Mothers, tell us the one piece of advice you hope your kids take to heart. In other words, if you had to choose just one bit of wisdom dispensed with the best of intentions that will echo in your children’s minds for the rest of their lives, we want to hear it. Sons and daughters, share the one piece of advice from Mom — replaying in a constant loop in your head — that has most shaped or inspired you.



My mother used to say "The money is just as green in your pocket as it is in theirs." She was the daughter of depression parents who had done well surviving the national catatophe (they ran a dairy farm, sold farm produce in neighboring towns — chickens, strawberries). And my grandfather sold fish flies, which was curious as there wasn't much water in their part of Illinois!). My grandfather had the first automobile in town.


Over the years, I hear this echo every time a telemarketer calls, everytime I get emails about fabulous sales. I have learned that this is the underbelly of capitalism: money is of high value in parts of our society. My mother's admonition rings loud sometimes and now, looking back over my life, I realize what she told me has helped me make financial decisions, both big and small.


"Let your head save your heels!"



My mother, Margaret Cooper, was a fabulous classical pianist and she and Dad gave their four daughters the opportunity to study music from an early age and to become musicians.  Minutes before my first violin recital, as a ten-year-old, I suddenly told Mom that I had "butterflies" — in other words I was nervous and afraid to play in front of all those people.  She told me very matter of factly, "Oh no, that's not nervousness.  What you're feeling is excitement! Excitement to get up on the stage and share your beautiful music with everybody and make them all very happy." Well, that's all it took. And for the past 53 years as a performer in music, theater and dance her words have never failed me. I was a young adult when I finally realized that she had tricked me, but in doing so she had given me a valuable life skill, the ability to channel my thoughts, feelings and energy in positve directions that would aid me most. And the joy of sharing.



My parents were married over 50 years and my Mom always said the secret was never go to bed fighting or mad with each other — settle the argument before you fall asleep.



"Secure the place you live before anything else." This has been passed down to my children, her grandchildren and great grandchildren.


Her other advise was "Your only friends are your Mother and the money in your pocket." These words bring warmth to my heart when I hear my children tell their friends the same.



When I would tell my mother something that I had heard that was hurtful or seemed untrue, my mother would always say, "Consider the source."  If you hear something from someone who loves to gossip or is known to talk a lot without checking the truth before speaking, it is best to forget what you have heard from that person.



My mother always told us to treat others the way we would like to be treated.



My mother always said if you cannot say anything nice about someone, do not say anything at all.



My stepmother told me that learning to cook using fresh ingredients and leaving commercially canned or packaged foods at the grocery store would never fail me. She was right about that.



In a similar vein to gossip, my maternal grandmother ALWAYS said, 'when you grow up, you will realize that common sense is not all that common.' How True!



Always be independent. Never rely on anyone but yourself.



When all else the directions.



My mom told me that NO One Can Take Care of my Children like i do...not even her. Not that my mom wasnt a good guardian or grandma...she simply meant your children should be your priority. Trust no one to take care of them like yourself. I always remembered that.



My mother always led through example. Make your bed every morning, put a dab/spray of perfume between your breasts, and look into a mirror with a smile. She had 6 children, 2 of whom were severely disabled due to Polio, and persevered. She never complained and faced each day with courage and grace.



Make sure you have a job so that you can always suppport yourself, and don't have to just rely on a man to support you.



When returning home from doing errands, my mom would always take an indirect route to drive down a particular street. One day, I asked her why. She said, "I always go the pretty way" and pointed out a particular house with lovely landscaping. No matter where we went we saw some simple beauty because mom always went the pretty way.



My mom's most oft repeated words of advice are:

"You need to get along with everyone."

"If you share, you'll have more friends."

and that old favorite: "Try not to fight!"



My Mom always told me "You're known by the company you keep" and "the world doesn't revolve around you" great things to remember! She was a great Mom and grandmother, kind and thoughtful. She is missed every day. Happy Mother's day in Heaven!



Give others the benefit of the doubt. Always look for the good in people. Look both ways and never forget to look up.



My mother would tell me "you are just as good as anyone else and better than most."  



She would always tell me in the grocery store ... I carried you for 9 months; you can carry this out to the car. I loved that!



My mom always reminded us girls that a LADY is kind, considerate of others, always polite, never raises her voice, helps others when needed without having to be asked and . . . even more importantly, ALWAYS behaved in a manner that made people glad to see you COME, not glad to see you GO!!!  Can you tell I'll be 83 in 4 months? I don't think many parents teach these things any more.



Be always brave and intelligent and move forward irrespective of the hardships faced.



My mother told me and my siblings that we always represented home, and never let anyone tell us who we are or what we can become. And never compare ourselves to others, if we've given the best that we can do or we have, that's all we can ask of ourselves.



While my dear Mom suffered her entire life from pretty severe mental illness, which affected our entire family, she had many moments of loving clarity. I most remember her oft-repeated and heartfelt words, "be kind."



