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WE cry, rejoice, talk, share!

Whatever YOU need, WE are here for YOU.

***YOU are a very SPECIAL person and WE want to hear from YOU***

Grief & Loss Team 🤗

[SpringIsHereSoHappy]

HOW ARE YOU HANDLING THE HOLIDAYS AND DAYS LIKE MOTHER'S AND FATHER'S DAYS - BIRTHDAYS - ANNIVERSARIES AND SO ON?  🤔

Me, I have never been a Group Person and as soon as I turned 18, started to "skip" the gatherings. I luv the one-on-one interactions. As far as Father's Day, he was never the father my daughter deserved [drug and crime issues], so she never did the day. Every day is Mother's Day for me = she makes sure I am okay every day. She is the opposite of me and while she avoids family  🙄,  she has had Extended Family & Friends all her life. So she spends the holidays with them.  👍

Thanks,

Nicole  🤗🤗🤗

[SpringIsHereSoHappy]

💡Just For TODAY - AARP Online Community. See link at bottom of this post!  🔽

 ‌‌[1] What is YOUR "Just For Today" ...

‌‌‌‌[2] Please REACH OUT to *1* GRIEVING person.

(A) Email/text/call/visit.

(B) Invite to do something fun.

(C) Babysit/help around their house.

(D) Or ask what is needed.

Grief & Loss TEAM  👍👍👍

https://community.aarp.org/t5/Grief-Loss/Just-For-TODAY/m-p/2474449#M1178 

[SpringIsHereSoHappy]

(2 comments) In my opinion, Living In The Moment helps to keep us SANE - HOPEFUL & PEACEFUL!!! What are YOUR THOUGHTS on this?  Thanks, Nicole  🤗🤗🤗

Me - it is taking my all to NOT get angry and mourne the "possible" loss of a dear friend. One I didnot go looking for and who has RENEWED my HOPE of meeting HEALTHY HUMANS in my journey. I had told you guys about Dalinda, a Walmart Employee. Her cancer is back  😭😭😭  But you would NEVER know. I pry stuff out of her when she says she is okay. Then it is like the water has been released and she hugs me and tells me WHAT IS REALLY GOING ON. Lol, my Weekly Term = hmmm, now tell me what is really going on AFTER her 1st response to my Weekly How Are You Doing Question of I am OK. I am FINALLY learning that life brings us WHAT WE NEED and forever long it lasts, we NEED TO ENJOY IT. 👍

[mc6844]

Nicole, how lovely is your care for Dalinda, and her for you. It reminds me that everyone we meet has challenges and problems. I'm sure Dalinda is always happy to see you. I'm not sure everyone is always happy to see me  lol. Except I keep going. I'm glad you're getting out and about. And it's nice you girls have these meet-ups. Those moments are important.

[SpringIsHereSoHappy]

Thanks MC @mc6844 , Nicole  🤗🤗🤗

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Nicole, how lovely is your care for Dalinda, and her for you. It reminds me that everyone we meet has challenges and problems. I'm sure Dalinda is always happy to see you. I'm not sure everyone is always happy to see me  lol. Except I keep going. I'm glad you're getting out and about. And it's nice you girls have these meet-ups. Those moments are important. ***]

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[MarcyW882921]

Nicole @SpringIsHereSoHappy ,

You are in Dalinda's life at a time when she really needs someone. You are to be commended for being there, for recognizing her needs, and allowing her to be heard! Maybe she is in your life to show you there are good, caring, appreciative people and The importance of making the best of every moment we have in life.

Marcy

[SpringIsHereSoHappy]

Thanks Marcy @MarcyW882921 , Nicole  🤗🤗🤗

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[*** MARCY @MarcyW882921 wrote:

Nicole @SpringIsHereSoHappy ,

You are in Dalinda's life at a time when she really needs someone. You are to be commended for being there, for recognizing her needs, and allowing her to be heard! Maybe she is in your life to show you there are good, caring, appreciative people and The importance of making the best of every moment we have in life.

Marcy ***]

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[SpringIsHereSoHappy]

(4 comments) Some of us are already VERY ACTIVE in our NEW lives, while others NEED to get back into the groove. Hmmm, which are YOU? And IF you feel up to it, tell us what has been going on in YOUR LIFE!!! Thanks, Nicole  🤗🤗🤗

Me - lol, lazy and lazy!!! But finally feeling an "interest" to dig up my Old Hobbies. Now to actually do this.  🙄🙄🙄

I do miss my walks in nature but as I AGE just cannot deal with the I OWN NATURE mentality of some youngsters. Gosh, I return MORE STRESSED than when I left. So I have to find someplace safe and not taken over by humans. Wish me luck!!!  👍

[Cadee2719]

  I made it back on the site!  Yeah   I have made the move.  Sold my house in California and have moved to my new home in Idaho.  Was it hard.....you bet.  Packing up a house I lived in for 46 years and moving to a new state at the age of 80 was not a simple task.    It was all worth it.  I feel safe, I am in a community of kind and helpful people, love my new home,  am able to go any where I want and not be afraid.  I did not know a place such as this existed. I am sad that my beautiful neighborhood in California became a haven for the homeless, crime and fear. It   was not an easy task but I did it and I do not regret it.  We each must do what is right for ourselves to live our lives as we choose.  It took me a year and a half to complete this process but I DID IT!

