Hello there,
Do not feel bad for getting paid to care for your loved one. We all do it anyway and end up in financial ruins later! So getting paid for this, helps us to help them.
First place to start depends on what state you live in. Here in Florida, the Senior Rescource Alliance is the place to start. Find your states equivalent to that. Your loved one will have to qualify for what is called a Medicaid Waiver. So, once you find your states equivalent to a senior resource allience, you call them and tell them you are looking for a " Home and community based medicaid waiver for a long term care program" for your loved one. They will walk you through the process from this point!
I get paid full time wages to care for my 86 year old mom and it is wonderful to have the honor to do this. I love being with her and getting paid for it!
Hope this helps,
Linda McAlister