🤔 What Challenge(s) Are You Facing Right Now?

[APassionateLife]

Some days we get out of bed and take care of others who depend on us. Maybe "furbabies" too. 🐈🐕

Other days we want to stay in bed and die as the "pain" of thinking of our loved ones has us drained. 😭

Every day, every moment may present a "different" challenge.

What is/are your challenge(s) right now? 🤔

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Nicole 🤎🤗 (Grief & Loss Forum)

[APassionateLife]

(1/28/23) Some days we get out of bed and take care of others who depend on us. Maybe "furbabies" too. 🐈🐕 Other days we want to stay in bed and die as the "pain" of thinking of our loved ones has us drained. 😭 Every day, every moment may present a "different" challenge. What is/are your challenge(s) right now? 🤔 ➡️ To reply to this post, click on REPLY BUTTON at bottom of this post, enter your text, then click REPLY BUTTON again.⬅️ Nicole 🤎🤗 (Grief & Loss)

[Murphy8344]

My family and friends want a Celebration of Life which is ok, but ifI invite all of the people who are telling me they want to come, I can't afford it.

What do I say to these people?  How do I explain I can't afflord over a certain number of people?

[APassionateLife]

(1/27/23) Dear Murphy @Murphy8344 , so sorry for your loss! Me, I would be honest and set up a Fundraiser. In my opinion, the genuine caring folks will understand the costs and stress involved. So GLAD you stopped by! WE LUV YOU, Nicole 🤗🤎

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@Murphy8344 wrote:

My family and friends want a Celebration of Life which is ok, but ifI invite all of the people who are telling me they want to come, I can't afford it.

What do I say to these people?  How do I explain I can't afflord over a certain number of people?

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[SueS788527]

Hi, Nicole, thank you for being so proactive.  I noticed that you are a "trusted contributor" which is good for you.  Does this mean that you are affiliated with AARP and that is why you have so many valuable resources?  Just wondering.  Keep up the good work.  

[APassionateLife]

Thanks (1/26/23) Good Morning Sue @SueS788527 , lol, no - I stay in too much trouble with AARP. 😂🤣 I have a very big mouth and say things I should not on this site. 😎 I am just a regular person like you grieving and trying to find peace on this site. HAPPY to say I finally have in the Grief & Loss Forum. Have a GREAT day my friend and know that you always fill me up!!! Nicole 🤗🤎

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@SueS788527 wrote:

Hi, Nicole, thank you for being so proactive.  I noticed that you are a "trusted contributor" which is good for you.  Does this mean that you are affiliated with AARP and that is why you have so many valuable resources?  Just wondering.  Keep up the good work.  

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[APassionateLife]

2 comments (1/25/23) Well it was one of my feel sorry for myself days. But just now realized how AWESOME the folks were at my bank today. 🙂 Today was day number 2 of my famous 6am alarm going off to run errands and to be honest, thought about just laying in bed and not moving. But I got up and so GLAD I did! As the saying goes, the kindness of strangers fills us up. Luv you all, Nicole 🤎🤗

[CarolynS674392]

I'm thinking of you today Nicole.🙂

[APassionateLife]

Thanks (1/25/23) Thank you SO MUCH Carolyn @CarolynS674392 !!! Nicole 🤗🤎

[BeatleloverKT]

@EileenP559346  As I go into year 5 without

him, I think his birthday and anniversary of death

are the hardest days. For me, his birthday came

less then 2 weeks before he died. So those two

dates are wrapped around each other forever

for me. I can tell you it gets easier but never

easy, if that makes sense. I am best if I’m alone 

on those days because I spend a lot of time in

tears. And I honor him those days especially by

doing something he enjoyed, if I can and thru

music. But it’s a very individual experience.

Prayers to you always 🙏🙏

[APassionateLife]

Thanks (1/25/23) So good hearing from you today @BeatleloverKT 🤎🤗

[EileenP559346]

So, yesterday was his birthday.  First one without him.  First one of a lifetime without him.  As with Christmas and New Years the day after is worse than the actual day.  I am not sure why it is like that.  Yesterday my heart hurt, but today the tears are flowing more.  I am trying to keep busy but everything just brings me back to him.  The challenges I am facing and will continue to face are many, however I know that he (and God) gives me strength to get through.  I wish all of you the strength to get through the challenges we face....>Eileen

[CarolynS674392]

Thinking of you, Eileen.🙂

[MarcyW882921]

Be kind and gentle with yourself. It's what you need right now and with loving care you will continue to put one foot in front of the other.