[MarcyW882921]

I am so proud of you Cadee @Cadee2719 ! I can't imagine how hard this moving process has been for you on top of your grief. You made the hard decisions, did the work, and it sounds like the benefits are now paying off for you. Enjoy your new home in a warm and safe community! You certainly deserve it my friend.

Marcy

[SpringIsHereSoHappy]

And stay tuned for NEWS about her new life Marcy @MarcyW882921 !!!

Cadee @Cadee2719 , I am SO GLAD you updated us!!!

Nicole  🤗🤗🤗

[SpringIsHereSoHappy]

YES YOU DID IT Ms. Idaho @Cadee2719 !!!  💃💃💃

and another set!!!

💃💃💃

Nicole  🤗🤗🤗

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[*** CADEE @Cadee2719 wrote:

  I made it back on the site!  Yeah   I have made the move.  Sold my house in California and have moved to my new home in Idaho.  Was it hard.....you bet.  Packing up a house I lived in for 46 years and moving to a new state at the age of 80 was not a simple task.    It was all worth it.  I feel safe, I am in a community of kind and helpful people, love my new home,  am able to go any where I want and not be afraid.  I did not know a place such as this existed. I am sad that my beautiful neighborhood in California became a haven for the homeless, crime and fear. It   was not an easy task but I did it and I do not regret it.  We each must do what is right for ourselves to live our lives as we choose.  It took me a year and a half to complete this process but I DID IT! ***]

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[MarcyW882921]

The roof was finally started today. I think they have finished working for now and I am relishing the quiet!

Marcy

[SpringIsHereSoHappy]

Yikes Marcy @MarcyW882921 , cutting it close to Hurricane Season in Florida!!!  😱😱😱

On the serious side, I do APPRECIATE your update!!!  👍👍👍

And YES, I am sure you are enjoying your peace/quiet, Nicole  🤗🤗🤗

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[*** MARCY @MarcyW882921 wrote:

The roof was finally started today. I think they have finished working for now and I am relishing the quiet!

Marcy ***]

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[SpringIsHereSoHappy]

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Thanks,

Nicole  🤗🤗🤗

[SpringIsHereSoHappy]

💃  Tell Us About YOUR GOOD days! And YES, we will have a FEW SOME weeks - AARP Online Community. ‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌See link at bottom of this post!  🔽

Any HAPPY DANCES to share?

And support OTHERS with a comment when you can!!!

Thanks,

Nicole  🤗🤗🤗  ‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌

https://community.aarp.org/t5/Grief-Loss/Tell-Us-About-YOUR-GOOD-days-And-YES-we-will-have-a-FEW-SOM...

[SpringIsHereSoHappy]

👋  Help and signs from loved one - AARP Online Community. See link at bottom of this post!  🔽

Stop by to JOIN Carolyn's discussion when YOU have a few spare moments!

Thanks,

Nicole  🤗🤗🤗

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https://community.aarp.org/t5/Grief-Loss/Help-and-signs-from-loved-one/m-p/2478924#M1452

[SpringIsHereSoHappy]

📚  Grief & Loss Books - AARP Online Community. ‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌See link at bottom of this post!  🔽

READ any books that has helped YOU? Stop by and tell us about them.

And checkout the suggestions left by OTHERS!!!  ‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌

https://community.aarp.org/t5/Grief-Loss/Grief-amp-Loss-Books/m-p/2475048#M1224

[SpringIsHereSoHappy]

Did you know that a SELF-CARE ROUTINE helps us on OUR Healing Journeys? Tell us about YOUR ROUTINE!!! Thanks, Nicole  🤗🤗🤗

I treat myself to Glade Candles. 💃💃💃  When the candles will NO LONGER BURN, I use a sharp knife to scrape a "little" of the remaining candle out and INTO my "tiny" wax burner. I am in heaven...  👍

[SpringIsHereSoHappy]

🙃  GRATITUDE while we heal - AARP Online Community. See link at bottom of this post!  🔽

WHAT ARE YOU GRATEFUL FOR RIGHT NOW? ‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌

Gratitude brings MORE of the GOOD stuff our way!!!  ‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌💃💃💃

https://community.aarp.org/t5/Grief-Loss/GRATITUDE-while-we-heal/m-p/2532387#M9115

[SpringIsHereSoHappy]

🤔  What CHALLENGE(s) Are YOU Facing RIGHT NOW - AARP Online Community. See link at bottom of this post!  🔽

EVERY day and night we may be faced with several challenges.  ‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌

WE are here for YOU!!!

