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๐ค WE are thinking of YOU! Please Stop By To See Us :)
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๐ค WE are thinking of YOU! Please Stop By To See Us :)
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โป๏ธ [1 comment] WHAT HAS BEEN THE HARDEST PART OF YOUR HEALING JOURNEY? ๐ค
Me - anger. Anger at NOT having the Love Ones I lost in my life as I age. 66 this year (2024). Nicole โโ๐ค๐ค๐คโโ
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โป๏ธ [4 comments] AT SOME POINT OF OUR "HEALING JOURNEY" WE ARE READY TO GET BACK OUT THERE TO SOCIALIZE. ARE YOU? Nicole ๐ค๐ค๐ค โ
Me - finally "feeling" the interest to locate some PEACEFUL interactions with folks MY AGE [66 this year 2024]. Lol, had visited the local Senior Center and lost interest once I encountered I guess the member who feels she runs it. Rude and controlling. I had hoped the place would be run by the County who owns it. Guess not.
So NOW to figure out some other "possibilities" and research some other ideas [as I find them].
Nicole โ๐คโ
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Nicole, I got a chuckle when I read your post. I could just see you encountering this person, then walking out. So many groups are like that. Have you tried wildlife rescue? I think there's a whole network of people rescuing injured wildlife and getting them to rescue locations. They have people who pick up the animals. It sounds very interesting and rewarding. Just a suggestion!
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Nicole, so funny! Know that I'm laughing with you, not at you. I find the wildlife rescue interesting and enjoyable to follow. It's so good those animals don't have to suffer out in the wild or be destroyed. I couldn't do much except take a pic of an injured bird, racoon etc and send it to the local rescue. They have local rescues now for every kind of animal, amazing.
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Jonibee @jonibee , where did you get YOUR copy? Nicole ๐ค๐ค๐ค
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Marcy @MarcyW882921 , hmmm - do you mean setting up the home you shared with a luv one who passed?
In your case, your husband.
[1] The challenge is the bedroom deciding whether to keep the bed you BOTH slept in. Are you keeping yours? I tend to want "reminders" gone - not things like pictures, just furniture.
[2] Another challenge is maybe the ROUTINE you may have had with him. Maybe a garden, or sitting on a porch for morning coffee or watching TV in the evenings. Now the garden can be THERAPY as we can continue to work in it to "honor" him. As far as TV programs - that one is "emotional" and stepping away for some time helped.
Not sure what you are needing but this is my 2 cents worth.
Luv you STRONG AND DETERMINED lady!!! Nicole ๐ค๐ค๐ค
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Thanks Nicole @iLuvAutumn for weighing in on this topic. All of us are unique as individuals and therefore in our responses to grief.
One of the presenters in the webinars talked about how the minute your loved one passes away your life is changed. The people in this forum certainly know this is true. I think we have discussed the change in one's identity, the search for who you are without that person, and finding one's purpose in life.
Another change is our perception of our living space. Are you comfortable there without your loved one? Can you continue to live there? Are changes needed to improve your comfort level? Is there a desire to "make it your own" reflecting your personal tastes?
I have been very comfortable in my home because I feel love and a presence. I did however do a remodeling of two rooms that we had planned together. I did make selections in the process that reflected my personal tastes. Recently I changed some window treatments and bedspreads that create an even happier place for me.
All the best to everyone who is working through all of these issues.
Marcy
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Marcy, that is a good topic. Arranging living space is a great way to move oneself forward. Especially if I'm not up to conventional ways like for instance, moving. A counselor pointed out to me that selling my home may feel like another loss. Something that hadn't occurred to me. I did get clutter cleared from my kitchen. Painted the walls. It makes it easier and pleasant.
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Thank you Marcy. You brought up a good topic. Getting stored stuff in my kitchen cupboards cleared was a big job. During the illness I didn't have the time or energy. My neighbor helped me to haul bags of stuff. I was out in the driveway with all this stuff and they offered a hand. Lol I think they were sorry they asked. I also cleared a sunroom. But don't enjoy sitting there like I thought. All in all, my place feels lighter and is easier to clean and manage. I have a very small space. It's fine. We downsized quite some time ago. I also have an owl outside though always out of site. It feels lighter removing items like cups and bowls and items utilized during the illness. New curtains, pillows for couch, coat of fresh paint in kitchen. New kitchen towels, soup bowls and a few dishes. To help food be more appetizing. We can create new where we are.
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Yes MC @mc6844 , replacing "small" items/downsizing has really helped me to kind of have a NEW routine.
My daughter "keeps" stuff. Gosh, she will need to rethink her townhouse by the time she gets to my age = will be NO room.
I am very contented in my CUTE Studio Apartment but need to move it offgrid. Tired of my neighbors. So that is priority for when my lease expires. Need peace and quiet in my Old Age.
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โป๏ธ [4 comments] Are you SLEEPING at nights? ๐ค
What "helps" you to get those zzz's in?
I DREAD nights.
Some I am AWAKE ALL NIGHT.
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I think everyone has a "window" when they can get to sleep. Around the same time each night. Keeping busy all day, exercise and keeping blood sugar even. Occasionally none of this helps. Then I play a sleep meditation or healing tape. I've read that older people sleep an average of 4 to 5 hours a night. The good news is that morning arises. I know it isn't easy.
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Nicole I'm sorry you're suffering with sleep issues. Having a cup of hot soup at night might help. Soup has minerals your body needs for many things. Plus it's easy to digest. During the day try eating food that contributes to good sleep like oatmeal, sweet potatoes, salads etc. Building up our systems with nutrients helps sleep. Short walks or a form of exercise gets kinks out of the muscles. Could be your body and mind are going through adjustment to life changes. Not easy, any way you look at it. Except it will more than likely get better with time. Take care, you do such wonderful work on the forum.
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โป๏ธ [1 comment] WE are all at different "stages" of OUR HEALING JOURNEY.
Some of us are making CHANGES that will help us to MOVE FORWARD.
*** Everyone is invited to add THEIR journey to this discussion ๐ค๐ค๐ค
[1] We have Cadee @Cadee2719 who has SOLD HER HOUSE ๐๐๐ and moving to Idaho!
[2] Our "Social Butterfly" Marcy @MarcyW882921 has taken SOLO ROAD TRIPS AND SOCIALIZING!
[3] MC @mc6844 ?
[4] Jonibee @jonibee is TAKING CARE OF HER HEALTH! Anything to add Jonibee?
[5] And me, really need to "socialize" ๐ but I am getting things SET UP to lay my old head somewhere in Florida.
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The way I can move myself forward now is how I approach things. I'm not convinced we all get healed on this earthly plane I don't know what the afterlife will be like. I suppose it depends on the level of spirituality at the time of departure. An ongoing process. But I'm sure Nicole is referring to our healing time on earth.
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I am still in the appt stage of two more specialist to see because in todays world things are not as fast as we would like them to be..I am happy that Spring is almost upon us so planning for outside garden is on my to do list..I continue to read as knitting is out due to carpal tunnel in one hand and that's a bummer..I think that when I was the caretaker my husband needs took priority over my health needs and now I am facing the music so to speak..I will continue to remain positive in any outcome health wise and attend to that..Hoping all is fine with you all ...One day at a time...
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