[APassionateLife]

Thanks (1/25/23) So good hearing from you Marcy @MarcyW882921 🤎🤗

[APassionateLife]

Thanks (1/25/23) Dear Eileen @EileenP559346 , I wish I was there with you to give you a real hug. WE LUV YOU, Nicole 🤎🤗

[APassionateLife]

Sharing (MONDAY 1/23/23 11:02pm EST) Well I am suppose to be asleep for my 6am alarm in the morning. Lol, I will be sleepy when my alarm goes off. 🤣😂 But I will be up in spite of being tired physically, mentally and emotionally. Luv you all, Nicole 🤎🤗

[BeatleloverKT]

Thinking of all of you as I continue to put one 

foot in front of the other 🙏

[LeeS6949]

There are many thinking of you as well

[APassionateLife]

1 comment (1/23/23) Good to hear from you today @BeatleloverKT 🤗🤎

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@BeatleloverKT wrote:

Thinking of all of you as I continue to put one foot

in front of the other 🙏

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[LeeS6949]

Thank you for the kudo,I'm glad you are back. 😊

[APassionateLife]

My Support (SUNDAY 1/22/23) Hi Carolyn @CarolynS674392 , I have been gone a week and just now reading your posts. Tears are in my eyes as I read them! 😭 I am so sorry you were treated like this!!! 😤 WE are always here for you, Nicole 🤎🤗

[CarolynS674392]

Being ignored.  My two sisters-in-law took me out to dinner for my birthday, but they, one especially, wouldn't talk to me when I spoke to her.  I was sitting across from both of them.  I said "Why are you ignoring me?"  and she said it was because she was eating.  Also, they are sisters, so when we get together they talk amongst themselves and don't include me.  Why take me out if you are not going to converse with me?  

Then, about a week before, I was at the hair salon and the one doing hair was talking to her client about a Polish market.  I tried to enter the conversation by asking where it was - about three times I tried to talk and they ignored me too.  What is it about me?

[BeatleloverKT]

@LeeS6949 is spot on with her assessment. You have done nothing wrong. I also find myself in situations where I’m ignored. My solutions are I don’t engage in public convos with people I don’t know. Also the dinners with your SIL are probably something you should not continue. If it makes you feel that bad, and it is that bad, it’s better for you mentally to not go out with them. I have found it’s better to be alone then to be with people who make me feel bad about myself

[LeeS6949]

I'm thinking its them and not you. AS far as your in-laws go they come across as wanting to make everything about them,and they cant do that unless someone is with them. I suspect thats their motivation for inviting you. Their loss if you ask me. Self absorption in people these days is rampant to say the least. The hair dresser in question is a good example I think. Be sad if you must,I'm sad for them..

[CarolynS674392]

Yeah.  I had other people who wanted to take me out like my mom and dad and sister, but they asked first, so...  

I guess the only thing in common we have is we loved their brother (my husband).  Dan never ignored me.  He was the best person in the world.  Even he felt different from his family.

[CarolynS674392]

And then the one that's nicest keeps bugging me to get into texting.  I've told her I don't want to.  I have a flip phone and it's nearly impossible to text on one.  I'm not stupid.  In fact, I'm am quite intelligent and I'm really into the arts.  Maybe there's not a lot of people for me to relate to.  Also, they are in the work world and I am not.  Maybe they look down on me for not being as worldly as they are.

[LeeS6949]

Sounds like there might be some ego problems with them. Have you ever noticed that people with the biggest egos don't have any good reasons to have one? People who don't feel good about themselves ( them) want to drag others down to their level. (you) From what you've said and how you've articulately worded it I'm thinking you wont let that happen. Please dont.

[CarolynS674392]

Ok.  Thank you. 😀

[CarolynS674392]

This makes me cry.  I feel so sad.