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🤗 WE are thinking of YOU! Please Stop By To See Us :)

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WE cry, rejoice, talk, share!

 

Whatever YOU need, WE are here for YOU.

 

***YOU are a very SPECIAL person and WE want to hear from YOU***

 

Grief & Loss Team 🤗

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Did you know that a SELF-CARE ROUTINE helps us on OUR Healing Journeys? Tell us about YOUR ROUTINE!!! Thanks, Nicole  🤗🤗🤗

 

I treat myself to Glade Candles. 💃💃💃  When the candles will NO LONGER BURN, I use a sharp knife to scrape a "little" of the remaining candle out and INTO my "tiny" wax burner. I am in heaven...  👍

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🙃  GRATITUDE while we heal - AARP Online Community. See link at bottom of this post!  🔽
 
WHAT ARE YOU GRATEFUL FOR RIGHT NOW? ‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌
 
Gratitude brings MORE of the GOOD stuff our way!!!  ‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌💃💃💃
 

https://community.aarp.org/t5/Grief-Loss/GRATITUDE-while-we-heal/m-p/2532387#M9115

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👂  Remember, listening to someone costs zero and you have made that person feel wanted and cared for.

 

YES, we all receive the stuff that cost money (money, giftcards, flowers, condolence cards/notes) BUT I know how much being listened to has WARMED my insides!!!

 

So think of someone TODAY who may be NEEDING your ear...

 

Thanks,

Nicole  🤗🤗🤗

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IT IS A SUBJECT I AND MY DAUGHTER USE TO AVOID UNTIL SHE LOST HER FATHER. NOW SHE UNDERSTANDS WHY I HAD TOLD HER WHERE EVERYTHING IS FOR WHEN I PASS. WHAT DO YOU HAVE SET UP SO FAR FOR YOURSELF?  🤔 ANY TIPS TO SHARE?  🤔

 

Me - I set up an area on my bookshelf for ALL legal documents. I am working on the cremation end of things.  MY TIP: Try NOT to dwell on your passing as we ALL will one day. Just TRY to remember the ones we leave behind will be GRIEVING. Anything we can do while still ALIVE to make things easier shows we LUV them!!!  👍👍👍

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I HAVE NEVER SET UP ANY MEMORIAL SERVICES OR ATTENDED ANY. FOR THOSE WHO HAVE SET ONE UP AND/OR ATTENDED ONE - ANY FEEDBACK FOR THE REST OF US?  🤔

 

[1] Maybe tips to set one up.

 

[2] Maybe what you liked and/or disliked about the ones you attended.

 

Thanks,

Nicole  🤗🤗🤗

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FYI: IF you see a VERY OLD discussion that YOU would like to ADD your "comment" to - please do!!!

 

They will have this symbol at the beginning of each OLD DISCUSSION.  ♻️

 

WE WELCOME all "input" at anytime...

 

Thanks,

Nicole  🤗🤗🤗

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🤔  What CHALLENGE(s) Are YOU Facing RIGHT NOW - AARP Online Community. See link at bottom of this post!  🔽
 
EVERY day and night we may be faced with several challenges.  ‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌
 
WE are here for YOU!!!
 
Stop by when you feel up to it and share with us.
 
WE listen, may add our 2 cents, BUT NEVER JUDGE.
 
Nicole  ‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌🤗🤗🤗
 

https://community.aarp.org/t5/Grief-Loss/What-CHALLENGE-s-Are-YOU-Facing-RIGHT-NOW/m-p/2475057#M1229

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HOW ARE YOU STAYING HEALTHY?  THANKS, NICOLE  🤗🤗🤗

 

Me - lol, TRYING to leave ALL junk food alone. I have been making and keeping ALL medical appointments in spite of hating visiting the dentist. Really NICE people, I just hate going. I am still working on sleep and appetite issues. But as we ALWAYS say, 1 Step At A Time  👣👣👣

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We ATTRACT what we are.

 

We ATTRACT what we focus on (our thoughts).

 

IF we want our lives to CHANGE, we have to work on ourselves and our thoughts.

 

[1] Want KINDER folks in your life, practice being kind to others.

 

[2] Want your DREAMS to happen, EVERY DAY focus on them and BELIEVE in them.

 

Worked for me!!!  👍👍👍

 

Luv you guys,

Nicole  🤗🤗🤗

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SOMETIMES WE FORGET TO THANK LIFE FOR BRINGING KIND AND CARING FOLKS INTO OUR LIVES. WELL GUESS WHAT? MORE WILL ENTER OUR LIVES WHEN WE DO!  🙃  TELL US ABOUT THE FOLKS WHO HAVE ENTERED YOUR LIFE AND MADE A DIFFERENCE. THANKS, NICOLE  🤗🤗🤗

 

(5/14/24) Me - I have always liked my own company after being an only child for 7 years before my 1st of 2 brothers arrived. We lived in the country. But two people did ENTER MY LIFE recently and REMINDED me that I am luvable and cared for. My NEW Property Manager Josh who is fixing my Cute Studio Apartment after years (since 2018) of NO REPAIRS. And Dalinda who you guys know about. In fact I saw her today!!!  💃💃💃

