My soon to be exhusband regrets marrying me. I did not know that at all. How do i go on from here, forward thats all i can do. I realized that this is why things were the way they were with us. We love each other but have no respect for each other as far as, religious beleifs, life style, and life ethics. All i know is this is over, only thing we have in common was sex, i need more then that.
It does suck. I've been married for 29 years, knew him 5 years prior. You didnt state how long you knew him prior to marriage but that counts too! I hope your doing well & have a friend or family to lean on. I'm not going to tell you in time you'll get over it. That part of your life becomes your history, it's a new chapter afterwards. After 10 years of being divorced, I still think once-in-awhile how I couldof prevented the demise but dont get overwhelmed with it anymore.
So much of life and love is healthy when seekers continue to look for love and loving. Even when disappointed by a long time end to marriage....... life and loving continue to restore and rebuild one's healthy outlook with the finding of eligible new partners. There is no replacement other than the warmth and physical attachment of a new mate. Continue to seek love and loving.
Hang in there. Chances are it has NOTHING to do with you. I recently went through this myself... Just focus on yourself. If there are things you can improve, improve them. It's okay to love someone and not be with them, but it's very painful if you won't let go and move on.
There is no "love" without respect! You might have had common beliefs & goals in life, but that's not all it takes to love each other. Better to go forward & have your own life, with love & respect for yourself!
Just FYI, when a friend of mine was going thru marriage counselling as a last resort before divorce, the therapist explained that people often find it difficult/uncomfortable to examine how the relationship had changed for the worse over time. Or to "justify" divorce when their spouse was the same loving person they'd always been. So the easiest thing for them to do, to justify a divorce, is to say that they never really loved their spouse in the first place, but made a mistake/were manipulated into getting married way back when.