why marriages fail after 25 years

[56hannah]

My marraiage failed, because he know longer wanted to be responsible for me and our children. Guess who helped him in his career? The truth of the matter is, he was more interested in St. Pauly Girl, and Bud Weiser. 

[kathea]

There are men who are abused both verbally and physically.   It certainly does happen.  And that's a shame.  While resources for victimized women are not thick on the ground, there are even fewer available to abused men.  That's a shame.  But, until a man who's been victimized posts, none of us can discuss it, since we have no experience with being a victimized man.  That's also a shame, since victims of domestic abuse need and deserve to be heard regardless of gender. 

In Response to Re: why marriages fail after 25 years:

Why is it always the men who victimizes the women. Is there ever a dissuasion where the man is is the victim?

Posted by handbiker321

[sallyjoq]

Nobody has stopped any man from posting in this group.  So, if there are guys out there who want to tell their experiences about being victimized by their spouses, please do so!

SallyJo

In Response to Re: why marriages fail after 25 years:

Why is it always the men who victimizes the women. Is there ever a dissuasion where the man is is the victim?

Posted by handbiker321

[handbiker321]

Why is it always the men who victimizes the women. Is there ever a dissuasion where the man is is the victim?

[kjones3414]

We were best friends. After 32 yrs. of marriage and 3kids, I didn't want him touching me anymore. So he found someone else. I never had a lot of interest in sex anyway, I fantasized about it with other men, because he was more like a brother and best friend than a lover. I also thought that he would be losing interest in sex by our 50's  and we could grow old together without too much intimacy but I guess that was unrealistic on my part. He did continue to tell me he loved me until right up to when I found out he was meeting his old high school girlfriend. So it has been very hard for me to be apart from my best friend during the worst crisis of my life. Like someone else said on this site, divorce is worse than a death, because the person is gone because they chose to be, not because death separated you.

[kml127]

I have been married for 30 years to a man who was emotionally and verbally abusive but I choose to try to make the marriage work not matte what, but over 2 years ago my husband discovered a younger woman in his excercise class who understood him and was fun and was sexy and so ended the marriage - he choose her to fill in the years of planning and hopes and dreams... it has been hard but I think I alwasy knew it would end this way as he worked over an hour away from home and alswys choose to come home whenever he wanted to and I was the wroking but stay at home mom..nurse maid.. caretaker.. but never his friend.. freindship in marriage is key .. but we never were freinds...

[sallyjoq]

Unfortunately, that seems to be the case too many times.  How many years were you married?  Are you now divorced?  How about the kids?

SallyJo

In Response to why marriages fail after 25 years:

My marraiage failed, because he know longer wanted to be responsible for me and our children. Guess who helped him in his career? The truth of the matter is, he was more interested in St. Pauly Girl, and Bud Weiser. 

Posted by 56hannah

[56hannah]

My marraiage failed, because he know longer wanted to be responsible for me and our children. Guess who helped him in his career? The truth of the matter is, he was more interested in St. Pauly Girl, and Bud Weiser.