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Greetings fellow Baby Boomers,

We’ve all heard the news. Baby boomers are the fastest growing demographic in the nation. I have several friends who are just like me - we never dreamed we would be at this point in our lives no longer in the long-term relationships we were so happy in. None of us ever expected or planned on being single - no one does. And yet here we are. Most of my girlfriends  are looking for the same thing – the opportunity to meet honest guys our age in a safe environment.  I definitely understand that an AARP dating website would be incredibly expensive and difficult to run. Perhaps AARP would be interested in sponsoring a specific Meet Up group?  I know 5 professional  women over the age of 55 in San Antonio that would be charter members. 

And if not, could AARP at least plan more activities in our area?  They could cover any multitude of topics – just please give us a chance to meet each other. That’s really all we want : )

Until next time,

Bella

 

 

 

 

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To continue my finger hit wrong button....

I agree with your thoughts of how can build connections 

I tried a dating site Spoke & Texted with 2 guys & met each

1st guy didn't look like posts and lied(he said was joke few days later) about his past marriages... with my having definite trust issues because of way my decades marriage which I felt was in for long haul suddenly ended... his joking didn't go over well but I still tried but he freaked when wouldn't immediately respond to his texts. So I put end to that. 

2nd guy super nice brought flowers he lived Hour & half away which I felt be issue but he said no wouldn't had nice date and time together then also he freaked when didn't respond right away to texts... which if with my granddaughters my focus is on them at least till have time build on relationship. Also discovered was a player & with awareness to why distance not issue cause just wanted phone & texting relationship Sorry but I wanna spend time with a person to get to know them and don't believe can do that with texting. So that ended.

Maybe I've handled these wrong?? Not all up on ways of modern dating kinda old fashioned.But I am too old for games and mess like that as you've said with our past experiences All the things we did when were young crazy in love... aren't necessary Although I feel if I were to meet someone at this stage of life and as long as I can keep from making them pay for my ex's choices & I am able to focus on them and knowing life is a lot shorter today than was years ago believe could have a very nice and rewarding relationship..... well a girl can hope anyway.

Have a beautiful week! 

Ginger  : ) 

 

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@BruceT48072 

Well said Bruce

I understand their reasons for stopping dating site which took away time for other things available on this community.

I do like the fact that a member can post a Bio profile others can read although I'm the only one seen has done that but also the fact that you can send private messages through this community is very nice and helps with building bonds between members who connect over topics of interest.

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 AARP should have a dating site. But it should use different strategies.  Activities, communication  and meeting are important components for dating. Probably AARP needs to sponsor singles weekends where people can do a variety of activities guranteed to run into a diversity of people. Somewhere along the line, AARP needs to help people deal with safety and honesty.  The challenge is helping people know that fun and togetherness comes first.

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So well said. Because most of us have had close rewarding relationships, it is depressing to engage in superficial judgemental bable with another person who wants intimacy too. 

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LMAO!!!  Well said BruceT.  You just described most of the first dates I had from the different dating sites I've tried in the past three years since I've been single again (after a decades long marriage).  Unfortunately, only a very small percentage of those dates ever led to a second date. 

 

Most of the best dates I've had in the past three years were with people I already knew, either through a mutal friend, the professional industry I work in, a community event or through one of my MeetUp groups (I belong to several).  This is why I no longer have any profiles on any dating websites.  It's also why dating websites are a really poor dating resource.

 

By the time one reaches this point in their life (50's & 60's), the whole insta-chemisty notion is just ridiculous.  Most of us have years of experience with satisfying and fullfilling, long-term relationships to know that it doesn't happen instantly.

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The biggest problem with senior dating is not related to dating sites.  Most people require time and interaction together before they are ready to "date".  Instant connections do not work. There is always a lack of trust.  Conversations begin with the superficial where micro responses are always subject to misinterpretation or comparison to negative memories.  Looks, perceived wealth and limited time together doom most seniors at the beginning.  Fear, lack of passion and unrealistic expectations gurantee most first meetings are last meetings.

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@AARPTeri wrote:

@ASTRAEA  - Thanks those were some great responses to @Midgekin.

 

AARP did test a dating partnership a few years ago and it just wasn't a great fit.  There are dating sites that are businesses solely for that purpose and AARP's mission is not to become that.  We are here to help members connect with one another on like subject matters and we can tell you that many have made lifelong friends here online.  We hope that you are also interested in finding others to discuss a wide array of topics and that you will find friends that are interested in discussing similar subject matter.

 

Let us know if we can help you or have additional questions.

 

 


@e190163m 

I've attached a response from Teri that is below (about 10 down) in this thread 

AARP tested a dating site some years ago 

 

Good luck,

Ginger  : ) 

 

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I also would be attracted to an AARP dating site for the reasons AARP has always been a sign of honesty, integrity, always on the look out to help Seniors.

Why not, AARP?  You could put the money toward more programs to help Seniors. A lot of us didn't expect out later years to be so challenging financially, nor did we expect to be alone. Easy to live frugally when you have someone to share the good times and difficult times. Personally, I am really tired of not having a mate to love and share our lives. 

I can't just sit around waiting for him! I have a lot to do and would have more fun doing it together!

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Thanks for the info, I was just looking today because I thought idnseen it advertised somewhere. 

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