📚 Grief & Loss Books!

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(1) Have YOU read any books that has/is HELPING YOU? 🤔

(2) Check out the books OTHER MEMBERS have mentioned.

Grief & Loss Team 🤎🤗

[SpringIsHereVA]

BOOK LIST [books read & recommended by GRIEF Forum members].

(1) So Sorry for Your Loss: How I Learned to Live with Grief, and Other Grave Concerns. Book by Dina Gachman.

(2) Grieving: How to Go on Living when Someone You Love Dies. Book by Therese A Rando.

(3) Healing After Loss: Daily Meditations For Working Through Grief. Book by Martha Whitmore Hickman.

(4) The Love Never Ends (Messages from the Other Side ) by Sunny Dawn Johnson.

(5) The Grieving Brain, by Mary-Frances O'Connor.

(6) When Bad Things Happen to Good People by Harold Kushner.

(7) The Widower's Notebook a memoir by Jonathan Santlofer.

(8) Mindfulness & Grief by Heather Stang.

(9) I Wasn't ready To Say Goodbye by Brook Noel & Pamela D. Blair, PhD.

(10) Life After Loss Conquering Grief and Finding Hope by Raymond Moody Jr., M.D. and Dianne Arcangel.

(11) Different After You Rediscovering Yourself and Healing After Grief and Trauma by Michele Neff Hernandez.

(12) Grieving: How to Go on Living when Someone You Love Dies. Book by Therese A Rando.

(13) The Love Never Ends: Messages from the Other Side. Book by Sunny Dawn Johnston.

(14) Widow to Widow by Genevieve Ginsburg.

(15) Build the Life You Want by Arthur C. Brooks and Oprah Winfrey.

(16) Hello from Heaven: A New Field of Research-After-Death Communication Confirms That Life and Love Are Eternal. Book by Bill Guggenheim and Judy Guggenheim.

(17) When Your Spouse Dies, A Widow and Widower's Handbook by Othniel J. Seiden and Jane Bilett.

(18) On Death and Grieving: A Psychic Medium's Perspective. Jeffrey A. Wands.

(19) Journey of Souls by Michael Newton PhD.

(20) Finding Meaning by David Kessler.

(21) Healing After Loss by Martha W. Hickman.

(22) C.S. Lewis - A Grief Observed.

[SpringIsHereVA]

(1) Have YOU read any books that has/is HELPING YOU? ‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌🤔‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌

(2) Check out the books OTHER MEMBERS have mentioned.

Grief & Loss Team  ‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌💛‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌

[SpringIsHereVA]

Thank you for stopping by Tom @2bigsky1 !!!

[*** TOM wrote: Howdy. I like Saturday Night Widows by Becky Aikman. The Grieving Brain which you noted is very good. Lately, I've been following Nora McInerny https://noraborealis.com/ and liked her book No Happy Endings.  It's been 14 years for me and with the help of my grief therapist, time, writing and publishing 2 books, family, friends and a loving partner, I've been able to integrate grief into my life in a more healthy way. Not one days goes by though without wishing my wife was still here. ***]

[2bigsky1]

  Howdy. I like Saturday Night Widows by Becky Aikman. The Grieving Brain which you noted is very good. Lately, I've been following Nora McInerny https://noraborealis.com/ and liked her book No Happy Endings.  It's been 14 years for me and with the help of my grief therapist, time, writing and publishing 2 books, family, friends and a loving partner, I've been able to integrate grief into my life in a more healthy way. Not one days goes by though without wishing my wife was still here.

[MarcyW882921]

Thanks @2bigsky1 for adding to the book list and sharing!

Marcy

[2bigsky1]

 Sorry for your loss. Readers of my memoir, "Lucy's Biggest Fish to Fry" found it helpful to know that their caregiver role was the start of their grieving process and that they weren't alone. My second book, "The Accidental Player" explores life and its challenges after loss.