Actually the one of piece of advice that I think of daily as I get older was from my grandmother. She alwys told me "that any day is good as long as you can get out of bed."  This puts my problems in perspective for me. I am out of bed and moving so I am thankful.



Actually, my grandmother was pretty wise. This is probably where her daughter (my mom) got it. Her advise was "Keep moving, don't just stand there. It's hard to hit a moving target!" This really makes sense now that I will be 83 in November, still work, don't go to the doctor, don't take medications . . . well, you get the idea. When I talk with my customers, they can't believe my age. I owe it all to older loved ones.

My mom said always take time to enjoy your children when they're young ; as the housework will be there still after they're grown up. Clean but don't be a fanatic about it...In other words stop and smell the roses...



~~Kit Morrison [Washington State]

Oh my Mom, how I have missed her sooo much through out my life. Taken when she and her girls were so young. The last few months of her life she did the best knowing her time was short to try to teach the older ones as much as she could.  The best thing my Mom ever taught me was to keep my faith in God and the Lord Jesus and that will indeed get you through some of the toughest times of your life.  She taught by need for specific words, just the loving way. She was a disciplined Mom but I certainly would never say she was abusive. Why would she be considered abusive for her discipline when so many in the world can do far more damage to a soul/spirit without even touching one?


Thanks for reading and I hope you too have a blessed day!

I think the best thing my mother or step mother have both done to me is to listen . Some people aren't good to talk to because they don't listen. My advice is listen to your kids , not just speak to them. Let your mind and heart grasp their intentions when they speak to you. 

My mom didn't give much advice, but her actions spoke volumes.  We didn't have money for "extras," so when there wasn't enough money for my little sister to take horse back riding lessons with her Girl Scout Troop, Mom gave up cigarettes to find the extra money.


To put this in perspective, my little sister loved horses.  She read about them, wrote about them, and drew pictures of them.  To miss out on this rare opportunity would have broken her heart.  And if you've ever been a smoker, you know what a sacrifice Mom made.


PS:  Mom never told my sister why she stopped smoking.






      My mom is still around and very independent, her best advice was after my late husband passed four years ago, actually, it wasn't so much advice as a reminder. She said you don't need a man in your life, you are a strong independent woman.

    Since we are both strong-willed women we have taught and given each other words of wisdom. 

"get busy and do something.  you can't be depressed if you're busy".


mothers are full of advice, as we all know.  seems like too much advice, when you're young and you know it all.  when you're young and confident and fearless, and you're the one hip to the world.  mom's advice is too often perceived as an old adage, a worn mantra, meant to caution, to hold you back.  how does mom know anything about a changed, new world?   .....oh, mom knew.


Some of the best advice my mother ever gave me was to keep myself busy and productive.  if she saw me sitting around moping, she always told me to get busy.  this was in the '50's and 60's, before childhood trauma was analyzed and scrutinized for potential psychological damage.  your best friend dumped you for someone else?    A teacher berated you at school for an innocent mistake?  too bad.  deal with it.  The injustices of childhood were not to be taken too seriously.  whether this was good or bad, I don't know.  but as a child, I was never allowed to dwell on things too long.  a little while, maybe, but not for too long.


this "buck up" attitude was clearly conveyed by my mother's intolerance of wallowing.  "get your butt out of the chair and get busy".


When I was a kid, there was no such thing as "childhood depression".  There was always a chore to do, to take your mind off things.  and mom was right;  it's hard to be depressed if you're busy and productive.


Even now, at my age, if I find myself pondering too much about this or that, her words come back to me, loud and clear.  "get your butt out of that chair and get busy".  And I do.  I make myself move.  I go do a job of some sort, whether fully engaged or robotically.  Time passes, and I am busy.  I am not moping.  I am accomplishing something.  whether its clean folded laundry, or more permanent, like painting a table, there is always some concrete manifestation of my work waiting to be had.


we all have times when we feel down.  that's life.  and those times are, perhaps, necessary, even the moping.  we need to feel sorry for ourselves sometimes, to be "down", if only so we can understand how it is, if only to teach empathy.


but there are limits.  there's a line we shouldn't cross.  there's a point where we must decide to sink or swim, and mom taught me to swim, not sink, by the simple effort of getting busy.


it's not easy.  you have to force yourself sometimes, make yourself do it. but when. busy, time goes quickly, and your mind must focus on what you're doing, to some extent anyway.  and when the task is completed, there is some verification of yourself, some accomplishment manifested, some little ego-boost you can lay your eyes on.  and with any luck, you end up with a lighter, more confident, lifted spirit.  renewed self-worth.

the depressed mentality may still be in the back of your mind, but at least you found an  escape for a while, and accomplished something.  there is hope, and hopefully, you can see that.  


you get busy.  you swim to keep from drowning.  you make yourself swim.  if you move, you stay on top.  if you don't, you drown.


I do not expect life to be always on the upbeat.  I accept some depressed days as part of the whole.  but I do not allow myself to wallow.

mom wouldn't.  she'd tell me to get my butt off this chair, and get busy.


and that's exactly what I do.



Mom always said, "This to shall pass." She was right!

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