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@retiredtraveler FWIW: the fellow with the ailing minivan did not ask for help. He was working on solving his own problems. I helped him in no small part because he was trying to 'fish'. There was a guy with a sign standing at the intersection. Him I did not help: while perhaps he thought he had a hook, to me it appeared he didn't even want a pole

 

I don't give to street beggars. I give to Search and Rescue, the fire department, church and community efforts to help the needy, but not to people standing at an intersection with a sign.

 

 

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In keeping with being the grumpy, old, cynic.....

 

The idea, and act(s) of 'paying it forward' is great. But it won't 'heal the nation'. The old adage explains it: "Give a man a fish, and you feed him for a day. Teach him to fish, and you feed him for a lifetime'.

 

This one-off thing is nice, but doesn't change anything......... (I've watched too many news programs the last couple of days. I'm on negativity overload) Man Sad


@retiredtraveler I think a lot of people are on negativity overload, and that's really why I decided to post this. (I'm a big believer in doing good deeds in secret) Bear with me while I prattle on in an attempt to show you how a return to niceness can heal our nation.

 

We the people are not at war. But if you look around (and read/watch news) it might seem like we are. There are plenty of stories of abuse going both ways, but did you happen to see the trio of videos of an old woman who was forced by police to exit a plane heading to Washington, DC? This granny, a person we might correctly presume has seen many upsets, political and otherwise, in her years and who has probably steered children to adulthood was throwing a hissy fit (and quite few ugly names) because she didn't want to sit next to a fellow who was on his way to DC to celebrate. On it went, to her extreme humiliation, and eventual police escort off the plane.

 

What is happening to us? Can we really not be nice to someone who is not registered to vote the way we'd like?

 

OK. Here's where niceness can help: a person looking for an opportunity to commit a random act of kindness is not a person who is going to let his or her emotions get the best of them. This person is going find a way to act not out of utter selfishness but out of concern for someone else. And, as I stated in my original post, these acts of kindness also serve to benefit the recipient emotionally: when a stranger values you; you value you AND you see the world in a more positive light. When we value ourselves and we see the world as caring, we have a hard time acting like spoiled brats.

 

(Nothing about this gentleman suggested to me he was about to throw himself upon the macadam and kick his legs, btw. The above is illustration taken from years of character and psychology study.)

 

Give love; get love. Give respect to get respect. Be the change yadda yadda yadda. Smiley Happy

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In keeping with being the grumpy, old, cynic.....

 

The idea, and act(s) of 'paying it forward' is great. But it won't 'heal the nation'. The old adage explains it: "Give a man a fish, and you feed him for a day. Teach him to fish, and you feed him for a lifetime'.

 

This one-off thing is nice, but doesn't change anything......... (I've watched too many news programs the last couple of days. I'm on negativity overload) Man Sad


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Pay it Forward.pngScreenshot from Pay It Forward Day's web site

 

 

 

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Pay It Forward Day is in April, but I had an opportunity to help out a stranger today, and this is that story.

 

As I was approaching my newish Jeep with a basket of just-purchased staples, a fellow carrying a container of anti-freeze and wearing a hoodie that looked like it could use a wash strode past. We exchanged pleasantries and continued with our business. While loading my purchases into my car, though, I noticed that his older minivan was from out-of-state, had taped-over tail lights, appeared to be serving as shelter for him and another person, and maybe wasn't in good operating condition. It was 52F. I'm not sure anti-freeze was going to help whatever was wrong with the minivan. So I grabbed a roll of quarters leftover from our summertime game** of only paying for Dairy Queen dipped cones with spare change and took it over to him, explaining that it was all the cash I had, and that it seemed he might be able to use it.

 

The worry on this man's face melted away and he asked God to bless me over and over. I'll take the blessings, sure, but seeing his relief was well worth the roll of quarters.

 

Ten bucks can't solve a lot of problems. Caring enough about another to help, even a little, though, can gift that person with far more than the cash. I know this for fact, because it was people's acts of kindness that got me through a horrific childhood and which helped to deliver me sane to adulthood. When a stranger takes steps to ease your burden, your self worth grows exponentially, and you are taught to care not just about yourself, but the world around you. And that's what Paying it Forward is all about.

 

So what about you? How can you pay it forward this week? What opportunity to commit a random act of kindness will you realize? Don't wait for April: bless yourself and others tomorrow, this week, this weekend.

 

 

 

 

** The one and only rule of that game is: no spare change, no dipped cones. Smiley Happy

 

 

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