸  attached  📸. This site is a pain to use. Looking CUTE as usual posing for her mom. You and your grandson did an AWESOME JOB on the tree. Is Sadie still limping?  🤗🤗🤗

[JulieT507376]

Sadie limps after she over does on the craziness playing she does.  She can’t seem to stay calm for very long! But truly is sooooo much better.  

[Spring2025]

SO GLAD to hear she is healing and being silly again Julie @JulieT507376 !!!

Safe travels to see your family and I know she will miss you.  🤗🤗🤗

[MarcyW882921]

Julie @JulieT507376 , 

Your cookies look great! It's terrific that you made a decision to celebrate Mark and are following it through. You know best what is in your heart and you have the eagle nearby to give you peace.

Marcy

[Spring2025]

Julie @JulieT507376 , those cookies are making me hungry!!!  🙄🙄🙄

Yes, that is Mark keeping an eye on HIS GIRLS.

Hey, you are a VERY SPECIAL LADY so of course they WANT to celebrate with you.

How is Sadie  🐕?  🤗🤗🤗

[Spring2025]

I tell you, WE need to open up a Hospital & Mechanic Shop./lol  🤣😂

Guess where my old lady is? Yes, went out to head to Walmart this morning - check engine light on.  🙄

Jonibee @jonibee & Cadee @Cadee2719 , time to feel BETTER my friends.

*** They say what does not kill us makes us stronger. So I guess WE are getting STRONGER.  👍👍👍

😴  Everyone, try to get some sleep tonight at your bedtime.  🤗🤗🤗

[jonibee]

Why do these things always happen when money is tight especially around the holiday time..I don't drive anymore but can feel your pain in having to cough up the $$ should something be amiss..I just had to order Oil so that puts a bite on the buck....Another day another dollar...

[Spring2025]

[2/8/25] Yes Jonibee @jonibee , I finally made it through January with NO CAR ISSUES. Lol, geez - told my mechanic something had to change. Hope you are hanging in there.

Luv,

Nicole 🤗🤗🤗 (Grief Forum)

[jonibee]

It seem it's been a long winter and we've just begun...We here on the eastern south of Boston have been considerably lucky when it come to snow..Very little 1-3" but tonight will tell the story as we're expecting up to  8 inches of the wet stuff as the coastline feels the effect..Thank goodness we have a man who comes to plow the driveway as it'x very long ..So we just have to contend with the front walk and the stairs back and front. I have to have an MRI after the ultra sound showed fatty deposits in the Liver which could be anything from Diabetes to all other things. I have the wait and see attitude what's the sense of worrying at 82jyrs..What will be will be..Otherwise life goes on with its ups and downs. Thank You for getting back to me...Enjoy the football weekend if you're a football fan...And of course the coming Martin Luther Day and Valentines Day...I like the commercials on tv for the football game..

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[2/8/25] Jonibee @jonibee , this Winter here in Virginia was my 1st time of NOT being able to get up my hill!!! We had a MAJOR storm last month and GRATEFUL for folks driving me back to my Studio Apt (with Walmart groceries). Yes, husband had a 4-wheel drive truck. The kindness of RANDOM people. Probably will NEVER see them again. My daughter is FINALLY okay and I can RELAX. Lol, working 3 jobs to replace the Engineering job in Florida she lost April 2024. One of them is a TEMPORARY Al Tutor. Hmmm, interesting title. The other two, SEASONAL stocking shelves at Michael and website stuff for a non-profit Foundation.

Yes, my dear - 67 this year and FINALLY learning to LET GO. 👍

Do what you can and move on.

Luv,

Nicole 🤗🤗🤗 (Grief Forum)

[jonibee]

Two things camd to mind something that I ate (with all the warnings of things that tainted food brings on and posture I find that sometimes I slouch especially at the computer as the desk chair seat is uncomfortable the seet goes too far back for my short statue...So I am trying to stay in tune with my body what goes into it and what affects it like a poor mattress , sleeping positions etc..We know more about our auto's than our own bodies/

[MarcyW882921]

Jonibee @jonibee ,

Ha I can identify with the short stature and desk chair seats being too deep. I have a back pillow from Relax the Back that I use in my desk chair. It was a bit pricey as things are from that store, but I have gotten a lot of use from it for several years. Being in tune with our bodies and caring for them the best way we know how is a good thing.

Marcy

[jonibee]

Thank You for the tip...I believe that because of the way I sit in this chair I may slouch forward and it causes stress on the back ..so I will look into it...I did order a back pillow rest but it's too short so the hunt is on...

