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Memoirs are what caught my eye with this group! I have been
writing in a journal nearly all my life, starting from
my preteen years. A terrible thing occured with my
ex husband long before he was an "EX". He
found my journal under the bed after we had been married
about 10 years. He READ it! Then he proceeded to obsess
about all the things I had written about him over the years.
(Mostly because the things were true and it made him look like a
really bad person.) He badgered me and nagged me until I came to
a point of such exasperation I took the whole book, and
through it into the fireplace! He was so happy and I have carried
this terrible loss for it for years. I had poems, songs, first
loves and childhood memories with my sisters recorded in those
pages!  At the time, I thought I would be able to duplicate
all those memories, and it made him so happy that it was okay. I never
had time to sit and write things down again and the years have slipped
by and now they are just gone. So it was not okay.


I have written for many years since then in a new journal, and I will
always keep writing. It is a way to keep memories alive and also a
balm for the heart when things are sad and a joy when things are
great! I would encourage anyone to start keeping a journal TODAY. It
will keep you centered no matter who you are or what you do. If you
never plan on letting anyone read it, or author a book on it, you will
still reap the benefits of keeping it.


Please feel free to comment here or on my page!


 


  Judy,


I felt myself gasp when you said you threw the book into the
fireplace.  You are so right.  You will never be able to
capture it again.  My sister used to read my journals and then
she would get mad because I wrote what happened and how I felt,
etc.  She has always been depressed and in the book I wrote
about her depression because she talked about it all of the time, but
it upset her to read my journal. I told her feel free to read them but
they are MY JOURNALS and the way I see things in life so open at your
own risk!  It helps my memory and it purges your system. 
I've tried to get her interested in keeping a journal and she balks;
however I think it would help.


Keep writing Judy!  Don't ever burn your journals again.


Sasebone

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How accurate are memoirs
written long after-the-fact, compared to at-the-time journals
& correspondence? What are the purposes of "memoirs"
.. to document, reminisce, be creative?


Memoirs are what caught my eye with this group! I have been
writing in a journal nearly all my life, starting from
my preteen years. A terrible thing occured with my
ex husband long before he was an "EX". He
found my journal under the bed after we had been married
about 10 years. He READ it! Then he proceeded to obsess
about all the things I had written about him over the years.
(Mostly because the things were true and it made him look like a
really bad person.) He badgered me and nagged me until I came to
a point of such exasperation I took the whole book, and
through it into the fireplace! He was so happy and I have carried
this terrible loss for it for years. I had poems, songs, first
loves and childhood memories with my sisters recorded in those
pages!  At the time, I thought I would be able to duplicate
all those memories, and it made him so happy that it was okay. I never
had time to sit and write things down again and the years have slipped
by and now they are just gone. So it was not okay.


I have written for many years since then in a new journal, and I will
always keep writing. It is a way to keep memories alive and also a
balm for the heart when things are sad and a joy when things are
great! I would encourage anyone to start keeping a journal TODAY. It
will keep you centered no matter who you are or what you do. If you
never plan on letting anyone read it, or author a book on it, you will
still reap the benefits of keeping it.


Please feel free to comment here or on my page!


 

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I had no intention of joining
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got me to thinking.


 




I've had several long
friendships over the years, where our snail- and e-mail
correspondence contained material very similar to a personal
diary/journal. When I began "weeding out" a few months
ago, in preparation for moving, I sat down & reread some of
the material from periods when I was going thru emotional
episodes. Looking back after 10 years or more, some of my
feelings seemed so overly dramatic at the time .. but that's
how I actually felt, and I'm generally analytical & not at all
a "drama queen".


 




If I sat down now & wrote
my memories of those episodes, it would undoubtedly be from a more
dispassionate & perhaps somewhat judgemental frame of
reference .. but obviously that wouldn't at all capture the angst
I was feeling at the time.


 




Do you think good memoirs
should contain a little of both .. actual material from the past,
coupled with current reflections?


