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WE cry, rejoice, talk, share!

Whatever YOU need, WE are here for YOU.

***YOU are a very SPECIAL person and WE want to hear from YOU***

Grief & Loss Team 🤗

[SpringIsHereVA]

Stop by when you can to SUPPORT a griever with a KIND RESPONSE to their post.  ‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌💛‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌

Thank you,

Nicole  ‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌🤗‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌🤗‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌🤗‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌  (Grief Forum)

[SpringIsHereVA]

I am thinking about YOU.  ‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌💛‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌

And I am ALWAYS here if you need someone to chat with. I UNDERSTAND your HEALING JOURNEY & I CARE.

Feeling sad, stick your head OUTSIDE & breathe in NATURE. Then BELIEVE today will be FULL of possibilities of hope, peace & luv.

Luv,

Nicole  ‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌🤗‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌🤗‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌🤗‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌  (Grief Forum)

[SpringIsHereVA]

While WE cannot bring back YOUR luv one, we do UNDERSTAND.  ‌‌‌‌‌‌💛‌‌‌‌‌‌

Why?

We too have lost luv ones and together we have "muddled" through the best we can.

Our Welcome Mat is ALWAYS there for YOU my friend.

Grief & Loss Team  ‌‌‌‌‌‌💛‌‌‌‌‌‌

[SpringIsHereVA]

‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌Stop by to SHARE YOUR JOURNEY.

I will ALWAYS leave a comment in response to YOUR POST.  ‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌💛‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌

Sharing "may" HELP with our healing and "may" also HELP another griever who stops by = members supporting members.

*** They will KNOW there are OTHERS out there and "may" find YOUR solutions to YOUR grief works for them. Thank you for CARING about others.  ‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌💛‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌

Luv,

Nicole ‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌🤗‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌🤗‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌🤗‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌ (Grief Forum)

[MerriS613632]

I have so many days where I don't want to go on I've had two older brothers and died last year I only have one left and I'm the only girl and my father's daughter just died last week. I'm living in independent living home right now and my roommate was just taken to the hospital for bed sores and there's days that really it's one minute at a time. Some days I just wish I had a car so I could find someone to do a Thelma and Louise with

[SpringIsHereVA]

✏  Merri @MerriS613632 , I am SO SORRY for your loss dear friend. I luv watching "Thelma & Louise" - maybe you can talk to the folks in charge about a day trip somwhere. WE ALL need to "escape" sometimes to RECHARGE. Sounds like you are due one.

I hope you stop by again to see us. SO GLAD YOU DID!!!

Luv,

Nicole  🤗🤗🤗  (Grief Forum)

[SpringIsHereVA]

On those days/nights when you feel you CANNOT GO ON = remember that when YOU ARE GONE, your luv ones will be feeling the SAME WAY.

This thought is what keeps me going.

FIND WHAT HELPS you to travel YOUR JOURNEY on those days/nights.

Bottom line, WHAT TIME WE HAVE LEFT should be "spent" creating "memories" for WHEN WE ARE GONE.

Every day/night, I miss my Maternal Grandparents BUT the "memories" of my 16 years with them as a child COMFORTS me. Also "inspires" me to do the same with my only child (NO grandkids), a precious & luving daughter.  ‌‌‌‌💛‌‌‌‌

It has ZERO TO DO WITH SPENDING MONEY. It is about SPENDING TIME WITH THEM.

Luv,

Nicole  ‌‌‌‌🤗‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌🤗‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌🤗‌‌‌‌  (Grief Forum)

[SpringIsHereVA]

‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌👋‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌  Welcome to the AARP Grief Forum!!!

In this forum, WE find support and share advice with others who have lost a loved one.

The loss may be days or years, ALL ARE WELCOME.

Thank you AARP for creating this forum for us.  ‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌💛‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌

Luv,

Nicole ‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌🤗‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌🤗‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌🤗‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌ (Grief Forum)

[SpringIsHereVA]

WE cry, rejoice, talk, share!

Whatever YOU need, WE are here for YOU.

YOU are a very SPECIAL person and WE want to hear from YOU!!!

Grief & Loss Team  ‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌💛‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌

[AnnaA727881]

Thank you for creating such a warm and open space.

I'm new here, but reading this already made me feel a little more seen and less alone.
It’s comforting to know there’s a place where people genuinely care.

Wishing peace and healing to anyone reading this today 💛
– Anna

[SpringIsHereVA]

♻️  Anna @AnnaA727881 , have you lost someone?

This is what this forum is about.

