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very happy for you guys.  I felt so happy reading your story.  Continue being happy

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Congratulations Russell & Company. May God bless u guys!
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Lots of good advice and so true. thanks, Janetta
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I know plenty of ladies but I'm just not interested in dating. I'm the George Costanza, "It's not you, it's me." I value female friendship but anything beyond leads to too many complications. Been there, done that.
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OMG!!!  Loved this, especially the line of smelling BS.  The last one really hit home.  As someone who has been doing the online dating thing for the past 16mon since my hubby of 20+yrs and I separated. Good grief!  The number of men online that are so afraid of taking a step of any kind to meet someone they may actually like is absolutely astounding!

 

If I were going to add anything to this it would be "don't wait for someone else to make the first step.  If you are interested in getting to know someone better and want to meet them, ask for a date.  If you don't, someone else will."  PERIOD!!!

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We know a retired couple who met on the internet. They chatted for a year, then moved in together and are in a state of bliss over a year later. The thing is, when he told me how he met her, he was immediately apologetic, as if expecting me to scold him. Instead I told him I was absolutely thrilled for them and beyond happy they had found one another. 

 

I've no idea how they have worked out the financial, property and adult children issues, for frankly, that's none of my business.

 

 

"The key to success is to keep growing in all areas of life - mental, emotional, spiritual, as well as physical." Julius Erving
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"...There is little doubt that we are biased. Had it not been for the internet we would never had met and our futures would have changed from extremely happy to who knows what....".

 

 

There is absolutely nothing wrong with meeting on the internet.  You should have a positive bias for it. The issues arise when people think they are having a 'relationship' by texting one another, or thinking they are having a 'conversation' via email. 


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First of all, congratulations Conversationalist. And best of luck to you!

 

I was very heartened to see Irishmists post such an on point comment about what we men should he thinking about when we go back into dating. As a single male for the past 8 years, I have had my share of misadventures disguised as bad dates. Well, bad from her perspective. I did not have a clue. I was unceremoniously dumped by my latest ex-wife and found myself basically a mess. My dating exploits would have made 50 First Dates a horror flick.

 

My internet profile picture was the “Dummy” in Dating for Dummys.

 

A friend of mine who is new to the 50+ dating scene asked me just last night what is the biggest difference between now and then. I couldn’t name just one, but I started with, she is not the same woman you dated when you were in your 20s. She is free, has her own life and does not need a man. And she is not looking for someone who “needs” her.

 

I believe the most important trait in the early stages of a relationship is listening. Actually not just in dating, but in life. You will get a chance to tell your stories. Listen to hers. Be genuinely interested. Pay attention. It is natural for people to like to talk about themselves. It makes them feel good if someone responds positively to it. Ask follow up questions and wait for her to make it your turn.

 

I learned a lot of things the hard way. Therapy and learning from 50 Worst Dates helped me deal with the reality of dating at this age. I have a lot more I could say but I don’t want to waste your time if you are not interested. If you are http://bit.ly/2bHSitu. Thank you Irishmists.

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Thanks for the comments. 

 

An an update seems appropriate. It has been almost three years since we met and we are still very much in love and happy. We gave up very little to achieve this happiness. For example we split every day expenses based on odd and even days, I have odd days and she has even days. We both kept our own houses. We live in hers two weeks out of the month and in mine two weeks of the month. We realize each of us has foibles, habits etc. and made no effort to end them.

 

Two of our common interests is traveling and writing. In our travels we met a number of couples who met like we did. The conversations that followed were not only enlightening but also helped advance some of the concepts, about meeting on the internet, we believed to be true. These conversations prompted us to write a book whose goal is to assist those looking for someone using internet dating sites. After about a year of writing the book is at an editor, and we will publish it this summer.

 

There is little doubt that we are biased. Had it not been for the internet we would never had met and our futures would have changed from extremely happy to who knows what. I will take extremely happy any day.

 

 

Webster Russell
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Very nice Webster.  I really appreciate your story.  It gives me hope.  I'm 55 and have been divorced for almost 2 years.  This is so new to me and I want to enjoy it but there is some aprehension about dating. 

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