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My husband has always had a bad back from a industrial accident. now he is in wound care for injuring his feet. he is in constant pain. he is so frustrated and angry at being layed up, he has a short temper with me and there is no one else around. I just feel very alone and inable to cope sometimes. any suggestions . He hates taking pain killers and is afraid with the current policy changes he won't be able to get what he needs.

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Thanks for responding. your perceptions are right on. I did speak to my doc and got some mild ant anxiety med. It helps. Just knowing this is not unusual helps too. !
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Thanks for feedback. It does help to know this situation is not unusual. I do not like to complain to others that know him. But I have spoken to my doc. He gave me a mild anti anxiety med and it does help!
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Violent outburts or aggression are typical for old men in pain, sadly. I had a lot of trouble with my father, too so I tried to look for someone whose presence would calm him down. I was surprised that some caregivers are good at that. I would never think they'll be but I've seen some pretty dedicated people when we contacted this place: https://www.devotedhc.com He'll recover well, he just needs a lot of time and professional help. Book reading also helps. Maybe you should buy him a book in his favorite genre? I know my father likes pulp fiction and gets calmer when he reads.

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Thanks for the thoughts. Hopefully when his feet heal up he'll be able to get back to his hobbies and distractions. TV is getting OLD ! Will see if reading may interest him.
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