I very much understand that you have some difficult decisions to make as to how to proceed in your relationship. There is no relationship that is perfect and many times it's about what problems you are able to live with. And I agree that with time, some things will change, however, for many women sex becomes even more important as we go into peri-menapause and this is a time when we are vulnerable with other changes in our bodies. If we have not already had children we have to face that the option is closing on us, etc. Lack of sexual response from our partner can really make a blow to our self-esteem.
This was the time when I sought professional help. I was rather hoping that it would give me a way to stay in the marriage. It did not do that but it made me know what it was that was important to me and be able to leave the marriage, even though I did, and still, feel some love for my ex-husband. I certainly don't regret the years we spent together, although I sometimes wonder how my life would have been different had I left earlier. Would I have had children, for example. That was something I gave up by staying, although I never had that need to have children of my own that many women seem to have.
It's good that you are reaching out and talking about the problem. Everybody has their own viewpoint and it's a good idea to hear as many as possible. That always helps me even if they are different from my own.
