Since I live so far away from and not many people left from my family, I rely heavily on my friends. We would go out to eat to "catch up", attend some events together, etc. Unfortunately, covid killed off most of my relationships. My friends (50s-60s-70s) are too afraid to go out. Being home all the time, they say they are "too busy". We tried a few zoom sessions (mainly around our birthdays) but eventually that fizzled out too. And frankly, I"m tired of being everyone's "secretary" and doing ALL the planning. The phone, zoom, email WORKS BOTH WAYS. If my long time friends can't be bothered, then why should I do all the work? So right now I'm just doing things for myself, BY myself. I can make myself happy. Dancing is getting started again and I'm going out to have fun!
I'm fortunate in having two women I consider my best friends. First is my cousin who used to sit on my knee when she was a toddler and I was twelve. She's now 70 and I'm 82. She still lives in New England and I now live in California. Thanks to the internet, we write to each other every day, and we talk about anything and everything. Second is a younger women who lives in the same town as I do. When I was president of the local garden club and needed a volunteer to set up a web page, she volunteered. That was 17years ago and we've been best friends ever since. We also correspond daily even though we live in the same town. Between the two of these wonderful women, I never feel at a loss for someone to talk to, and to listen to.