Luv,

Nicole  🤗🤗🤗  (Grief Forum)

[SpringIsHereVA]

[Attachment] I am SO SORRY for YOUR loss!!!   💛

Luv,

Nicole   🤗🤗🤗   (Grief Forum)

[SpringIsHereVA]

[.gif attached] Thought YOU may need one of these!!!   💛

Luv,

Nicole 🤗🤗🤗 (Grief Forum)

[SuzanneS949035]

Thank you for the notes, with 'hugs', uplifting messages.   I do sincerely appreciate all of them.

It's been 6 mths since my husband died, the beginning of the month really rough, finally the end of April I finally accepted that I couldn't have done anything else to change his outcome.

In the end I honored his wishes, and he was suffering in pain so much, I most definitely didn't wish to add or prolong his agony.

So far anyway, I don't feel like I'm going to cry at the drop of a hat everyday.   Little by little sorting through the anger of his abuse of money that we never had the chance to discuss which complicated the grief and overwhelming conflicting emotions.

I hope everyone out there challenged with grief finds this wonderfully uplifting group.

God Bless each and everyone of you.   Sending 'hugs' and positive energy to all who may want or need it.

So, today is a good day.   ❤️

Suzanne

SuzanneS949035

[MarcyW882921]

Wow Suzanne @SuzanneS949035 !

That is a huge step to accept that you did all that you could for your husband. The guilt and what ifs are enormous burdens to carry after a loss.

Celebrate your success, good days, and persistence in working through other aspects of your grief.

Hugs,

Marcy

[SpringIsHereVA]

♻️  SO GOOD to hear from you AGAIN Suzanne @SuzanneS949035 !!!  💛

Yes, anger is normal and WE will learn to "let go" of it as we keep stepping dear friend.

Yes, my daughter's father had chosen drugs & alcohol over being a dad to her. Sadly because of his lifestyle, COVID got him. Now she is left with "unresolved" emotions I am hoping will heal at some point. I have forgiven him. She has NOT and says she will NEVER.

Did you move out of your house?  🤔

I am ALWAYS HERE FOR YOU!!!

Luv,

Nicole  🤗🤗🤗  (Grief Forum)

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➡️[*** Suzanne wrote: Thank you for the notes, with 'hugs', uplifting messages.   I do sincerely appreciate all of them.

It's been 6 mths since my husband died, the beginning of the month really rough, finally the end of April I finally accepted that I couldn't have done anything else to change his outcome.

In the end I honored his wishes, and he was suffering in pain so much, I most definitely didn't wish to add or prolong his agony.

So far anyway, I don't feel like I'm going to cry at the drop of a hat everyday.   Little by little sorting through the anger of his abuse of money that we never had the chance to discuss which complicated the grief and overwhelming conflicting emotions.

I hope everyone out there challenged with grief finds this wonderfully uplifting group.

God Bless each and everyone of you.   Sending 'hugs' and positive energy to all who may want or need it.

So, today is a good day.   ❤️

Suzanne ***]

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[MarcyW882921]

Nicole @SpringIsHereVA , 

I hope your daughter will one day find a way to let go of her anger and find peace. Anger can be so destructive and consuming, and our time on earth is precious. 

Marcy

[SpringIsHereVA]

I hope so too Marcy @MarcyW882921 !!! Lol, she use to get mad at me when he was still alive because I would tell her that IF he had NOT come into my life = I would NOT have had her. It took years for me to have peace about his choices. IF he had MOVED away from his TOXIC parents like his grandmother & myself wanted, he would still be with us. Now to HOPE my daughter GUARDS her "insides" from them. I need to return to Florida to make sure, but need to make sure I CAN DEAL WITH THEM MYSELF.  💛  These 10 years in Virginia has SAVED MY LIFE. Luv, Nicole  🤗🤗🤗  (Grief Forum)

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➡️[*** Marcy wrote: Nicole, I hope your daughter will one day find a way to let go of her anger and find peace. Anger can be so destructive and consuming, and our time on earth is precious. 

Marcy ***]

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[SuzanneS949035]

I hope your daughter can release her anger, with her forgiveness will come a worthwhile release of that pain.   As you know, it won't change what happened but will allow her to live a happier life unburdened from the anger.

I decided to take some money from retirement to allow me time to decide what I need/want to do.

For now, I am staying at the house, working on getting a part time job that I hope will allow me to continue to stay in my home.

Thank you for all of your support, I will pop in again.  I do appreciate you!

Hugs~

❣️

Suzanne

SuzanneS949035

[MarcyW882921]

Suzanne @SuzanneS949035 ,

It's great that you are actively exploring and finding ways to stay in your home while you think through your decisions! Being in a comfortable environment helps to facilitate clearer thinking and reduces at least one stress factor.

Marcy

Marcy

[SpringIsHereVA]

Thank you SO MUCH Suzanne @SuzanneS949035 & I am SO PROUD of you my friend!!!

