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Has Transition to Retirement Been Hard for You?

It's commonly said that the transition to retirement can be hard on people -- especially those who have had active careers. We can lose our sense of identity, feel a profound lack of purpose, suffer from reduced mental stimulation and socializing that the work day provides.

 

I retired at the end of 2019, just in time for the pandemic to close down almost everything I had planned to do with my first year in retirement. You just have to laugh when the Universe slaps you with that kind of irony.

 

The hardest part of the transition for me has been letting go of the role that was the core of my professional way of being in the world -- being a helpful resource. But as the first year unfolded, it turned out to be a blessing to not feel it was still my job to provide suggestions and connect people. 

 

It may have taken me longer than some, but I'm finally learning to BE instead of DO all the time. 

 

What about other recent retirees?  What has been hard and easy for you?

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Hi @DeahWA unlike you I DO NOT miss work or my co-workers/lol. Retired last July (2020) and totally over covid. With Athena (my doggie friend being rehomed) I no longer volunteer to do the planters. My challenge TODAY is to RETHINK on what brings me JOY 🙂 Great post!!!

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I worked in the public sector for 32 years. I couldn't wait to be away from people. I could almost be a hermit after those 32 years. Retirement is wonderful.

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I really miss the job for the exercise I got walking 11 miles a day, I really miss the job for the friends I made with my coworkers, I really miss the sense of accomplishment I got from a hard day's work, but most of all I really miss my customers, who were like family to me after spending 25 of my years on the same route (in my old neighborhood to boot). What I don't miss is the alarm clock, the days with pouring rain, the mandatory overtime, and the unappreciative supervisors, many who never did the job and probably couldn't. Were it not for the toxic environment they created I would probably have worked a year or two more. But I do like retirement for the freedom-and being able to watch the pouring rain out my window with a cup of coffee in my hand!

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@postman29 I would think missing co-worker friends would be really hard when transitioning into retirement. I worked as a solopreneur with a home office for the last 20 years, so no coworkers to miss, but I did miss people terribly when I worked for the Air Force and people got PCS'ed, and when I did. I've often referred to my time in civil service as a kind of Camelot. I'm sure not everyone felt that way, and I didn't have the same feeling at the 2nd base I left, but it was hard to leave the first one. 

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@postman29 you are so right about family. Our mailman is AWESOME and thank him when I see him!!! He is part of our apartment complex family in his cute tiny truck 🙂

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Hi @DeahWA unlike you I DO NOT miss work or my co-workers/lol. Retired last July (2020) and totally over covid. With Athena (my doggie friend being rehomed) I no longer volunteer to do the planters. My challenge TODAY is to RETHINK on what brings me JOY 🙂 Great post!!!

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Rethinking what brings joy is such an important thing to do @Bye because it really can change at different points in life. Or at least it has for me.

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I agree @DeahWA Lol, I was willing to put up with the rude front desk as long as Athena was there.

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{{ HUGS }} @Bye Joy awaits. I have a feeling whatever joy is for you, it is just around the corner. 😉

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Thanks @DeahWA ((lots of hugs))

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Welcome back! 

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@postman29 🙂 🙂 🙂

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