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BRAVO AnneNonymous1234!!! While I'm not 60 yet (still 55), I can relate to so much of this, especially after finding myself single again (after 21yrs) at 53. So far, I've found most of the sex I've had in the past two years, since I've been single again, sorely lacking in satisfaction and fulfillment. As an active, energetic, healthy and mature woman, who prefers to date men in my age group, I would love to find someone who shares my romantic and sexual goals and desires.

I'm actively out there looking so I'm sure that eventually I will find what I'm looking for (an affectionate, healthy, mature, romantic, lover and companion) but in the meantime, I'd rather be on my own than spend time with someone who just doesn't "get it" that sex is a mutually satisfying experience.

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I must admit I enjoy reading everyone's posts on this blog.  

 

When you get to be my age (86) you settle down and work and live to serve others, to leave the world a little better than you found it and garner for yourself as much peace of mind as you can.

 

This is happiness!

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Yes, I am a guy and I have a guy's perspective. After reading some of the comments, I must say that the differences between women and men may not be that different as one fall into the senior citizen category. As a widower, what I missed was some physical closeness. I could process my grief and keep myself engaged in actitivies with family and friends during the day and few would understand how meaningful a hug is to someone who had a spouse (mine for 44 years). Now I have a special someone in my life (a widow) and physical contact is important to both of us. I would expain more but someone may flag me for "inappropriate content." We are all physical, emotional, and spiritual human beings. All three elements need attention to fully enjoy life. My wish for others is that they don't give up and say some part of that combination isn't important. Please try for yourself and you may improve someone else's life, too.

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Very interesting and informative response.  I believe it is written by and for a man.  The use of the word 'lazy' kinda gave it away for me.  I thank you and hope it is helpful for other men.  I wrote a blog primarily for women who find themselves in a similar situation.  I, too, hope it is helpful or at least produces a smile.  

https://sexover60.wordpress.com/

 

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First off, you can't be lazy about finding someone. I am retired and age 65 and a widower for 20 months. I find that dating just didn't feel right a few months after my wife passed away. Someone told me that she had to process her grief for 18 months before dating seriously. I know someone that got married after about 9 months after her husband died unexpectantly and is happily married for 10 years later. So the 18 months is a guideline that may or may not work for you. My original point is that just like you had assignments and goals as a working person, finding a significant other requires the same kind of commitment, ambition, and drive. I was lucky to find a beautiful person after many Internet messages back and forth. She lives about 200 miles away. My first visit/date I thought I would visit for a day or two and see how the realtionship felt. Our first date lasted 10 days. A dentist appointment required me to return home for a few days. Please TRY HARD to find this gift. The reward is too valuable to overlook. Yes, you will have half a dozen meet ups that aren't right for both of you. But you may just be lucky enought to find a new love. Be MOTIVATED. I didn't meet anybody at Walmart or in church activities. Embrace the Internet sites. At the minimum you will have fun engaging with new people.

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A few years ago we wrote that we met on the Internet. We have been together for over four years now. Over these years we have talked to numerous couples that met as we did. As successful as all of us were it was not without bruises and scrapes. We decided to write a book entitled “The Second Time Around-A Guide Through The Maze Of Internet Dating”. We wrote this book simply to help others get through the maze of internet dating using real world internet dating experiences. Our goal is to allay the fears of those who are not sure about internet dating using a step by step approach. We give some real-world guidance to this process from the prospective of both Dee and I. Finally, we want to help others miss the potholes and avoid the false starts and stops that many of us had.

 

You can get more information and download a free chapter and/or a checklist at https://authors-russanddee.weebly.com .

Webster Russell
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I wish you success!  I feel very lucky to have found the right person for me. Turns out he's been hanging out in my past all along. 

 

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  • Thanks so much for sharing this with me. I Loved the Blog.   Nancy
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I love what you shared in your post. Thank you. It was so helpful to me. I'm 66 and wanting to marry again as it's been years since I've been married. Dating doesn't seem to have the same meaning today as it used to. Are there any REAL SINCERE MEN left that are seeking marriage and not just dating??? 

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I just read all the posts and had some good laughs.  I couldn't agree with Irishmists more!  

 

First of all, we widows are NOT looking to marry again.  We all have our own homes and a good income so we are not looking for someone to support us.  What we would like to find is a decent man in our age group who is just looking to date, i.e., go to the movies with, or a play in New York, or out to dinner with.  If I could find  a man who loves to dance as much as I do I would be so pleased.  I am still working as a secretary two days a week and work out at the local gym three days a week.  I'm also on two different bowling teams and attend two night-time country music dance classes.  Most of the men that I meet are on all kinds of meds and either walk with a cane or walker or have some other physical or balance problems that makes it difficult for them to do things.  I live in a senior development and most of my neighbors are all sort of homebound.  This is not to discredit them because I know my day is coming when I won't be able to be so active either.  I am in my 80's and I have always taken good care of myself.  I eat healthy, take my vitamins and workout.  My doctor tells me all the time that he wishes all his patients were like me.  I remember that quite a few years ago, there was a Seniornet program on the web where people would be able to email each other, sort of an open forum.  It was fun and I met lots of interesting people there.  They have since stopped that program.  Now the Seniornet program is all about teaching seniors how to use computers, etc.  Oh for the good old days! 

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