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[BeatleloverKT]

Thank u Nicole, that means a lot to me 🙏💜

[BeatleloverKT]

It has been and continues to be a very rough stretch for me. Major family drama (not my family, the other

side) has created more stress then I could ever have imagined. Am still dealing with a personal stressful agenda and have been brutalized by these people. Called every name in the book. People can be so hurtful. And grieving the loss of the Deptford NJ officer who lost his battle. He was my sons friend and the funeral was this week. I guess this is a test of how much I can take. But I don’t think I can take much more. Asking for prayers for myself because I need them now more than ever 🙏🙏

[mc6844]

Prayers. Take care! 

[MarcyW882921]

Thinking of you today! 

Marcy

[Anonymous]

(1 comment) So GOOD to hear from you dear Marcy @MarcyW882921 , Nicole 🤎🤗

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▶️@MarcyW882921 wrote:

Thinking of you today! 

Marcy◀️ 

[MarcyW882921]

Thanks Nicole. I'ts good to hear from you! 🙂

[Cadee2719]

You are in my thoughts and prayers.  I, too, am dealing with a family member (daughter-in-law) who is constantly crying & complaining to me about my son dying and how hard it is on her.  She forgets that it was MY son that died and that his father died a few months later.  She shows no empathy for anyone but herself.  You need to avoid these people and focus on YOUR healing and YOUR becoming stronger.  We are here for you.  This site consists of loving, caring people that know what we are going through and truly do care.  I know that it is a struggle but one that we must fight our way through.  I feel that at the end we will come out stronger than ever.   Be kind to yourself.

[BeatleloverKT]

Thank u @Cadee2719 @The support and prayers mean so much. I’m sorry for what

you’re going thru as well. It’s a tricky slope the grieving process. Your DIL should join a group maybe. It’s too much to put on your plate with all your losses. Prayers to you

🙏🙏

[MarcyW882921]

These situations require thoughtful consideration. In an ideal world these family members who have experienced the loss of the same person but in different roles, would be great sources of comfort and support and vise versa. However in less than ideal circumstances, these same people can be toxic and draining. Just like in an airplane, you need to take care of yourself first by putting on your mask before you try to help others. Figure out what you need to take care of yourself and then look at these other folks to see if they fit into that self-care plan.

[MarcyW882921]

So sorry that your family drama and stress continue to torment you. Dealing with another loss just compounds the situation. I’m sending prayers that you will find some peace and refuge from the storms!

”That which does not kill us makes us stronger.”  —Friedrich Nietzsche

[BeatleloverKT]

Thank you @MarcyW882921 The support

and prayers mean everything to me

[Anonymous]

5 comments (5/18/23) Oh my goodness, OUR @Cadee2719 stopped in to chat with us. HAPPY DANCE!!! 💃🥳

Lol, you have been on my mind "dear friend" but wanted to give you some space as I am giving OUR Kathy @BeatleloverKT .

Some days and nights, WE all just DO NOT feel like "talking" and will when WE feel up to it.

Okay, some "questions" and as usual NO PRESSURE to answer. 👍

(1) Have you thought about contacting the LOA (local office of aging) for YOUR area? 🤔

They look out for us OLD folks in several ways.

So many SCAMS going on with "repairs" and IF you need assistance with costs, they would know where to go.

(2) Do you have any ideas on what STATE?

Virginia (at least in Roanoke) was CHEAP and OLD people friendly.

Lol, Florida, EXPENSIVE and we won't even mention the ELECTRIC bill from year-round heat!!! 😱

Luv you my friend,

Nicole 🤗🤎

[Cadee2719]

Thank You  I will check in with the LOA office.  I have relatives in Idaho and Pennsylvania.  I guess it will be a discussion with my son to see which state he is interested in.   He was the one that said we should relocate.   I feel bad for him as my only remaining son, he feels pressure of being the only child and thinks he is responsible for replacing his brother/father.  I keep telling him that I can do it and he has his own life to live.  He has yet to deal with the deaths of his brother, father and uncle.  It has been 6 1/2 months since I lost my son, husband and brother.  Do you think I am making decisions to relocate too soon?  It is so nice to have a format to ask these questions and to have these conversations.

[MarcyW882921]

Continue to: encourage your son to be his own person and show him with actions that you are handling things (because you are). Much of the literature says you shouldn't make any major decisions for a year after a loss. Just like the grief process is unique to each person I think the timing for decision-making is different for each person too. Relocating is a big decision and is an additional stressor. I agree with Nicole that when you are ready, making a list of pros and cons is a good idea. Things like climate, moving expenses, car insurance rates, utility rates, homowner's/renter's insurance, housing availability, property taxes, state taxes, health care, support systems, etc.

