Hi - Not sure if Im on the correct site / thread, but it's a start and perhaps someone out there and aid me.
I've been in what I considered a very secure relationship for the past 27 years, with a female of now 51 years old. Obviously we have had our ups and downs, but never like what happened 4 months ago.
We have never married and have no children of the relationship. We entered everything on a 50/50 basis, and are very successful financially and I believe our sex lives were also good. also Note that we work together and are professionals
About 4 months ago we had a major agrument, and we didn't speak for about 2 weeks. I was more to blame than her.
In the interium I found her flirting with men on FB which has lead to a breakup in the relationship.
She now has a boyfriend and supposely hasn't had sex with him, which I believe her.
We still stay in the same house and bed, and often have sex, which somehow has improved 10 fold.
The reason being is that we are both 50/50 and neither wants to give-up their share.
I'm emotionally drained and obvioulsy negatively affected, she has almost turned a switch and doesn't seem to have any emotion for me, whatosever!!
It seems to be all abou herself. She has done botox, lost about 12 Kgs, now exercise on a daily basis, and had her teeth redone and bleached.
Started to wear high heels (never doen before) - always had an excuse not to wear, e.g. uncomfortable.
My questions:
1. How does a female manage to switch off, and change 180 in 3 weeks after an argurment?
2. Why would she continously have sex with me?
3. During the day she now doesn't want to spend time with me?
4. How do I continue living a decent life?
5. If this is a power game, she is streets ahead of me.
This list could carry on, and on, but this is a start
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