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10-03-2017 02:00 PM
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I try to practice gratitude and mindfulness but I have developed panic and anxiety attacks, worsened by frequent calamitious family events over which I have little control. My own childhood was physically and mentally abusive and negative fatalism replaced optimism, and this attitude resurfaces from the recesses of my mind in dealing with current prolonged problems. I saw a psychologist for six sessions this spring, but it was of little benefit. I try to determine the stressors that I do have control over and to take authoritative action, and this creates a modicum of positivity.
10-03-2017 12:41 PM
I grew up with a Father who faced adversity his entire life beginning at the age of two.
He instilled in me that no matter how difficult life became there was a Greater Power above..
He taught me all my prayers for my First Communion.
My Mother was busy with five children...
I was the oldest of five and was given a lot of responsibility at a young age.
There was never any time to feel underprivileged.
I am a strong believer in prayer..
It's difficult to listen to one's own sibling and realize their childhood memories are negative.
We were never rich...we always had food to eat and clothes to wear.
My Father did instill in me a love of reading. I try to read currently popular writer's novels and old classics.
I have witnessed my Parents decline in health and had to be upbeat in spite of the sadness.
My one Sibling refused to accept that death was imminent for our Father.
My Mother was devastated and almost died three weeks later herself. She had a strong will to live and fought for 7 years with congestive heart failure.
She once said when she came so close to death she could not break our hearts!
We were all adults and yet she felt such beautiful love for her children and grandchildren.
I had many Friends and Family praying for her.
I refused to give up.
I am older now and in three years will be 70 years old.
My only concern is for my Son.
I do try to visit my Sister every weekend. This past weekend it was painful to drive because I have been ill. It was important to give her a birthday card and small gift.
I was too ill to attend Mass Sunday and stayed home.
My Son is busy and checks on me.
I refuse to feel sorry for myself.
There are too many suffering in our world.
I am thankful for all the blessings given to me.
It is my belief that if we could be more kind and positive to others it would multiply a hundredfold...
It does not cost too much to smile.
10-03-2017 11:58 AM
I've had people tell me they are surprised that I keep an optimistic view, even when I am going through some terrible things (This year has been a doozy!). I believe that bad things will pass and good things will return as I trust in God. i don't want bad vibes to rub off on other people! I call myself a pessimistic optimist; I know there is a silver lining, just can't see it for the clouds!
10-03-2017 11:56 AM
@js6058 I know what you mean. Artist married to a software engineer here. We almost always come at something from different angles, though I confess we generally end up in the same place.
10-03-2017 11:51 AM
Optimist married to a pessimest!!! Somehow we balance each other out. Always makes for great discussions!
10-03-2017 11:28 AM
Suppose I am an optomist. But I am primarily a Christian and my faith in God is strong. Therefore, I do mainly see the sunny side of things. Someone mentioned grateful they didn't live where the terrible tornados or forest fires were. Well, I live near the fires but thankful we didn't have any where I live. I prefer to be optomistic, I want to be happy and trusting.
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