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THE EXPERTS TELL US TO FIND WAYS TO DO THE THINGS THAT NEED TO BE DONE THAT WE DO NOT WANT TO DO. HMMM, WHAT WAYS ARE YOU FINDING AS YOU CONTINUE ON YOUR JOURNEY?  THANKS, NICOLE  🤗🤗🤗

 

(5/14/24) Me - my car has been the DIRTIEST one in the Parking Lot where I live. And to be honest, didnot care. Lol, I am sure it was the topic of this Month's Gossip Session. Anyway, AFTER returning from Walmart today and BEFORE I unpacked bags - I wiped down car. It was raining lightly, perfect for a Car Wash Session. Maybe I will do a Wax Session at some point. At least she is clean for now. 1 Step At A Time  👣👣👣

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SOMETHING TO LOOK FORWARD TO HELPS US ON THOSE DAYS WHEN THERE IS NONE. WELL, THAT IS MY OPINION! ANY THOUGHTS? THANKS, NICOLE  🤗🤗🤗

 

(5/12/24) Me - at age 66 this year 2024, now understand "delayed gratification" and how it works. I use to be the "instant gratification" type and then wondered why it was INSTANT!!! Remember my Friend Dalinda who is dealing with Cancer? She told me she luvs Camping. Lol, when I asked about snakes  😱😱😱,  her response - I don't care, I luv it. Wow, made me think of ways to live my life as she is. She will be taking vacation time the end of this month. About 3 weeks more. Meanwhile this age 50+ Walmart Employee I see "sometimes" when I Grocery Shop on Tuesdays - is ALWAYS working hard UNLOADING stuff, HELPING customers with a SMILE. I saw her last Tuesday  💃💃💃  and she gave me a "peek" under her wool cap - she is so EXCITED her hair is finally growing back. 👍👍👍

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IN BETWEEN OUR TEARS/SADNESS, IT IS GOOD MENTALLY/EMOTIONALLY/SPIRITUALLY TO STEP AWAY FROM OUR CIRCUMSTANCES!!! TELL US ABOUT YOUR PLANNED OR ALREADY DONE STEPPING AWAY. THANKS, NICOLE  🤗🤗🤗

 

Me - now that my Utility Room Floor is no longer flooding, I can Step Away without rushing back to replace the Absorbent Snakes I had bought.  💃💃💃  Luv ONE DAY TRIPS to explore neighboring cities to the one I live in (Virginia).  👍

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💡Just For TODAY - AARP Online Community. See link at bottom of this post!  🔽
 
 ‌‌[1] What is YOUR "Just For Today" ...
 
‌‌‌‌[2] Please REACH OUT to *1* GRIEVING person.
 
(A) Email/text/call/visit.
 
(B) Invite to do something fun.
 
(C) Babysit/help around their house.
 
(D) Or ask what is needed.
 
Grief & Loss TEAM  👍👍👍
 

https://community.aarp.org/t5/Grief-Loss/Just-For-TODAY/m-p/2474449#M1178 

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NEVER compare yourself to OTHERS!!!  👍👍👍

 

[1] Some of us are Group Folks. Support Groups and OTHER Group Activities have ADDED meaning to lives.

 

[2] Some are NOT. I fall into this group. Alone Time & One-On-One Interactions = groups stress me out. Maybe that will change, who knows.

 

[3] Just travel YOUR PATH YOUR WAY.

 

[4] There will be "suggestions" on this site and WE have to use what WORKS FOR US. And ignore the rest. Nothing wrong with that!!!  👍👍👍

 

[5] YOU ARE DOING GREAT & I am honored to have you visit and post.  💃💃💃

 

Luv You,

Nicole  🤗🤗🤗

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DO YOU HAVE A QUESTION AND/OR A TOPIC YOU WOULD LIKE US TO DISCUSS?

 

‌‌‌▶️‌‌‌To reply, click on reply button at bottom of this post. Enter your text. Click reply button again.‌‌‌◀️‌‌‌

 

Thanks,

Nicole  ‌‌‌🤗‌‌‌‌‌‌🤗‌‌‌‌‌‌🤗‌‌‌

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💃  Tell Us About YOUR GOOD days! And YES, we will have a FEW SOME weeks - AARP Online Community. ‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌See link at bottom of this post!  🔽
 
Any HAPPY DANCES to share?
 
And support OTHERS with a comment when you can!!!
 
Thanks,
Nicole  🤗🤗🤗  ‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌
 

https://community.aarp.org/t5/Grief-Loss/Tell-Us-About-YOUR-GOOD-days-And-YES-we-will-have-a-FEW-SOM...

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👋  Help and signs from loved one - AARP Online Community. See link at bottom of this post!  🔽
 
Stop by to JOIN Carolyn's discussion when YOU have a few spare moments!
 
