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๐ค WE are thinking of YOU! Please Stop By To See Us :)
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WE cry, rejoice, talk, share!
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[5:44pm] Join a grief support group in person or online. It might help to talk with others who are also grieving. Check with your local hospice, hospitals, religious communities, and government agencies to find a group in your area.
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[2:18pm] Try not to make any MAJOR CHANGES right away. Itโs a good idea to wait for a while before making BIG decisions, like MOVING or CHANGING JOBS. Lol, sometimes we RUN from the "memories" and end up in a "very unsafe" situation. I use to have a Phd degree in that!!! ๐ฑ TAKE YOUR TIME... ๐
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[11:28am] Be patient. It can take months or even YEARS to absorb a major loss and ACCEPT YOUR CHANGED LIFE.
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[11:25am] WHAT ADVICE WOULD YOU GIVE TO SOMEONE WHO IS GRIEVING? ๐ค I will ADD your advice to this list! Thanks, Nicole ๐ค
My Advice - not everyone is going to "understand" your journey, so find ways to connect with folks who do. Not everyone is going to make time for you. TREASURE THE ONES THAT DO AND THANK THEM!!! ๐
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[10:50am] AT SOME POINT OF OUR "HEALING JOURNEY" WE ARE READY TO GET BACK OUT THERE TO SOCIALIZE. ARE YOU? ๐ค
Me - finally "feeling" the interest to locate some PEACEFUL interactions with folks MY AGE [66 this year 2024]. Lol, had visited the local Senior Center and lost interest once I encountered I guess the member who feels she runs it. Rude and controlling. I had hoped the place would be run by the County who owns it. Guess not.
So NOW to figure out some other "possibilities" and research some other ideas [as I find them].
Nicole ๐ค
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[8:12am] WHAT HAS HELPED YOU THE MOST WITH YOUR HEALING JOURNEY? โ๐คโ
Me - my daughter. Knowing she NEEDS me, the only parent she has left. I still have my monents, but I make an effort for her. Nicole โ๐คโ
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Marcy @MarcyW882921 , hmmm - do you mean setting up the home you shared with a luv one who passed?
In your case, your husband.
[1] The challenge is the bedroom deciding whether to keep the bed you BOTH slept in. Are you keeping yours? I tend to want "reminders" gone - not things like pictures, just furniture.
[2] Another challenge is maybe the ROUTINE you may have had with him. Maybe a garden, or sitting on a porch for morning coffee or watching TV in the evenings. Now the garden can be THERAPY as we can continue to work in it to "honor" him. As far as TV programs - that one is "emotional" and stepping away for some time helped.
Not sure what you are needing but this is my 2 cents worth.
Luv you STRONG AND DETERMINED lady!!! ๐ค๐ค๐ค
[*** MARCY @MarcyW882921 wrote:So...I would be interested in hearing about anyone's journey to create a living space of your own after the loss of a loved one.
Marcy ***]
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Thanks Nicole @SpringIsHereSoHappy for weighing in on this topic. All of us are unique as individuals and therefore in our responses to grief.
One of the presenters in the webinars talked about how the minute your loved one passes away your life is changed. The people in this forum certainly know this is true. I think we have discussed the change in one's identity, the search for who you are without that person, and finding one's purpose in life.
Another change is our perception of our living space. Are you comfortable there without your loved one? Can you continue to live there? Are changes needed to improve your comfort level? Is there a desire to "make it your own" reflecting your personal tastes?
I have been very comfortable in my home because I feel love and a presence. I did however do a remodeling of two rooms that we had planned together. I did make selections in the process that reflected my personal tastes. Recently I changed some window treatments and bedspreads that create an even happier place for me.
All the best to everyone who is working through all of these issues.
Marcy
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Marcy, that is a good topic. Arranging living space is a great way to move oneself forward. Especially if I'm not up to conventional ways like for instance, moving. A counselor pointed out to me that selling my home may feel like another loss. Something that hadn't occurred to me. I did get clutter cleared from my kitchen. Painted the walls. It makes it easier and pleasant.
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๐ BOOK LIST (books read & recommended by Grief Forum members) ๐
(1) So Sorry for Your Loss: How I Learned to Live with Grief, and Other Grave Concerns. Book by Dina Gachman.
(2) Grieving: How to Go on Living when Someone You Love Dies. Book by Therese A Rando.
(3) Healing After Loss: Daily Meditations For Working Through Grief. Book by Martha Whitmore Hickman.
(4) The Love Never Ends (Messages from the Other Side ) by Sunny Dawn Johnson.
(5) The Grieving Brain, by Mary-Frances O'Connor.
(6) When Bad Things Happen to Good People by Harold Kushner.
(7) The Widower's Notebook a memoir by Jonathan Santlofer.
(8) Mindfulness & Grief by Heather Stang.
(9) I Wasn't ready To Say Goodbye by Brook Noel & Pamela D. Blair, PhD.
(10) Life After Loss Conquering Grief and Finding Hope by Raymond Moody Jr., M.D. and Dianne Arcangel.
(11) Different After You Rediscovering Yourself and Healing After Grief and Trauma by Michele Neff Hernandez.
(12) Grieving: How to Go on Living when Someone You Love Dies. Book by Therese A Rando.
(13) The Love Never Ends: Messages from the Other Side. Book by Sunny Dawn Johnston.
(14) Widow to Widow by Genevieve Ginsburg.
(15) Build the Life You Want by Arthur C. Brooks and Oprah Winfrey.
(16) Hello from Heaven: A New Field of Research-After-Death Communication Confirms That Life and Love Are Eternal. Book by Bill Guggenheim and Judy Guggenheim.
(17) When Your Spouse Dies, A Widow and Widower's Handbook by Othniel J. Seiden and Jane Bilett.
(18) On Death and Grieving: A Psychic Medium's Perspective. Jeffrey A. Wands.
(19) Journey of Souls by Michael Newton PhD.
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Thanks @Therapist4u , we have a GREAT team who "contributed" to OUR list ๐๐๐
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Are you SLEEPING at nights? ๐ค
What "helps" you to get those zzz's in?
I DREAD nights.
Some I am AWAKE ALL NIGHT ๐๐๐
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I think everyone has a "window" when they can get to sleep. Around the same time each night. Keeping busy all day, exercise and keeping blood sugar even. Occasionally none of this helps. Then I play a sleep meditation or healing tape. I've read that older people sleep an average of 4 to 5 hours a night. The good news is that morning arises. I know it isn't easy.
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MC @mc6844 , I am okay the NEXT morning with NO sleep IF I donot have to drive. That is NO fun at all!!! ๐๐๐
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