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Re: Newbie Here! Longdistance caregiving is tough!

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Welcome @WendySueGilbert 

This is truly one of the most stressful experiences for any family. I encourage you to take advantage of the resources here. Also, to reach out to your brother as much as possible. I was the close-by daughter with siblings across the country and their help and support meant everything. Too often resentments can build and fracture relationships. Even doing online research about aftercare facilities or offering to be the phone contact for the hospital social workers who will be making the arrangements for the facility if your mom does not take control.

One thing I caution against is making "helpful" suggestions as to things your brother can do. Especially if they are things you can do via the telephone or internet. 

Best of luck to you!

Margaret

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WendySueGilbert wrote:

Greeetings!

 

I live hundreds of miles from my aging parents -- 82 and 80.  The last few weeks have been really difficult.  Dad's been in the hospital and mother has become increasingly hostile to changes. And big changes are coming.

When the hospital asked Dad to choose a continuous care facility for his next stint of PT and OT, mom went beserk. She refused to do any research and believes that if she doesn't choose one, they simply won't put him in one. 

My poor brother (lives about 3 hours away) has been doing the best he can, but the acceleration of their neediness is really difficult..

I am going to be mining these forums for a lot of help!!


Wendy,

Hi and welcome. I am so sorry to hear about the issues faced by your parents. We understand that caring from a distance can be difficult, which is why we developed a care guide for long distance family caregivers. You can download the free guide HERE. 

Please come back and keep us posted on your status. 

Jen

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@WendySueGilbert Hello and welcome!

 

Hoboy, that does sound like a lot.  The good news is that you've come to the right place. Start mining the caregiving forum: http://community.aarp.org/t5/Caregiving/ct-p/Caregiving  which is populated by some truly gifted, caring individuals.

 

Best wishes, truly.  And may you and yours enjoy a marvelous 2018.

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Greeetings!

 

I live hundreds of miles from my aging parents -- 82 and 80.  The last few weeks have been really difficult.  Dad's been in the hospital and mother has become increasingly hostile to changes. And big changes are coming.

When the hospital asked Dad to choose a continuous care facility for his next stint of PT and OT, mom went beserk. She refused to do any research and believes that if she doesn't choose one, they simply won't put him in one. 

My poor brother (lives about 3 hours away) has been doing the best he can, but the acceleration of their neediness is really difficult..

I am going to be mining these forums for a lot of help!!

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