[jonibee]

Just a 3 mos. follow up with primary and blood sugar check..Still waiting for appt. for abdomen scan and it's up in the air as far as gastreologist as the pain has gone away so it could have been something else..It's a wait and see attitude..I am trying to cut medical appts out of my life as at this stage of life its a hassle and invasion  of body that I don't care to go through anymore..I just want to enjoy the holidays without appts...

[Cadee2719]

  I agree with you.  I have worked hard to get all these appointments but I have two more to go!

 Results to discuss with the rheumatologist and first visit to the family doctor for my diabetes, mammogram, acid reflux.  From the paperwork she sent me I guess she has a lot of other tests lined up for me.  I will complete them all and hopefully be able to settle in and not have further visits for awhile.  It is good for me to get an update on my medical conditions since I have not seen a doctor since March.  I can't complain, just turned 81 and I'm still kicking.

[Spring2025]

Cadee @Cadee2719 , did you look into a generator or do you or your Son have a FIREPLACE?  🤗🤗🤗

[Cadee2719]

 Hi  Yes I got a generator and my son and I both have fireplaces.  No snow yet!  Fog today.  Made peanut brittle yesterday for you.   My rheumatologist called and moved my appointment up to January to discuss the results of the ultrasound.  My brother is coming to spend time with me at Christmas, his wife is staying home with the dogs.  I am excited as it will be the first Christmas together in about 30 years!  My son will pick him up and bring him to my home. After the holidays are over my brother has to go to Utah to have the iris in his eye replaced.  I spent the morning arranging to have flowers delivered to my husband and son's grave on a regular basis.  It was sad in a way, but I am the only one that sends flowers to their graves each year.   Well I better start my English Toffee bars so I can ship them off to you.  My tree is up, my house is decorated (first time since the deaths of my son and husband) so I am getting ready for Christmas.  ❤️

[MarcyW882921]

Cadee @Cadee2719 ,

This all sounds encouraging. You are making traditional holiday treats, decorating, and have plans to be with family at Christmas. I'm very happy for you!

Marcy

[Cadee2719]

  I am no longer on this site but I want to wish you a HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!  ❤️   You have always been a friend that has truly helped me on this difficult journey.  Enjoy your day. 

[MarcyW882921]

Thank you so much Cadee @Cadee2719 ! I feel the same way about you❣️I have not been coming on the site much lately either. I think of you and imagine you must be busy caring for yourself and your family.

Love,

Marcy

[Spring2025]

🙏  Guys please keep our Julie @JulieT507376 in YOUR THOUGHTS!!!

She has been SO STRONG with her 1st anniversary of losing Mark drawing NEAR (December 4th).  😭😭😭

NOW she is dealing with WORRY over dear sweet Sadie who hurt her paw while spending Thanksgiving with family.

Julie could NOT get any Medical Care for her YESTERDAY, but hoping TODAY before heading back home.

To some, Sadie is just a dog.

To Julie, this sweet girl was Mark's and STILL IS!!!  🤗🤗🤗

[MkK700720]

Hope Julie's Sadie is feeling better. 

[Spring2025]

🤔  Group Discussion: Those DREAMS!!! Do you try to UNDERSTAND them? I know in the past Marcy @MarcyW882921 had mentioned her husband interpreting them. Anyone have a comment?

[MkK700720]

I think sometimes dreams can be telling, but mostly I think they're aftereffects of the day's events. Stress can get the dreams going too. However a dream can be trying to tell us something too.

[Spring2025]

Lol, for awhile it was like EVERY NIGHT I had one and WOKE UP SAD.

Then life gave me a BREAK of a few days.  🙄🙄🙄

So, LAST NIGHT (yes, had one) and although I got up SAD decided I would TRY TO UNDERSTAND WHY it happened.

[1] Could a luv one is trying to communicate?

[2] Or life is TRYING to comfort and/or warn me.

*** Number 2 - comfort. While I was SAD an old and dear friend from High School back in Jamaica West, Indies (later ran into in Miami, Florida when I was married) was in it - what he did in the dream REMINDED ME someone did/does CARE. ***

Of late here in Virginia, it has been a CONSTANT AVOIDING DRAMA and it takes a beating on your SOUL.

So LIFE, I have NO idea IF Breeder (his pet name from school, lol) is STILL ALIVE but please THANK HIM wherever he is.  🤗🤗🤗

[MkK700720]

I'm sorry you're going through that Nicole. Seems people are under so much stress these days. Watching movies on TV is a good stress reliever. Lots of good series on Roku.

[Spring2025]

🍽  Group Discussion: Anyone else HEALTHY eating? Remember, this will HELP with feeling LESS SAD & keep the DOCTOR bills LOW!!!