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Re: AARP DATING SITE

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Yes, there are scammers everywher and seniors are certainly a target.  Good for you for playing it smart.

 

Remeber though, there are still some gems out there.


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Re: AARP DATING SITE

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 Hi.   I see you posted quite some time ago.  This is the first time on this site or anything to do with dating sites, although I've been a member for 20 years.  I've been single since the end of March.  Been married my entire life!  The lonliness is overwhelming.  I've tried eharmony, Match2.com, and christianmingle.com.  I was on christianmingle.com when a person such as you described.  He was slow going, talked a lot, was an expert typist, and told me everything I ever wanted to hear.  After about 30 days of daily messaging, some phone calling (he was French and had that French accent so was difficult to understand over the phone).  Anyway, he finally got around to explaining how this job he was on required an additional expenditure and he really needed to finish it so he could then leave and come see me.  HA!  He asked for $4500.  My goodness.....lol.   I began putting 2 and 2 together, I saved all our communications and saw where the discrepancies in what he told me over the weeks didn't add up.  I wouldn't have sent money anyway, cause I'm a bit smarter than that (like you).  I wrote a dear John letter to him then blocked him from my site and my phone.  Wow.   These kinds of men are everywhere.

 

The dating sites can only go by what people tell them on their application.  It is us who have to be careful.  Even on this site.  What makes me really angry is even though my profile says I want to meet people within 50 miles of my zip code, they forward on people from around the country and world!  Geez!  A person over 50 wants to have a conversation with a local man, someone they can meet for coffee or dinner,  date perhaps, etc.  How on earth can someone have a long distance relationship such as around the country/world.   Makes me very angry.  I will get an email about how someone is interested me and I excitedly go see only to find it's a 28 year old in Nigeria or somewhere. 

 

Anyway, this is long, but I wanted to wish you well....I hope you find what you're looking for, and it's hard.  May God bless you and yours......Bonnie

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Re: AARP DATING SITE - "not really AARP" dating site

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Well said,  Yanch22  ! 

 

You are absolutely correct.   Unfortunately,  it will roll right off and fail to sink in to many here.    

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Re: AARP DATING SITE - "not really AARP" dating site

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You're slicing and dicing.  Google "AARP Dating site" - it takes you to AARP.  Receive a message from someone on the date site - it's titled "AARP Dating" in your inbox - you log in to AARP.  Join and you get billed by "AARP."  News articles by NPR, NY Times - "AARP Dating site."  I don't care who is 'pushing the buttons' or 'flipping the switches' behind the scenes - AARP does the advertising, takes the monthly fees, and has their brand/logo associated with each and every item related to this dating site.  AARP should be responsive and monitoring who they link their name and millions of members to...no different than me monitoring who my son is 'dating' -  no pun intended.

I would not hesitate to say that thousands of AARP members who are not computer savvy and do not understand the 'back door' relationship also assume all is controlled by AARP - which it is.  AARP signed the contract, agreed to the terms, and money exchanges hands; seems like they need to re-visit the relationship due to the relationship issues arising....

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Re: AARP DATING SITE

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am,

 

There are jerks everywhere, even on dating sites....you just need to weed through them, just as you do in your garden.  If you're a rose, you'll find a rose...

 

There are dating sites just for seniors that you might find more appropriate and many say eharmony is a good site as well.

 

One comment you made here though is, IMO, a red flag to many men...."I am ready for a relationship now..."  Though it very well be innocent enough, some may see it as desperate or needy.  Take your time....and weed first.  You may be pleasantly surprised to find that beautiful flower you knew was out there.

 

Good luck.


"FAKE 45 #illegitimate" read a sign at the Woman's March in Washington DC, January 21, 2017.
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Re: AARP DATING SITE

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Yanchc22 wrote:

I agree 100% with someone in the dating site responding under someone's profile/picture.  Noticed it recently when I started receiving replies not matching the profiles.  Getting notes from "engineers" who can't spell or speak proper English.  If that's what they got from their degrees/years in school, this is sad or more likely an impostor!  I plan to play along and yank their cords...sad that AARP does not have more interest in cleaning these guys out and having a more secure site.  Wasted money for something serious so I might as well have some fun for what I paid for!  I can build a story as big as the next guy!  Good luck.  Be glad you're smart enough to spot such weirdos...