[Anonymous]

2 comments (5/18/23) And I just thought of this Marcy @MarcyW882921 . Our will and all the other documents that goes with it. 😭

But as you "reminded" me - 1 step at a time! 👍

Luv you my friend,

Nicole 🤗🤎

[MarcyW882921]

Yes believe it or not wills drawn up in one state do not necessarily meet the requirements of another state. It is something to be investigated if you move to another state.

[Cadee2719]

Good to hear from you.  Mothers Day, my son took me to dinner and we had a quiet, peaceful day.  I am like a pogo stick; up and down.  More things are breaking.  Is it Karma?  The city needs to replace the water meter; the pool filter broke, and the air conditioning in the car stopped working!!!  With the way my life is going I just decided there is nothing I can do but take one day at a time,  fix things and move on.  I was always a busy person and I guess my husband is just trying to keep me happy?? by keeping me busy.  😂  I am and will continue to Take One Step At a Time and do the best I can.  Wishing everyone on this site Happiness & Peace.  I cannot tell you how all of you have helped me through the saddest days of my life.  Nicole I hope all goes well with your new home.   I, too, am thinking about moving out of state.  

[mc6844]

That's a lot to cope with Cadee. Household things can become exhausting. I've had lots of clearing out to do. But I guess that's how it goes. I go from one thing to another in my day and try not to think too much. Starting a book in the am, just a few paragraphs, a few more later in the day and save the rest for night. Helps me to detach from stresses. You take good care of yourself Cadee. The houses and repairs will be here after us!

[MarcyW882921]

Wow Cadee you just keep getting hit with things! You're right...all you can do is take one step and one day at a time and keep moving forward. You are definitely being kept busy by someone or something. I hope that you find some peace and happiness soon.

[MarcyW882921]

I was just thinking of you today. I hope you are busy in a good way as you create you new home!

Marcy

[mc6844]

I was thinking of everyone on this thread tonight too. For me, lately it's been up and down. I guess it's no smooth ride. It was a lovely Mother's Day with two of our adult children. It was great to see them. Now I feel like I'm almost back at square one with the grieving. I wonder how all of you are doing with all these new adjustments?  How was your Mother's Day? Not all days can be good. For me Easter wasn't good. But apparently I got through it.

[Anonymous]

2 comments (5/17/23) Dear @mc6844 , all we can do as Marcy @MarcyW882921  "reminded" is 1-step-at-a-time dear friend. YOU have made so much progress, it shows in YOUR posts. ALWAYS asking how WE are and wishing us a good day/night. Always so GOOD to hear from you 🥳💃

WE LUV YOU, admire you and here for you....

Nicole 🤎🤗

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▶️@mc6844 wrote:

I was thinking of everyone on this thread tonight too. For me, lately it's been up and down. I guess it's no smooth ride. It was a lovely Mother's Day with two of our adult children. It was great to see them. Now I feel like I'm almost back at square one with the grieving. I wonder how all of you are doing with all these new adjustments?  How was your Mother's Day? Not all days can be good. For me Easter wasn't good. But apparently I got through it.◀️

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[mc6844]

Thank you Nicole ! I admire all on the grieving thread too. It takes effort and resilience to keep moving forward. On all our individual paths and callings. I can also see you all growing in your situations. I'm happy for all of you and so nice to see! Take care now.

[Anonymous]

1 comment (5/16/23) Dear Marcy @MarcyW882921 , lol, A LOT to do!!! 🤣😂

Hope you are well my friend....

Nicole 🤎🤗

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▶️@MarcyW882921 wrote:

I was just thinking of you today. I hope you are busy in a good way as you create you new home!

Marcy◀️ 

[MarcyW882921]

Yes a move can be overwhelming. A step at a time and you will get things done.

Doing well...thanks Nicole!

Marcy

[Anonymous]

15 comments (5/7/23) Thank you ALL for your participation, support and luv!!!! Nicole 🤎🤗

[mc6844]

I'm thinking of all the people on this thread and all their sharing and concerns. I want to wish all the Moms a lovely Mothers Day! No matter what kind of day it is, rain or shine, you will get through it. I'm sure your husbands and loved ones think you're the greatest Moms ever! Someday we will be with our loved ones in heaven. Now that's something nice to look forward to the future. At the appropriate time.

[CatherineS641676]

Thanks for your kind thoughts. I agree with everything you said, so ditto for me! Have a lovely Mom's Day everyone

[MarcyW882921]

I wasn't sure if this was Nicole either. I agree with mc that you will be missed if it is you! Are you finally getting to go to Florida near your daughter? That would mean congratulations are in order! I don't know what part of Florida you might be heading to but I am in the southern part.

Marcy

[mc6844]

I wasn't sure if that's you Nicole. If so we will miss you. Your kindness and caring and all your good work in this site for the grieving. Thank you Nicole. Many good wishes for your future happiness!