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Same here. I'm 60, he's 40, been together for 20 years. As more younger males consider older women, they will be just as your husband. You said it best: "He would hate having a clingy, younger wife who wanted attention every minute of the day. We do what we want when we want! It works! Give yourselves more credit!"
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I'm 55 and I've been told I look 40.  I really appreciate your story.  I don't feel my age but sometimes I do feel alone.  I been divorced for almost 2 years...

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Do you think medical problems only affect the older partner?  You're painting a generation of peole with a very broad brush stroke. Why is it that women are their own worst enemy when it comes to age?  Men have been marrying younger women for ages, and expecting them to deal with all their issues of age!  Wake up women, this is a new age, and it's our turn to be in charge. My wonderful hubby is 19 years younger than me, and we've never regretted a minute of it. He would hate having a clingy, younger wife who wanted attention every minute of the day. We do what we want when we want!  It works!  Give yourselves more credit!

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After you're both 40 and over (or about to go over 40) and you've both experienced life, marriage, children, possibly a few grandchildren or more...AGE does not matter at that point whether the man or the woman is the older or younger of the two. Age ONLY matters with the very young adults who have no life experience as yet. They need time to explore their options, college, post college, employment...you know...get their feet wet in life. I've married one a few years older when I was too young to know better...that marriage lasted 18 years. We had 3 children. My second marriage the man was 12 yrs younger and that marriage lasted 15 years. We both had prior marriages, children, and so I enjoyed my second marriage more than the first. He was a good man to our kids and grandkids (his kids/my kids...grands). Now at 65, I'm told I look 45 to 50...I have a male friend younger than me and we get along great. I'd love to marry again, and yes, he can be younger than myself as long as he has already experienced marriage, children, and possibly had grandchildren. LIFE EXPERIENCE combined with being 40 and older are my requirements. Smiley Happy

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I have to agree with the other person who replied. If you're happy, who give a **bleep** what anyone else thinks?  Enjoy your togetherness in the open!  Don't let others dictate your happiness. This is becoming more and more accepted in society.  

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 Silly comment, considering women have been taking care of their older husbands since time began!  Why do people think it's so unusual for that to be reversed?

my husband is 20 years younger than me, and we've been married for 19 years this coming June.  It's been our own little piece of heaven. Don't criticize what you don't know. 

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It is easy to work out while young but that person will become old while you are in your prime. Things like likes and dislikes will change. Then there could be major health problems, are will you be ready and willing to be nurse maid? You may end up doing all the driving, heavy lifting, and yard work. Think hard and long before you leap.
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I believe, starting out the age difference isn't a big deal. It's when that much older partner (or even much younger in some cases) shows signs of illness or age, that the real essentials of a good relationship can be tested and that's when you know for sure whether or not you are truly best friends and want to be there fur them for better or worse. Each relationship is unique too, it's not always going to be this way.
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It depends on the people involved in the relationship .
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@sh31113726 wrote:
I am 38 years old and I am with a man who is 65. We have been together for over ten years and have a beautiful daughter. Our relationship has definately had its ups and downs over the years but I wouldn't trade him for the world. I have also thought about his decline in health as he gets older and I am fully prepared to potentially care for him if he needs me to, I love him, that's what you do for the ones you love! It would be no different if something happened to me. Age should NOT be a factor your connection with eachother should.

You say now that you would be his caregiver because you love him; but unfortunately you have no idea of the stress that comes with caregiving and while doing it for a short period may not wear on you, if you've been doing it for 5 or more years you will not be happy or love him.  In fact, you could end up hating him.

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