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Very interesting and informative response.  I believe it is written by and for a man.  The use of the word 'lazy' kinda gave it away for me.  I thank you and hope it is helpful for other men.  I wrote a blog primarily for women who find themselves in a similar situation.  I, too, hope it is helpful or at least produces a smile.  

https://sexover60.wordpress.com/

 

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First off, you can't be lazy about finding someone. I am retired and age 65 and a widower for 20 months. I find that dating just didn't feel right a few months after my wife passed away. Someone told me that she had to process her grief for 18 months before dating seriously. I know someone that got married after about 9 months after her husband died unexpectantly and is happily married for 10 years later. So the 18 months is a guideline that may or may not work for you. My original point is that just like you had assignments and goals as a working person, finding a significant other requires the same kind of commitment, ambition, and drive. I was lucky to find a beautiful person after many Internet messages back and forth. She lives about 200 miles away. My first visit/date I thought I would visit for a day or two and see how the realtionship felt. Our first date lasted 10 days. A dentist appointment required me to return home for a few days. Please TRY HARD to find this gift. The reward is too valuable to overlook. Yes, you will have half a dozen meet ups that aren't right for both of you. But you may just be lucky enought to find a new love. Be MOTIVATED. I didn't meet anybody at Walmart or in church activities. Embrace the Internet sites. At the minimum you will have fun engaging with new people.

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A few years ago we wrote that we met on the Internet. We have been together for over four years now. Over these years we have talked to numerous couples that met as we did. As successful as all of us were it was not without bruises and scrapes. We decided to write a book entitled “The Second Time Around-A Guide Through The Maze Of Internet Dating”. We wrote this book simply to help others get through the maze of internet dating using real world internet dating experiences. Our goal is to allay the fears of those who are not sure about internet dating using a step by step approach. We give some real-world guidance to this process from the prospective of both Dee and I. Finally, we want to help others miss the potholes and avoid the false starts and stops that many of us had.

 

You can get more information and download a free chapter and/or a checklist at https://authors-russanddee.weebly.com .

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I wish you success!  I feel very lucky to have found the right person for me. Turns out he's been hanging out in my past all along. 

 

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  • Thanks so much for sharing this with me. I Loved the Blog.   Nancy
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I love what you shared in your post. Thank you. It was so helpful to me. I'm 66 and wanting to marry again as it's been years since I've been married. Dating doesn't seem to have the same meaning today as it used to. Are there any REAL SINCERE MEN left that are seeking marriage and not just dating??? 

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I just read all the posts and had some good laughs.  I couldn't agree with Irishmists more!  

 

First of all, we widows are NOT looking to marry again.  We all have our own homes and a good income so we are not looking for someone to support us.  What we would like to find is a decent man in our age group who is just looking to date, i.e., go to the movies with, or a play in New York, or out to dinner with.  If I could find  a man who loves to dance as much as I do I would be so pleased.  I am still working as a secretary two days a week and work out at the local gym three days a week.  I'm also on two different bowling teams and attend two night-time country music dance classes.  Most of the men that I meet are on all kinds of meds and either walk with a cane or walker or have some other physical or balance problems that makes it difficult for them to do things.  I live in a senior development and most of my neighbors are all sort of homebound.  This is not to discredit them because I know my day is coming when I won't be able to be so active either.  I am in my 80's and I have always taken good care of myself.  I eat healthy, take my vitamins and workout.  My doctor tells me all the time that he wishes all his patients were like me.  I remember that quite a few years ago, there was a Seniornet program on the web where people would be able to email each other, sort of an open forum.  It was fun and I met lots of interesting people there.  They have since stopped that program.  Now the Seniornet program is all about teaching seniors how to use computers, etc.  Oh for the good old days! 

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If I may humbly suggest, when looking at a woman of 'your age' try and look a little deeper.  The young, hot 20 or 30 year old is still in there.  And the bonus feature is, you'll have a lot more in common with her.  The younger woman won't be looking at you and seeing your former self, she'll most likely be looking for the size of your wallet.

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The thing is, I'm not interested in women over 40.  Sure, they're out of my league.  I'm 72.  I don't care.  I know I'm not going to make it with women in that age group, but so what.  They're the ones that inspire my interest in personality, looks, intellectual and sexually attractiveness. I know a lot of women in that age group and and their friendship is enough. Gropers define themselves with the idiot in chief. Never read a book in their life. Was a struggle to get through kindergarten.

 

 

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To summarize in 5 words:  Look up an old girlfriend.

That's what worked in my case.  

 I've tried to honestly share my experience on my blog.... or slog.(sex log) 

 https://sexover60.wordpress.com/,  Hope this is helpful.

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