WHAT dating website are you referring to? AARP partners with some other company they recommend, but have no control over that other website. There is no "dating website" on the AARP website.


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Re: AARP DATING SITE

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I agree 100% with someone in the dating site responding under someone's profile/picture.  Noticed it recently when I started receiving replies not matching the profiles.  Getting notes from "engineers" who can't spell or speak proper English.  If that's what they got from their degrees/years in school, this is sad or more likely an impostor!  I plan to play along and yank their cords...sad that AARP does not have more interest in cleaning these guys out and having a more secure site.  Wasted money for something serious so I might as well have some fun for what I paid for!  I can build a story as big as the next guy!  Good luck.  Be glad you're smart enough to spot such weirdos...

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Re: AARP DATING SITE

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Just wanted to add that over the years I have had a photo of the "family jewels" sent to me. That joker should have borrowed a photo from someone. I have had old guys tell me about their pump, just like they think it is an asset. This is before I had finished my cup of coffee. I have never seen a pump and don't want to see one. That is the same as if I wore depends and told him about them. I have had them tell me the love of their life just died. I have always wondered if her funeral was over when he started looking. Nope, don't think the dating sites are for me.

Soosie
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Re: AARP DATING SITE

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This is just my opinion, but I have NEVER found a dating site that is not filled with the wrong type of men. I am not a member of the one you speak of, but I am sure it is no different. I did meet one nice man a long time ago, but that is the only one. He moved from the area and I am sure he found a nice partner for the rest of his life. I have had men tell me to wise up that these sites are only for sex. The last one I met came on like gangbusters and the date lasted less than 20 minutes. I think I broke some kind of record. When we got in his car he started to tell me if we were going to have a relationship, I would need to stay in touch with him regularly. I told him that is a deal breaker, I don't stay on the phone with someone. I asked him to turn around and take me back home. I don't need a insecure man in my life.

I have a male friend who lost his wife. He jumped back into the dating scene on Match and met someone. I think they lived together until a suitable time passed and then married. Recently he told me she is a con artist, contributes nothing and is selling off much of what he owns. I suggested a lawyer to him. He did tell me his home has been put into his daughter's name. I know it is a touchy subject since she is his wife, but I also suggested that he talk to his daughter and tell her the whole story. I don't think men like to think they have been taken. Perhaps his daughter could have him stay with her for awhile and give the old broad 10 days to get out of the house. She could say it was being sold. My friend said he was afraid of being alone. I told him it is much better to be alone than with someone you cannot trust.

I really veered off with this, but the bottom line is no one could pay me to be on one of those sites.

Soosie
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Re: AARP DATING SITE

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am94177318 wrote:

I have placed my profile on this site to try and meet someone that is compatible with me in my area that maybe I can began a with and see where it goes. The problem is there is a hacker of kind that is pretending to be someone he is not with pictures and profiles that tries to befriend you but it is something in the dialogue that lets you know that it is not quite right. So far I have been able to depict him within the first conservation or so but it has gotten frustrating. His responses are dead give aways. Somehow he lets me know that it is him or a friend. One thing that I have discovered is the are not from the United States. One of the conversations got to the sob story about hard times and I immediately knew that the money question was coming next but I stopped him dead in his tracks before he could board that ship. I have emailed howaboutwe.com because I am very disappointed with the paid membership but have not received a response to date. Can you folks tell me your opinion and experiences with Online dating? Please give me suggestions on how to proceed. I am 56 ( or will be next Friday) but I am ready for a relationship now that all the children are grown and on their own. I am a 2 time divorcee so i don't have patience for nonsense and playing games.


AARP's website .. where you're posting your comment .. is NOT a dating website. This section of it is called "Online Community", and is open for a wide variety of discussions.

This person sounds like a scam artist, and may be phishing for information about women who post that they're single & interested. A "hacker" is someone who breaks into websites, either to scre.w up the programming, or get private information to which they shouldn't have access.

 

My guess is that very few online dating services will engage you in a discussion about how satisfied you are, beyond saying that they're "sorry you feel that way".


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