I have read many grief books and I like "The Grieving Brain" by Mary-Frances O'Connor among others. 

Recently I viewed a great Ted Talk by Nora McInerny and like her book "No Happy Endings: A Memoir"

A 

[DeborahK97468]

would like free book on love after 50 by Russo

[SpringIsHereVA]

@DeborahK97468 , I have NO idea about you being able to obtain a FREE copy. Maybe "borrow" a copy from the library or contact the Author or their Publisher.

Good Luck!

[GailL1]

Kind of old but still my very favorite 

C.S. Lewis - A Grief Observed

Wikipedia - A Grief Observed

[SpringIsHereVA]

Thanks Gail @GailL1 , I will ADD to Our Group Book List. Nicole  ‌👵‌

[*** GAIL wrote: Kind of old but still my very favorite 
C.S. Lewis - A Grief Observed

Wikipedia - A Grief Observed

***]

[MarcyW882921]

I am in the process of reading Finding Meaning by David Kessler. This book was mentioned in one of the AARP grief webinars and it sparked my interest. I am about halfway through the book and I am finding solace as I read. The author has personal experience with grief as a result of his son's death, but he's also an expert in the field of grief. I think the book is best suited for people who have moved beyond the raw, devastating feelings of grief and loss and are ready to explore finding meaning in your life without your loved one no longer physically with you.

Marcy

[MarcyW882921]

Update to Finding Meaning by David Kessler.

I finally finished this book and stand by my initial post. The book is definitely geared toward people who are ready to do some introspective thinking and make decisions about how to move forward following loss. The author has years of experience providing grief counseling to people who have suffered all kinds of losses so he speaks from that knowledge as well as his own personal experience. The book provides a thoughtful approach to exploring your personal experiences, getting through them, planning your next steps, and honoring your lost loved one.

I want to add that the author has a website Grief.com and it has a wealth of information and resources .

Marcy

[SpringIsHereVA]

Thanks Marcy @MarcyW882921 , I need to checkout his book and website. Nicole  🤗🤗🤗

[MarcyW882921]

Yes Nicole @SpringIsHereVA . I definitely recommend both the book and his website. I learned about David Kessler through one of The AARP webinars.

Marcy

[MarcyW882921]

I just finished The Year of Magical Thinking by Joan Didion. She is an excellent writer and captures the dimensions of loss, grief, and mourning from her personal perspective. Even though her circumstances were different than mine, I related easily to the feelings and experiences on her journey.

Marcy

[JessicaW278181]

As our population ages and losses of loved ones are paramount, grief becomes a way of life for many.  The Author of "Je T'aime" (I love you) - Nicole Leclerc Cunningham shares: "When my husband of 30 years, my best friend and soul mate crossed over to the Other Side, I slowly opened myself to sharing my grieving journey that depicts the most intimate aspects of a relationship that would endure, thrive, and continue to flourish from This Side to the Other Side.  It embraces the love of a husband and wife that transformed into a mystical union. "Je T’aime” brings spiritual support, encouragement and hope to anyone who has lost a loved one.  It brings us hope that, when a loved one crosses over to the Other Side, death is only a transition between our two worlds. 

“This book is an uncommon testament to an uncommon love.  Brace yourself.  You have never read another book like it in intensity and truth.”  Dr. David Biebel, First Edition Publisher.

[MarcyW882921]

I respect this author, Nicole LeClerc Cunningham for keeping a running recording of her experinces on her grief journey and imagine that it played a significant role in her healing. It is also admirable that she decided to share her personal experiences with readers. As I read this book, I tried to think not only about how I perceived it but also how it might be perceived by a broader audience. Cunningham had a very special relationship with her husband and numerous encounters and connections with him after he physically left this life. I think that is important for readers to know because it could be encouraging and comforting for some and possibly frustrating and discouraging for others.

