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🤗 WE are thinking of YOU! Please Stop By To See Us :)

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WE cry, rejoice, talk, share!

 

Whatever YOU need, WE are here for YOU.

 

***YOU are a very SPECIAL person and WE want to hear from YOU***

 

Grief & Loss Team 🤗

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Remember, it is okay to take some time off from life to regroup to either heal and/or figure out our NEXT STEPS.

 

Take your time.

 

I promise things will FALL IN PLACE as they should IF we allow ourselves to ACCEPT all our victories and/or failures.

 

YOU GOT THIS!!!  👍👍👍

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📚  Grief & Loss Books - AARP Online Community. ‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌See link at bottom of this post!  🔽
 
READ any books that has helped YOU? Stop by and tell us about them.
 
And checkout the suggestions left by OTHERS!!!  ‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌
 

https://community.aarp.org/t5/Grief-Loss/Grief-amp-Loss-Books/m-p/2475048#M1224

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Did you know that a SELF-CARE ROUTINE helps us on OUR Healing Journeys? Tell us about YOUR ROUTINE!!! Thanks, Nicole  🤗🤗🤗

 

I treat myself to Glade Candles. 💃💃💃  When the candles will NO LONGER BURN, I use a sharp knife to scrape a "little" of the remaining candle out and INTO my "tiny" wax burner. I am in heaven...  👍

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🙃  GRATITUDE while we heal - AARP Online Community. See link at bottom of this post!  🔽
 
WHAT ARE YOU GRATEFUL FOR RIGHT NOW? ‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌
 
Gratitude brings MORE of the GOOD stuff our way!!!  ‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌💃💃💃
 

https://community.aarp.org/t5/Grief-Loss/GRATITUDE-while-we-heal/m-p/2532387#M9115

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♻️ (1 comment) IT IS A SUBJECT I AND MY DAUGHTER USE TO AVOID UNTIL SHE LOST HER FATHER. NOW SHE UNDERSTANDS WHY I HAD TOLD HER WHERE EVERYTHING IS FOR WHEN I PASS. WHAT DO YOU HAVE SET UP SO FAR FOR YOURSELF?  🤔 ANY TIPS TO SHARE?  🤔

 

Me - I set up an area on my bookshelf for ALL legal documents. I am working on the cremation end of things.  MY TIP: Try NOT to dwell on your passing as we ALL will one day. Just TRY to remember the ones we leave behind will be GRIEVING. Anything we can do while still ALIVE to make things easier shows we LUV them!!!  👍👍👍

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I have a portable plastic box set up with all of my important documents. I prepared it to be something I can easily grab and run with during hurricane season and also for utilization at the end of my life by my family designees.

 

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I HAVE NEVER SET UP ANY MEMORIAL SERVICES OR ATTENDED ANY. FOR THOSE WHO HAVE SET ONE UP AND/OR ATTENDED ONE - ANY FEEDBACK FOR THE REST OF US?  🤔

 

[1] Maybe tips to set one up.

 

[2] Maybe what you liked and/or disliked about the ones you attended.

 

Thanks,

Nicole  🤗🤗🤗

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THIS MAY HELP YOU!!! Nicole  🤗🤗🤗

 

@AARPsneed wrote:

I'm so sorry for your loss and to learn you're having a rough time right now but know you are not alone and there are resources available.

 

[1] The AARP  Friendly Voice program has volunteers available Monday through Friday, 9 a.m. — 5 p.m. ET.

 

[2] The AARP Virtual Community Center  FREE interactive online events and classes designed for learning, self improvement, and fun.

 

[3] Local AARP events — Includes local in-person and virtual events. Go to local.aarp.org

 

[4] Learning Library — Includes in-person and virtual events. Go to learn.aarp.org

 

[5] Senior Planet — For technology, fitness, wellness workshops and more! Go to seniorplanet.org

 

[6] Movies for Grownups — Free online movie screenings! Go to aarp.org/FreeMovies

 

[7] Find articles and resources from experts - Help Guide on Grief & Loss

[8] If you find yourself struggling with Isolation  

 

[8] A great resource on grief -Taking Care of Yourself - Grief, Loss and Healing

 

[9] Grief Support and Groups 
Use the Yellow Pages and call hospitals and hospices near you.


Ask to speak with the Bereavement Coordinator, Social Worker, or Chaplain's Office to get a local grief referral.


Many hospitals and hospices provide grief support to clients for up to one year following a death and offer groups to the general public.

 

[11] Thank you so much for reaching out for help. Remember there are a community of people here for you. Please take care of yourself.

 

AARPSneed

AARP Social Response Team

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FYI: IF you see a VERY OLD discussion that YOU would like to ADD your "comment" to - please do!!!

 

They will have this symbol at the beginning of each OLD DISCUSSION.  ♻️

 

WE WELCOME all "input" at anytime...

 

Thanks,

Nicole  🤗🤗🤗

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Some of us have SUPPORTIVE family members in our lives RIGHT NOW.

 

Some us DO NOT!!!

 

Family to me are folks who CARE - SUPPORT - ENCOURAGE and so on...  👍👍👍

 

Growing up I NEVER had that due to my parents' issues, but my Grandparents - Aunts and so on stepped in.