Stop by when you feel up to it and share with us.

WE listen, may add our 2 cents, BUT NEVER JUDGE.

Nicole  ‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌🤗🤗🤗

https://community.aarp.org/t5/Grief-Loss/What-CHALLENGE-s-Are-YOU-Facing-RIGHT-NOW/m-p/2475057#M1229

[SpringIsHereSoHappy]

(2 comments)  👣👣👣  OUR JOURNEYS SO FAR!!!

WE are all at different "stages" of OUR HEALING JOURNEY.

[1] Some of us are making CHANGES that will help us to MOVE FORWARD.  👍👍👍

[2] Some of us are THINKING about things so as NOT to make any "hasty" changes that will ADD to our stress.  🙄🙄🙄

*** Everyone is invited to add THEIR journey to this discussion ***

Thanks,

Nicole  🤗🤗🤗

Me - Florida is on HOLD while my daughter who lives there figures out another job. She was in a Mass Surprise Same Day Layoff on 4/11/24. Lol, while I worry about her losing her home and car - I AM SO HAPPY to renew my lease for my Cute Studio Apartment in the hills here in Virginia. We will revisit my relocation AGAIN in the future!!!  👍👍👍

[Cadee2719]

I tried to reply to this yesterday and the message did not go through!  I know I have not been on site for quite a while, but do not understand why I cannot get through.

[SpringIsHereSoHappy]

Cadee @Cadee2719 , it is this AARP Site that they REFUSE to update!!!  🙄🙄🙄

Nicole  🤗🤗🤗

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I tried to reply to this yesterday and the message did not go through!  I know I have not been on site for quite a while, but do not understand why I cannot get through.  ***]

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[SpringIsHereSoHappy]

(1 comment) WHAT ADVICE WOULD YOU GIVE TO SOMEONE WHO IS GRIEVING?  🤔  Thanks, Nicole  🤗🤗🤗

My Advice - not everyone is going to "understand" your journey, so find ways to connect with folks who do. Not everyone is going to make time for you. TREASURE THE ONES THAT DO AND THANK THEM!!!  👍

[Cadee2719]

 I think it is important to take care of the necessities.  You have to make the changes with your social security, getting credit in your name (if you did not have it), changing the names on Trusts, Wills, bank accounts, etc.  This is often not as easy as you think.  You need to take care of yourself, begin or continue your doctor's appointments, find time to rest, relax, and do the  things that make you happy.  Share with a support group your fears, needs and questions.  Make NO MAJOR DECISIONS at this time.  IGNORE criticisms and unsupportive people.  TAKE ONE DAY AT A TIME.  Everyone is different; each of us heal in our own way and time.  Do not apologize for your sadness.  It takes time, it takes strength; it takes fortitude to heal and you will discover that you have all of these virtues.  Be kind to yourself. 

[SpringIsHereSoHappy]

(1 comment)  👣  One Step At A Time!!!

[1] Take That Step To FEEL BETTER.

[2] YES YOU CAN DO IT!!!

[3]  📚  BOOK TITLE: ONE STEP AT A TIME!

Josh Bleill tells people he had “one bad day” while on combat patrol in Fallujah, Iraq, on October 15, 2006.  That day, an IED struck his Humvee, tearing through the vehicle and killing two of his fellow marines while severely injuring Bleill and his best friend.  He awoke five days later with to learn of the catastrophic loss of his two friends and both of his legs. Recovering physically presented a great challenge, but the mental recovery was the toughest battle. For three and a half months he never left the hospital because he didn't want people to see his injured body. In One Step at a Time, Bleill shares the story of his own personal redemption and the many life-changing moments he encountered, from his enlistment to active duty in Fallujah, through two years of intensive rehabilitation, and ultimately to his job as the community spokesman for the Indianapolis Colts. Readers will be inspired by his undying enthusiasm, infectious joy, and sense of humor as he shares his message of going forward, one step at a time.

[mc6844]

Thank you for sharing this Nicole. Combat veterans have gone through so much. Rarely do they feel sorry for themselves. 

[SpringIsHereSoHappy]

[1 comment] WHAT HAS HELPED YOU THE MOST WITH YOUR HEALING JOURNEY?  🤔

Me - my daughter. Knowing she NEEDS me, the only parent she has left. I still have my monents, but I make an effort for her. Nicole  ‌‌🤗🤗🤗‌‌