 
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  I would love to publish, but I can't seem to sit down and just
write.  I'm too critical of myself I suppose.  If it
publishes - - then good, if not, then it goes to my
family.    I have written a journal every day since
1969 with very few days missed and I've started my book.  I have
only chapter one written, but I have a plan for the book. I'm not sure
how to go about getting editor's, when, why and how of
publishing.  Do you know anything about publishing?


Sasebone




I really don't know anything
about publishing, but I do know that many people self-publish
these days, and I think once they do, it's easier to get
a book sold either online by Amazon.com or chains
like Barnes & Noble.


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Do you have family members to
whom you plan to leave your book, or do you expect to
publish? 


  I would love to publish, but I can't seem to sit down and just
write.  I'm too critical of myself I suppose.  If it
publishes - - then good, if not, then it goes to my
family.    I have written a journal every day since
1969 with very few days missed and I've started my book.  I have
only chapter one written, but I have a plan for the book. I'm not sure
how to go about getting editor's, when, why and how of
publishing.  Do you know anything about publishing?


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  Hi Astraea,


Those emails are written from the heart and are a great way to
remember what was going on with you at the time.  I hate to
delete those emails for those reasons.  I have kept journals
since 1969 and I find the material most enlightening when I take the
time to sit and read them.  Many things have happened in our
lives and I am trying to write a book.  It may never get
published, but it will be a book about these twisting, grueling, life
changing times and how we survived them.  A book that
encapsulates my feelings; the truth of what was really going on and
perhaps a healing balm when it is finished.  I use memories and
the journals (and yes, even email from the past).  Great idea!


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I had no intention of joining
or posting in this Group, until I read the profile & it
got me to thinking.


 




I've had several long
friendships over the years, where our snail- and e-mail
correspondence contained material very similar to a personal
diary/journal. When I began "weeding out" a few months
ago, in preparation for moving, I sat down & reread some of
the material from periods when I was going thru emotional
episodes. Looking back after 10 years or more, some of my
feelings seemed so overly dramatic at the time .. but that's
how I actually felt, and I'm generally analytical & not at all
a "drama queen".


 




If I sat down now & wrote
my memories of those episodes, it would undoubtedly be from a more
dispassionate & perhaps somewhat judgemental frame of
reference .. but obviously that wouldn't at all capture the angst
I was feeling at the time.


 




Do you think good memoirs
should contain a little of both .. actual material from the past,
coupled with current reflections?


  Hi Astraea,


Those emails are written from the heart and are a great way to
remember what was going on with you at the time.  I hate to
delete those emails for those reasons.  I have kept journals
since 1969 and I find the material most enlightening when I take the
time to sit and read them.  Many things have happened in our
lives and I am trying to write a book.  It may never get
published, but it will be a book about these twisting, grueling, life
changing times and how we survived them.  A book that
encapsulates my feelings; the truth of what was really going on and
perhaps a healing balm when it is finished.  I use memories and
the journals (and yes, even email from the past).  Great idea!


Sasebone

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How accurate are memoirs
written long after-the-fact, compared to at-the-time journals
& correspondence? What are the purposes of "memoirs"
.. to document, reminisce, be creative?




I had no intention of joining
or posting in this Group, until I read the profile & it
got me to thinking.


 




I've had several long
friendships over the years, where our snail- and e-mail
correspondence contained material very similar to a personal
diary/journal. When I began "weeding out" a few months
ago, in preparation for moving, I sat down & reread some of
the material from periods when I was going thru emotional
episodes. Looking back after 10 years or more, some of my
feelings seemed so overly dramatic at the time .. but that's
how I actually felt, and I'm generally analytical & not at all
a "drama queen".


 




If I sat down now & wrote
my memories of those episodes, it would undoubtedly be from a more
dispassionate & perhaps somewhat judgemental frame of
reference .. but obviously that wouldn't at all capture the angst
I was feeling at the time.


 




Do you think good memoirs
should contain a little of both .. actual material from the past,
coupled with current reflections?


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