Look at you. When I first met you, you were numb and not functioning.

YOU GO girl, a BEAUTIFUL butterfly flying to a NEW LIFE FULL OF HOPE.

Yes, please stop by when you can.

Luv,

Nicole  🤗🤗🤗  (Grief Forum)

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➡️[*** Suzanne wrote: I hope your daughter can release her anger, with her forgiveness will come a worthwhile release of that pain.   As you know, it won't change what happened but will allow her to live a happier life unburdened from the anger.

I decided to take some money from retirement to allow me time to decide what I need/want to do.

For now, I am staying at the house, working on getting a part time job that I hope will allow me to continue to stay in my home.

Thank you for all of your support, I will pop in again.  I do appreciate you!

Hugs~

❣️

Suzanne ***]

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[SpringIsHereVA]

 I am thinking of you & hope you are okay @jimbohretired @MarcyW882921 @KarlaH578935 @MkK700720 @SuzanneS949035 @mr6784  💛

[MarcyW882921]

Yes, I am on my way to our competition weekend! Thanks.🎶

[SpringIsHereVA]

ENJOY Marcy @MarcyW882921  💛

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[*** @MarcyW882921 wrote 4/3/25:

Yes, I am on my way to our competition weekend! Thanks.🎶 ***]

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[SpringIsHereVA]

I may be wrong, but I believe grief is a LIFETIME JOURNEY.

WE try to pick up the pieces the best we can.

REMEMBER: Our luv ones are watching over us ALL THE TIME.  ‌‌‌‌‌💛‌‌‌‌‌

Luv,

Nicole ‌‌‌‌‌🤗‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌🤗‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌🤗‌‌‌‌‌ (Grief Forum)

[jimbohretired]

 YUP- Grief is indeed a lifelong journey. The love of my live went to heaven just before Christmas in 2021 so will be four years this christmas. I am actually now functioning  very well

and living life normally (whatever that is). But every once in a while I notice something that reminds me of Jan - maybe shed a few tears but not many. The solace I have is the way I was able to take care of her since Dec. 2014. It was at that point her kidneys failed and she began the downward  journey.  She ended up with a kidney transplant in 2015, two strokes one in 2016 one about 88 days after the first stroke, two broken shoulders from falls and a hip replacement. She did over 100 Dr. visits, had  the two surgeries, and recoveries, and the disabling strokes. The sad part was she recovered 100% from the first stroke but the Dr. told us to wait 90 days before we know that all is ok as  a second stroke is common within the first 90 days. She had her second and  much more disabling stroke on the 88th day. Through this all she was positive and had a great attitude.

The end came in Dec. 21 of 2021. She had contacted covid in October and the first thing the Dr. told me was that she had virtually no chance of recovering from it as she had no immune system due to the anti-rejection drugs she was on for her kidney.

And life goes on. 

[SpringIsHereVA]

@jimbohretired , SO GOOD to hear from you!!! I think it was LAST year 2024 you had mentioned a cruise with friends. Did you go?  🤔

Luv,

Nicole  🤗🤗🤗  (Grief Forum)

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[*** @jimbohretired wrote 4/3/25:

 YUP- Grief is indeed a lifelong journey. The love of my live went to heaven just before Christmas in 2021 so will be four years this christmas. I am actually now functioning  very well

and living life normally (whatever that is). But every once in a while I notice something that reminds me of Jan - maybe shed a few tears but not many. The solace I have is the way I was able to take care of her since Dec. 2014. It was at that point her kidneys failed and she began the downward  journey.  She ended up with a kidney transplant in 2015, two strokes one in 2016 one about 88 days after the first stroke, two broken shoulders from falls and a hip replacement. She did over 100 Dr. visits, had  the two surgeries, and recoveries, and the disabling strokes. The sad part was she recovered 100% from the first stroke but the Dr. told us to wait 90 days before we know that all is ok as  a second stroke is common within the first 90 days. She had her second and  much more disabling stroke on the 88th day. Through this all she was positive and had a great attitude.

The end came in Dec. 21 of 2021. She had contacted covid in October and the first thing the Dr. told me was that she had virtually no chance of recovering from it as she had no immune system due to the anti-rejection drugs she was on for her kidney.

And life goes on. ***]

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[jimbohretired]

And Yes I did do a cruise with friends (next door neighbors) and was a very good getaway. Enjoyed myself - 

Jim

[SpringIsHereVA]

SO GOOD to hear from you Jim @jimbohretired !!! Your posts have been an INSPIRATION for us all. Thank you.  💛

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➡️[*** Jim wrote: And Yes I did do a cruise with friends (next door neighbors) and was a very good getaway. Enjoyed myself - 

Jim ***]

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