I think the best advice I would give someone is this: Don't beat yourself up. Sure, part of it is your fault - it takes 2 to end or have a relationship. But don't be overcome with grief and sorrow. Pick yourself up, be thankful for what you had and take the time to be thrilled the negative side is over and you can have a happy day, more peace, no chaos....look for the positives. Humiliated? It will pass. Love yourself anyway because you're worth it.
I wrote a paper years ago in college and I have not waivered from it: House of Love = foundation of friendship - if this does not exist, you are building on quicksand and your structure will not be built ; 4 pillars - respect, communication, honesty and trust - if any of these are missing, you cannot rise above friendship because your walls won't stand and if they stand on weak terms, the first storm will tear apart your walls and you will be left with cracked foundation wondering if the friendship was even real. On the walls, you want hugs, kisses, resolved conflicts, kids, families, memories, strength, sickness, wellness, tears, laughter, conversation, etc. The roof is love; the front door is teamwork - those make outsiders feel welcome. They look in the windows of your home and feel warmth, happiness. They want what you have. It all starts and is built with the foundation and 4 pillars. Without that strong base, you have nothing - move on - count your lucky stars they didn't reel you in. 🙂 Dodged a bullet. Woohoo! LOL