Marcy

[SpringIsHereVA]

Thank you Cadee @Cadee2719  🤗🤗🤗

[Cadee2719]

Good Morning!  This, Widow to Widow was the first book that I read.  At the time the deaths were fresh in my mind and I was not able to truly comprehend the "message".  I set it aside until I felt stronger and then began to read the book again.  I find that there are many helpful thoughts to process and to apply to my healing.  I keep it on my nightstand and often refer to it on issues that I still struggle with.  The book that I am now reading is "Different After You" by Michele Neff Hernandez.  I find that I have to read these self-help books in small doses to be able to fully comprehend the messages.  I often get lost in the narrative and think about my husband, my son and my brother and my interactions with them while they were alive.  I have found the books to be very helpful for me and my recovery.

[SpringIsHereVA]

Thank you Marcy  💙💙💙

[MarcyW882921]

Nicole @SpringIsHereVA ,

I just finished reading Build the Life You Want by Arthur C Brooks & Oprah Winfrey. I don't know that there was anything earth shatteringly new, but it didn't hurt to have known information refreshed. There is a section on managing emotions that is beneficial and a lot on the four pillars of Family, Friendship, Work, and Faith and how they contribute to your happiness. The part about identifying your friends as either real or deal was interesting and a little eye opening.

Marcy

[ec73392645]

I have been researching a number of books.  Hello from Heaven, Healing after Loss, So Sorry for Your Loss, Forever More (written by a  medium I know and have been working with) and How to Go on Living When Someone you love Dies.  They all provide insight to overcoming grief.  I also joined Griefshare and I am in my 3 session this Saturday.

[SpringIsHereVA]

Thank you Estelle  💙💙💙

[ec73392645]

Thank you for that information.  I have been researching many books on loss of a loved one.  I recently saw the movie After Death.  It was a wonderful documentary that discusses the experiences of those that have witnessed a near death experience.  I encourage everyone to go see it.  It gives one a perspective of what awaits us on the other side.

[SueS788527]

Yes, my Hospice Grief Counselor recommended

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Yes, my Hospice Grief Counselor recommended The Grieving Brain, by Mary-Frances O'Connor.  Professor O'Connor is a neuroscientist and psychologist at the University of Arizona.  The book discusses research performed in animal and human tests on how the brain navigates various challenges.  According to the book, our brain trusts and makes predictions based on our lived experiences.  When you lose a loved one, our brain cannot immediately process the death as part of reality according to the virtual map it has created for each of us.  It will take time and new lived experiences are needed for our brain to remap our virtual map (this is my paraphrase).  Wow.  I was drawn to this book because my Grief Counselor said that the brain plays over the same past experiences, looking for outcomes.  That may be why I keep replaying past experiences without any real change in outcomes which is self-evident but not necessarily accepted by our brain.  It may also explain why it takes a longer time for the brain to remap.  So much for quickly getting "over the loss of a loved one."  It is helpful to me in better understanding why I keep replaying past scenarios without much healing.  Other than lessons learned and with it the appreciation of blessings experienced in the past, the past is the past.  Perhaps the point is developing new lived experiences?  Realizing all of that, I wonder how a terminally ill person processes their situation.  How does the brain handle it?  That may help explain why some patients act the way they do in this most difficult of times.  That notion may also help us to better understand and potentially forgive them and us for unhappy end of life interactions.  Profound.  I am still reading the book but thought it was important to share with you all.  Have a good weekend.  Your friend, Sue

[jonibee]

Two books that have been helpful to me are ..."I Wasn't Ready To Say Goodbye" by Brook Noel & Pamela D. Blair, PHD  and The Love Never Ends (Messages from the Other Side ) by Sunny Dawn Joh;nson." ..Both have given me insight and comfort in reading them...

[SpringIsHereVA]

Thank you Jonibee  💙💙💙

[MarcyW882921]

You're busy trying to care for all of us so no problem!

Marcy

[SpringIsHereVA]

Thank you Sue  💙💙💙