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[Fall2025VA]

♻️♻️♻️  Good Morning Suzanne @SuzanneS949035 !!!

How are you TODAY?

I am here IF and when you need me!!!

I hope you slept last night.

I am thinking of YOU.

Luv,

Nicole  🤗🤗🤗  (Grief Forum)

[SuzanneS949035]

 Hello Nicole,

I'm hanging in there one day at a time.   His adult kids came this past weekend to get some of his things I thought they should have of his.

I'm still dragging my tail not moving forward with any routine, just trying to cover all bases and figure out if I can afford to keep my house.

I'm ok until someone asks about him, then it comes rushing back like it just happened.

HOping the woulduve, coulduve, shoulduve stuff moves on so I can stop tormenting myself and second guessing what I could have done different to help him.

I'm trying.....

I hope you're doing well.

Suzanne

[Fall2025VA]

♻️♻️♻️  Hello dear Suzanne @SuzanneS949035 , how are you doing?

I hope you will stop by again.

Luv,

Nicole  🤗🤗🤗  (Grief Forum)

[SuzanneS949035]

Hello Nicole,

The holidays have been rough as I imagine they are for so many with lost loved ones.

Didn't put the big tree up this year, my heart wasn't in it.   Ironic, that last year he was in the hospital for every single holiday, including his birthday and out anniversary.   I guess that was an early warning of what was to come.

Slowly sorting thru all of his stuff.   The garage looks like a hardware store, not even sure where to start.   In a few months I need to sell the house to move some place less expensive, with taxes and insurance going up, its too much with only one paying the bills.

I pray you had a lovely thanksgiving and that you will be enjoying Christmas with your daughter, thank you for reaching out, it helps remind me that I need to keep moving forward.

Hugs to you and everyone this season,

Suzanne

[Fall2025VA]

Dear Suzanne @SuzanneS949035 , I DO NOT do the holidays, but admire the folks who do. Maybe one day I too will. 👍

I am SO SORRY to hear about you having to downsize. But as Marcy @MarcyW882921 said - this may force you into taking a step towards dealing with that clutter we all have during our Healing Journey.

YOU ARE DOING GREAT!!!

I am here IF you need me.

Luv,

Nicole 🤗🤗🤗 (Grief Forum)

[MarcyW882921]

Hi Suzanne @SuzanneS949035 . Yes, this can be a really difficult time of year.

 Not putting up your big tree was your decision, and it's ok. Unfortunately, the unhappy memories of your husband's hospitalizations and illnesses during the past year are consuming your thoughts and not allowing your heart to be in the holiday spirit this year. Your grief is part of you, and in time, you will grow around it and create new memories.

Sorting through all of the stuff can be overwhelming! I just told a friend about the amount of stuff in my house that I have not had the fortitude to tackle after two years! Maybe your need to sell the house will turn out to be positive because you will have to deal with the stuff. 

Keep taking a step at a time Suzanne!

Marcy

[SuzanneS949035]

Hello,

Each day is better, in some ways, in others worse when I encounter surprise financial responsibilities I will need to resolve placing me in a bad spot.

Today it's anger - grief - disbelief he did this and I didn't know it.

Tomorrow will be a better day.

Thank you for all you do, I hope you're doing well.

Thanks so much

Suzanne

[SuzanneS949035]

Hello Nicole,

Went to the funeral home to sign creation papers.   Trying to sort thru all the financial things and try not to worry.

Thank you for your group, I sincerely appreciate you.

Suzanne

[MarcyW882921]

Suzanne @SuzanneS949035 you have one thing marked off of your list of things to take care of. It can be overwhelming so prioritize the items and work your way through them at a pace you can handle. Some things can't be done until you have death certificates so those will have to wait. Hopefully your funeral director gave you a list to follow and you will feel your burden lighten as you check them off as being done.

You will get through this.

Marcy

[SuzanneS949035]

Suzanne

Thank you, they actually gave me the link for AARP which I already had since I've been a member.

One day I cry the next I can't today is the crying day I think, I finally slept last night after a week, I know he just died Sunday but it still seems so unreal.

He's had many health issues and I have a health background but no one prepared us that the end was here.

His kids are grown and so are mine, hugs to you too.

the future seems so uncertain, unfortunately after I retired I no longer had great life insurance for him and once we were going to his health was too bad.

Thank you again, sincerely

Suzanne 

[Fall2025VA]

WE will always miss them but as we MOVE FORWARD there will be less tears and more smiles when we think of them.  ‌🤗‌‌🤗‌‌🤗‌

[SuzanneS949035]

 Thank you, those words are very helpful.   Looking forward to reaching the smiles.

[Fall2025VA]

Migraines are NO FUN Marcy, hope you feel better SOON!!!  🤗🤗🤗

[*** MARCY wrote: I didn't sleep well last night and it triggered a creepy migraine today. I hate giving in to it so I'm fighting it the best I can. ‌😩‌

Marcy ***]

[mc6844]

Marcy, I hope your feeling better!