Thanks,
Nicole  🤗🤗🤗
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https://community.aarp.org/t5/Grief-Loss/Help-and-signs-from-loved-one/m-p/2478924#M1452

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📚  Grief & Loss Books - AARP Online Community. ‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌See link at bottom of this post!  🔽
 
READ any books that has helped YOU? Stop by and tell us about them.
 
And checkout the suggestions left by OTHERS!!!  ‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌
 

https://community.aarp.org/t5/Grief-Loss/Grief-amp-Loss-Books/m-p/2475048#M1224

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♻️♻️  (1 comment) HOW ARE YOU MEETING NEW PEOPLE?  🤔
 
Me - Ironically I read this in my Google News. It is exactly what I am doing (reaching out to random strangers), subject to change of course. Thanks, Nicole  🤗🤗🤗
 
[1] Visit a park at the same time each day. Note the other people around. If comfortable, strike up a conversation with folks who appear approachable.
 
[2] If you enjoy an article, newsletter or book, let the author know.
 
[3] Say hello to someone you come across in your neighborhood, at the store or library. Ask them about their day.
 

https://www.signalsaz.com/articles/how-to-deal-with-loneliness-in-retirement/

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Get on a mailing list at a religious institution that is active. These types of institutions have many opportunities for volunteering, learning, socializing, and becoming part of a community.

 

Marcy

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♻️  (2 comments) HOW ARE YOU HANDLING THE HOLIDAYS AND DAYS LIKE MOTHER'S AND FATHER'S DAYS - BIRTHDAYS - ANNIVERSARIES AND SO ON?  🤔

 

Me, I have never been a Group Person and as soon as I turned 18, started to "skip" the gatherings. I luv the one-on-one interactions. As far as Father's Day, he was never the father my daughter deserved [drug and crime issues], so she never did the day. Every day is Mother's Day for me = she makes sure I am okay every day. She is the opposite of me and while she avoids family  🙄,  she has had Extended Family & Friends all her life. So she spends the holidays with them.  👍

 

Thanks,

Nicole  🤗🤗🤗

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I wanted to stop by today. All on the forum are in my thoughts and prayers. Please take care and take it easy. One day goes into the next, and each day takes care of itself! 💓 

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GOOD to hear from you MC @mc6844 , Nicole  🤗🤗🤗

 


[*** MC @mc6844 wrote:

I wanted to stop by today. All on the forum are in my thoughts and prayers. Please take care and take it easy. One day goes into the next, and each day takes care of itself! 💓 ***]


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♻️(4 comments) In my opinion, Living In The Moment helps to keep us SANE - HOPEFUL & PEACEFUL!!! What are YOUR THOUGHTS on this?  Thanks, Nicole  🤗🤗🤗

 

Me - it is taking my all to NOT get angry and mourne the "possible" loss of a dear friend. One I didnot go looking for and who has RENEWED my HOPE of meeting HEALTHY HUMANS in my journey. I had told you guys about Dalinda, a Walmart Employee. Her cancer is back  😭😭😭  But you would NEVER know. I pry stuff out of her when she says she is okay. Then it is like the water has been released and she hugs me and tells me WHAT IS REALLY GOING ON. Lol, my Weekly Term = hmmm, now tell me what is really going on AFTER her 1st response to my Weekly How Are You Doing Question of I am OK. I am FINALLY learning that life brings us WHAT WE NEED and forever long it lasts, we NEED TO ENJOY IT. 👍

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Nicole, how lovely is your care for Dalinda, and her for you. It reminds me that everyone we meet has challenges and problems. I'm sure Dalinda is always happy to see you. I'm not sure everyone is always happy to see me  lol. Except I keep going. I'm glad you're getting out and about. And it's nice you girls have these meet-ups. Those moments are important.

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Thanks MC @mc6844 , Nicole  🤗🤗🤗

 


[*** MC @mc6844 wrote:

Nicole, how lovely is your care for Dalinda, and her for you. It reminds me that everyone we meet has challenges and problems. I'm sure Dalinda is always happy to see you. I'm not sure everyone is always happy to see me  lol. Except I keep going. I'm glad you're getting out and about. And it's nice you girls have these meet-ups. Those moments are important. ***]


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Nicole @SpringIsHereSoHappy ,

 

You are in Dalinda's life at a time when she really needs someone. You are to be commended for being there, for recognizing her needs, and allowing her to be heard! Maybe she is in your life to show you there are good, caring, appreciative people and The importance of making the best of every moment we have in life.

 

Marcy

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Thanks Marcy @MarcyW882921 , Nicole  🤗🤗🤗

 


[*** MARCY @MarcyW882921 wrote:

Nicole @SpringIsHereSoHappy ,

 

You are in Dalinda's life at a time when she really needs someone. You are to be commended for being there, for recognizing her needs, and allowing her to be heard! Maybe she is in your life to show you there are good, caring, appreciative people and The importance of making the best of every moment we have in life.

 

Marcy ***]


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