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I wish I knew......most online stuff is simply garbage with people telling lies everywhere.  I have not replied to anyone in a long time.  Really and truly threw in the towel, but sad to not be able to share my life.  I loved sharing things, talking, spending time together;  this alone in your 70s when you are still ALIVE is terrible.  Good luck finding an honest nice guy...be careful to throw out the garbage!

 

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Eleanor, good luck to you on your quest. If you find a way to meet that person, please share it with us. You would thing that living in Las Vegas, I would be able to find some companionship. No, it's even harder here for some reason. Best of luck to you. And, I just have to tell you I'm envious of your Alaska adventures. I never got to experience that state. Good for you.

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Tom, I am in the same strange situation. I really didn't see it coming when I was suddenly a widow. I have never lived alone before in my entire adult life. I had 4 children in 5 years and even after a divorce, I still had my children to raise. When they were grown and just before they were all gone, I remarried. My childrend also scattered across the U.S. and now that I am alone, I am a bit lost.  I have traveled to so many wonderful countries and states and have seen and witnessed the most fabulous things. Adventures and trying new things seemed like a life that most would not have the opportunity to explore. It came to an abrupt end.

 

I tried online meeting with all the various sites out there, but I quickly realized something.  All those sites attracted the same people, there were scam artists just waiting to get your email address and phone number to start pleading for money while professing love and worst of all, their number one quest was to find sex.  In my naive wanting to believe in the best of people, I actually dated 3 men. The first turned out to be a hateful person who told me of his hatred towards his parents, religion of all kinds, people of all colors, and Italian food (my favorite)! The second man, when finding out I was recently widowed over lunch told me that was great because then I was still sexually active. The third guy kept begging me to send him naked pictures after lunch because he wanted to see if I had any weird scars or stretch marks before going further. I told them each that I was looking for a FRIEND first. Someone with a good sense of humor, who liked adventures, who wanted to travel, have meals together, and become good friends.

 

Then there is the problem of befriending women. I've moved many times to different states and between working and child rearing, I never got to form long lasting friendships. The married ones are afraid of losing their husbands to me, even though I tell them I find dating a married man to be despicable because my ex husband was a serial cheater. The ones who are divorced consider me to be a rival, and the widowed ones just want to sit and cry over what can't be again.  And then there are the ones my age who want to only be with women who live to garden, sew, knit, cook and go to senior fitness centers that cater to women only.  I am going to be 70 in a few months and I feel younger than ever. I am very active and have been remodeling my home mostly by myself. That has filled the void a little for me, but I miss laughing and talking and enjoying life with someone else. Sharing life is what I miss most of all. This may seem like a small thing to some, but I dream about someone holding my hand or giving me a hug. 

 

I have no idea why this is so hard. I don't have a clue about how to find a friend like that.

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Hi - I too would like the companionship to share laughs, dinners, movies and even quiet times.  Retired but volunteering keeps me busy.  I enjoy travel by any means:  car, train, plane & cruises.  Road trips can be so enlightening to our beautiful country.  Went outside my comfort zone and worked seasonal in Alaska.  Meet great new friends from all over the world.  And experienced the wonders of the 'Last frontier'.  So how do active seniors meet new active seniors.... Thanks for reading.. E

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Hi,

 

I too tried online over the past few years, and now this.  I wish writing this did not seem like an interview.  I honestly believe you can tell a lot about a person over a cup of coffee, but these days that seems impossible to get done.  I have led a very interesting life, but really do not enjoy my alone time these days as much as I should.  I have continued working as a clinical pharmacist with Hospice more because of staying active, being with friends, having some laughs, and keeping the grey matter above my neck moving along.  I enjoy playing golf, the outdoors, dinners with friends, a good laugh,

travelling, and above all; my children who are all over the country these days.  I would like to share some laughs, some movies, some trips, some anything with a nice person who cares enough about me, and who can make our twosome far better than my onesome. 

 

Tom DAnnunzio  

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I live in the St. Petersburg, Florida area. I am a semi-retired nurse. I haven't a clue where to go to meet a nice single man in my age range or area. It is so difficult. I would love to meet someone who would be interested in going to dinner and a movie. I tried an online service about 10 years ago and all the men were interested in was hooking up for sex! At least try to find out how I take my coffee and what my favorite color is before you start pushing for that! This is my first venture since then. I am hoping this will be positive.

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Good day whoever you are, I'm new to this site, I signed up but I'm sure it won't work, because of my age my birth date is 03 / 10 / 32  at this time this makes me 84 unfortunately for me, I am in perfect health and condition, all I ever had to be replaced was some teeth LOL but any ladies that I have found so far searching the Internet, I tried craigslist, but for some reason as luck would have it they blocked my entrance, oh well so what else is new, I do not have a problem of any kind physical leave or mentally, I have a great sense of humor, easy to talk to, friendly, people find me likable, but any woman that is anywhere close to my age, even at starting 60 years old are just about wore out, and their life consists of, shopping, that includes grocery store, talking on the telephone, playing games of any kind, and living on the computer, I am not complaining, I'm just disappointed the way my life has turned out, I've been there and done that, I do not have a hang up about anything, I can talk about just about anything, had been through the war, decorated veteran, good dancer, love conversation, love traveling mostly by car, I will communicate with anybody, even some men that would like to compare, maybe some war stories, I've been in other countries of course, been in a lot of states, but it seems it once my old friends just fade away, you're welcome to e-mail me, my phone is free to call anywhere, so the imitation is open, just be friendly and have a sense of humor, hope to hear from somebody, so until then, you have a good day and a better tomorrow   Robert

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Janken - How are things going?
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Dear Janken,

How are things in "Tuscany Village"?  Any new dating prospects?

The west coast has been extremely hot this summer;  It's been hot here in Florida, also, but we get a daily thunderstorm which helps cool things down.

Hope to hear from you soon!

 

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@janken wrote:

How thoughtful of you to remember me. I've been so busy closing escrow, packing and moving.

I live in Henderson in Tuscany Village. It's just before Lake Las Vegas. It's not a senior community. I chose this instead because I have 2 large dogs and they need fencing. The senior communties have low, in any fences. Those dogs actually cried tears when my husband died and comfort me every day. I had to put their needs first. It's guard gated and serene in here and I love it. My grandson and granddaughter (they're cousins) are both going to college here and asked if they could live with me. They are such a blessing and I love that I have gotten to know them on a different level and that they've gotten to know me ask adults. It's a very different dynamic and it makes me so happy.

 

What are you living arrangements?


 

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