I was married for 58 years to one man and he passed away at the age of 80 of Stage 4 Lung Cancer. I remarried at the age of 79, Big Mistake.
I am surviving Divorce at the age of 81. We were only married 2 and 1/2 years when I realized that this man was going to bankrupt me. I have plenty to live on. I have my late Husbands SS and I have PERA. I own my own home. I have lived here for 61 years, I had a Money Market account from an Inheritance. I have always lived furgally. I knew when I retired at the age of 79 that I would need to cut out all frills. No magazine Subs. Never took any vacations. Just hunkered down. I bought nothing that I didn't have to. I belonged to the Red Hats, I walk a lot and took care of myself continutally. I don't look my age as I am slim and trim and I always watched what I ate. This Person that was so totally Good Looking, exercised a ton. Was a Body Builder, bought lots of guns and ammo. When I met him I told him that he could live here at my house which was paid for. I had a two vehicles. I have a 4 wheeler. I have a really nice place. I said that if we could put our finances together we could probably make it. He had been married twice and I was assuming that I was the third? Right off the bat he decided that everything needed to be in my name only. Every Purchase. To make a long story short. He paid nothing out of his SS and I was paying for everything. We argued over that. We went to a Marriage Counselor and he didn't like that when she said he was not good with his finances. So then we went to our Pastor and he was still not willing to change his way of life. Since I owned my home and everything in it. I ask him to leave if he wasn't willing to pay half of the Utilities, for Gas in the vehicles, LP Gas . Etc. He said you have more money then I do you pay for everything. I tried to have him evicted. That didn't work. He finally shoved me around once too often and kept screaming at me. So I left my home and went to my Grand Son's and they called my Lawyer and he was forced to leave this house by a Deptuy Sheriff. He lives like 112 miles from here, but refused to sign the Divorce papers as he wants $2000. This amount would pay for his Lawyer and then he would have more. I refused to give him any more. The Truth is he owes me $10,000 . I will never get it, so I rented out a spare room for $650 a month and this person has full access to the rest of the house and has his own vehicle. Things are going well. I finally got a hold of another Divorce Lawyer and it was suggested that I give him $750.00 or nothing. If he doesn't accept it, then we will go before a Judge and the Judge can decide if this man owes me more money and if he needs to sign the Divorce paper work and gets nothing, also how he is going to explain how he shoved me around and had to be ejected from this home. . So I do have a plan now. My Lawyer is a Friend and she just isn't getting any place with his Lawyer. At any rate. I have gotten my Bank Accounts back to the correct name. I went and got my DL name changed. I sent in stuff to get my Supplemental Insurance name changed. I am getting there. So I spoke with a different Lawyer over the phone and I do have a plan to rid myself of this Mooch, Liar and Thief. I hope that maybe my story will help an older person. I know I am old as well. I was too trusting. I live in Rural Colorado and I thought when someone gave their word they would be ok. I also thought that when he said he was a Christian that he really was one. Obviously I was taken advantage of. Won't happen again. Audrey Jane Spaulding (Budzysnki)