I have moved from daughter to decision-maker for my 92-year-old mother.  Her decline has been rapid  both physically (wheelchair bound now) and mentally (loss of short-term memory).  She isn't capable of making responsible decisions except when she i...

Thank you for taking time to write such a timely reply, Margaret. I've been taken by surprise at how dismissive care givers/doctors have been about her pain -- I thought pain treatment was a primary concern at this age; but you're right, it's not.  I...

Thank you for your suggestions.  Anxiety makes sense -- she does seem fixated.  I should ask her about the pain scale.  I think her facility has tons of options, but Mom is pretty negative.  The wonderful director suggested a nurse with a psych backg...

My 92-year-old mother lives a mile from me in a care facility; I visit most days.  She is constantly complaining about pain of some kind.  For the most part, between her doctors and the care facility, these pains have been addressed as best as possib...