[MarcyW882921]

I didn't sleep well last night and it triggered a creepy migraine today. I hate giving in to it so I'm fighting it the best I can. 😩

Marcy

[Fall2025VA]

Yes, it can be Virginia @VirginiaC26708 !!!

Luv,

Nicole  🤗🤗🤗

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[VirginiaC26708]

At times its very hard

[Fall2025VA]

You are WELCOME Virginia @VirginiaC26708 !!!

Luv,

Nicole  🤗🤗🤗

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[VirginiaC26708]

x thank You

[Fall2025VA]

AARP Expert Amy @agoyer has some WISDOM to share after her losses.  🤗🤗🤗

I have "pasted" the link BELOW to her post in OUR GRIEF SUPPORT GROUP located in the AARP Friends & Family Forum. She is ALWAYS there for us grievers and welcomes questions. Thank you Amy!!!

*** Lol, it takes about 1 minute for link to take you DIRECTLY to her post.  🙄  ***

https://community.aarp.org/t5/Friends-Family/A-Place-To-Be-With-OTHERS-Who-Are-Grieving-WE-support-e...

[agoyer]

@Fall2025VA Thank you! And thank you for all that you do! 

[Fall2025VA]

♻️  [Thursday 9/5/24 10:51am ET]

Okay guys, I MISS YOU ALL!!!

Since we are NO longer allowed to continue with Our Daily Chat Thread here in the Grief Forum - AARP had suggested STARTING one in their Friends & Family Forum.

Lol, I had told them NO ONE posts there anymore and forum has died over the years.  🙄🙄🙄

But, how about we give it a try???

Any takers???

I am heading out to library down my hill to hopefully hand wash my car in PEACE. Yes, need me some of that. Here at apartment way too many folks want to borrow my ears. NOT TODAY.

I am heading to PM the Grief Team (well, before we disbanded last month due to new rules).

I can set up a NEW THREAD there for us to CONTINUE to nurture each other on Our Healing Journeys!!!  💃💃💃

Luv you ALL my friends,

Nicole  🤗🤗🤗

[Fall2025VA]

[Thursday 9/5/24 1:32pm ET]

Marcy @MarcyW882921 , Cadee @Cadee2719 and MC @mc6844 - I just got a response from Jonibee @jonibee via PM/private message. She is INTERESTED and having surgery tomorrow. I will set things up tonight and let you know HOW TO FIND IT in case you want to follow us.  🙄🙄🙄

Luv you ALL my friends,

Nicole  🤗🤗🤗

[mc6844]

Thank you Nicole. House, car stuff have been taking up my time. I hope you are all well. I keep you in my prayers. Thank you for all your help and support. I'm interested in your chat link too! I'm sorry for everyone's loss. Please take care 

[GailL1]

@Fall2025VA 

I am sure that you will make a success of it with your dedication and spirit.  

You mentioned a couple of words in a post not too long ago concerning going to the Friends and Family board with this sort of discussion. I thought these two word captured exactly what you and others here are trying to accomplish - the words were “MOVING FORWARD”, I believe, and it is an important aspect of life after loss - a more long term quest whether emotional, mentally, physically, logistically or just those everyday decisions that have to be made. 

Think you said it well here on 08/29/2024 (7:42 pm)

https://community.aarp.org/t5/Grief-Loss/I-m-still-here-Good-news-finally/m-p/2567652#M15131 

Good Luck 

[Fall2025VA]

You are welcome MC @mc6844 and thank you for yours!!!

Luv you my friend,

Nicole  🤗🤗🤗

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[*** MC wrote: Thank you for all your support Nicole! ❤️  ***]

[mc6844]

Thank you for all your support Nicole! ❤️ 

[Fall2025VA]

Dear Jonibee @jonibee and Cadee@Cadee2719 I miss hearing from you dear friends and hope you are BOTH doing well on your JOURNEY OF HEALING  🤗🤗🤗

You guys have lost luv ones who are SO PROUD of what you have accomplished while grieving.

MY thoughts stay with you!!!

Luv you VERY MUCH,

Nicole  🤗🤗🤗  and  🤗🤗🤗

[jonibee]

Just taking a moment to say hello and things are proceeding as they should..I have 3 upcoming appts and then there is the waiting time for diag anf primary care visit..So Until all this happens within this month & next, I will be hoping for a good outcome regarding my health. Thank You for inquiring as to how I'm doing..Hoping all is well with you too...

[Fall2025VA]

So GOOD to hear from you dear Jonibee @jonibee !!!  💃💃💃

Found out TODAY I have pre-diabetes and need to exercise and do a Mediterrean diet.  🙄🙄🙄

So between GRIEVING - slum landlord, I need to figure out WHERE to move to. This move will help me with my grieving, depression and anger. Thanks for asking dear friend.

Luv you VERY MUCH,

Nicole  🤗🤗🤗

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[*** JONIBEE@ wrote: Just taking a moment to say hello and things are proceeding as they should..I have 3 upcoming appts and then there is the waiting time for diag anf primary care visit..So Until all this happens within this month & next, I will be hoping for a good outcome regarding my health. Thank You for inquiring as to how I'm doing..Hoping all is well with you too... ***]

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