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I just read all the posts and had some good laughs.  I couldn't agree with Irishmists more!  

 

First of all, we widows are NOT looking to marry again.  We all have our own homes and a good income so we are not looking for someone to support us.  What we would like to find is a decent man in our age group who is just looking to date, i.e., go to the movies with, or a play in New York, or out to dinner with.  If I could find  a man who loves to dance as much as I do I would be so pleased.  I am still working as a secretary two days a week and work out at the local gym three days a week.  I'm also on two different bowling teams and attend two night-time country music dance classes.  Most of the men that I meet are on all kinds of meds and either walk with a cane or walker or have some other physical or balance problems that makes it difficult for them to do things.  I live in a senior development and most of my neighbors are all sort of homebound.  This is not to discredit them because I know my day is coming when I won't be able to be so active either.  I am in my 80's and I have always taken good care of myself.  I eat healthy, take my vitamins and workout.  My doctor tells me all the time that he wishes all his patients were like me.  I remember that quite a few years ago, there was a Seniornet program on the web where people would be able to email each other, sort of an open forum.  It was fun and I met lots of interesting people there.  They have since stopped that program.  Now the Seniornet program is all about teaching seniors how to use computers, etc.  Oh for the good old days! 

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Almost forgot to mention -  https://sexover60.wordpress.com

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If I may humbly suggest, when looking at a woman of 'your age' try and look a little deeper.  The young, hot 20 or 30 year old is still in there.  And the bonus feature is, you'll have a lot more in common with her.  The younger woman won't be looking at you and seeing your former self, she'll most likely be looking for the size of your wallet.

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The thing is, I'm not interested in women over 40.  Sure, they're out of my league.  I'm 72.  I don't care.  I know I'm not going to make it with women in that age group, but so what.  They're the ones that inspire my interest in personality, looks, intellectual and sexually attractiveness. I know a lot of women in that age group and and their friendship is enough. Gropers define themselves with the idiot in chief. Never read a book in their life. Was a struggle to get through kindergarten.

 

 

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To summarize in 5 words:  Look up an old girlfriend.

That's what worked in my case.  

 I've tried to honestly share my experience on my blog.... or slog.(sex log) 

 https://sexover60.wordpress.com/,  Hope this is helpful.

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I live among 125,000 senior citizens in a senior community that made headlines worldwide as being a hotbed for senior sex. The reality here is that due to the death of husbands before wives, there are ten single women to every one man. The competition for men is fierce and the men are in such demand that they do not want committed relationships most times. 

 

I am married and get hit on by women. If you have a pulse, you are attractive to women here. Seriously, most are looking for someone who treats them good and has a good sense of humor. At least that is what I heard a group of single women saying. They want someone to make them laugh every day.

 

I think where you live and your circumstances determine what women are looking for in a man in a senior community. We have meat market bars and nightly free music, dancing and half priced drinks as the men circle the girls line dancing waiting to go in for the kill. I recommend this place to single guys all the time. Some of the more wealthier women have young men as lovers. Putting their husband's money to good use I guess.

 

So it really depends on the availabity and quantity of men that determines what women are looking for in a man. A good pension and bad hearth can be very attractive to some women. Smiley Happy

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Nancy,

 

You are a young woman.I was 73 when I started looking again.

 

i found using a dating site was great for the reason I wrote earlier. The one thing I would warn you about is letting your loneliness for your common sense. It happened to me and it was a mistake. I caught myself before it was to late. I tried again and had success.

 

if this old fart can do it you sure can.

 

Russ

 

 

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RichardC415992,

Have you come up with another ideas? About meeting people our age,  I am 54, still have a lot to offer . If you have any ideas please pass them on.. Nancy 

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Good for you, 

I know  the feeling the loneliness at our age is the worst.  Just to even bounce ideas of of someone would help. Just  to have a normal  conversation with a person my age 54  would be great... Nancy 

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I had not dated for over 1/2 century. My 50 year old son was no help so I thought about asking my grand children and well no.

 

there is no reason to be afraid. I chose a dating site. It offered options, and privacy. If I found some one of interest, I could ask questions via message. If it went past that I could due due diligence.

 

What is difficult is realizing who you really are and who/what you are looking for. Until you answer these questions do not start. I say that from expirience, I didn’t at first and made a recoverable mistake. 

 

I wnt went back to the drawing board, and had success. she and I  have been together for almost 4 years now.

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