 

AFTER they died, LIFE brought people INTO my life who I consider Family. Folks who cared because they probably saw I needed it. Those too have died and at age 66 this year 2024 I am LEARNING to "pay attention & appreciate" the folks who seem to "pop up" when least expected. Lol, I call my Mechanic (family owned) my VIRGINIA FAMILY. Why? Kenneth, his mom and other family members ALWAYS are there FOR ME when the OTHER Old Lady (2006 Hyundai Elantra) has an EMERGENCY. I have no idea how long people will be in my life, but I NOW relax in the moment...

 

What about YOU?  🤔

 

Thanks,

Nicole  🤗🤗🤗

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🤔  What CHALLENGE(s) Are YOU Facing RIGHT NOW - AARP Online Community. See link at bottom of this post!  🔽
 
EVERY day and night we may be faced with several challenges.  ‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌
 
WE are here for YOU!!!
 
Stop by when you feel up to it and share with us.
 
WE listen, may add our 2 cents, BUT NEVER JUDGE.
 
Nicole  ‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌🤗🤗🤗
 

https://community.aarp.org/t5/Grief-Loss/What-CHALLENGE-s-Are-YOU-Facing-RIGHT-NOW/m-p/2475057#M1229

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HOW ARE YOU STAYING HEALTHY?  THANKS, NICOLE  ‌🤗‌‌🤗‌‌🤗

 

Me - lol, TRYING to leave ALL junk food alone. I have been making and keeping ALL medical appointments in spite of hating visiting the dentist. Really NICE people, I just hate going. I am still working on sleep and appetite issues. But as we ALWAYS say, 1 Step At A Time  ‌👣‌‌👣‌‌👣

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We ATTRACT what we are.

 

We ATTRACT what we focus on (our thoughts).

 

IF we want our lives to CHANGE, we have to work on ourselves and our thoughts.

 

[1] Want KINDER folks in your life, practice being kind to others.

 

[2] Want your DREAMS to happen, EVERY DAY focus on them and BELIEVE in them.

 

Worked for me!!!  👍👍👍

 

Luv you guys,

Nicole  🤗🤗🤗

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SOMETIMES WE FORGET TO THANK LIFE FOR BRINGING KIND AND CARING FOLKS INTO OUR LIVES. WELL GUESS WHAT? MORE WILL ENTER OUR LIVES WHEN WE DO!  🙃  TELL US ABOUT THE FOLKS WHO HAVE ENTERED YOUR LIFE AND MADE A DIFFERENCE. THANKS, NICOLE  🤗🤗🤗

 

(5/14/24) Me - I have always liked my own company after being an only child for 7 years before my 1st of 2 brothers arrived. We lived in the country. But two people did ENTER MY LIFE recently and REMINDED me that I am luvable and cared for. My NEW Property Manager Josh who is fixing my Cute Studio Apartment after years (since 2018) of NO REPAIRS. And Dalinda who you guys know about. In fact I saw her today!!!  💃💃💃

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In my humble opinion, WE WILL ALWAYS miss our luv ones until the day WE JOIN THEM.

 

So NEVER feel guilty for this and take 1 Step At A Time  👣👣👣  when you FEEL like your INSIDES are hurting and those TEARS have arrived.

 

There is NO SECRET out there to CANCEL this, but IF we can APPRECIATE the times we are able to MOVE FORWARD - soon we will do so IN SPITE of the tears and heartache I promise.

 

Luv you all,

Nicole  🤗🤗🤗

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THE EXPERTS TELL US TO FIND WAYS TO DO THE THINGS THAT NEED TO BE DONE THAT WE DO NOT WANT TO DO. HMMM, WHAT WAYS ARE YOU FINDING AS YOU CONTINUE ON YOUR JOURNEY?  THANKS, NICOLE  🤗🤗🤗

 

(5/14/24) Me - my car has been the DIRTIEST one in the Parking Lot where I live. And to be honest, didnot care. Lol, I am sure it was the topic of this Month's Gossip Session. Anyway, AFTER returning from Walmart today and BEFORE I unpacked bags - I wiped down car. It was raining lightly, perfect for a Car Wash Session. Maybe I will do a Wax Session at some point. At least she is clean for now. 1 Step At A Time  👣👣👣

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SOMETHING TO LOOK FORWARD TO HELPS US ON THOSE DAYS WHEN THERE IS NONE. WELL, THAT IS MY OPINION! ANY THOUGHTS? THANKS, NICOLE  🤗🤗🤗

 

(5/12/24) Me - at age 66 this year 2024, now understand "delayed gratification" and how it works. I use to be the "instant gratification" type and then wondered why it was INSTANT!!! Remember my Friend Dalinda who is dealing with Cancer? She told me she luvs Camping. Lol, when I asked about snakes  😱😱😱,  her response - I don't care, I luv it. Wow, made me think of ways to live my life as she is. She will be taking vacation time the end of this month. About 3 weeks more. Meanwhile this age 50+ Walmart Employee I see "sometimes" when I Grocery Shop on Tuesdays - is ALWAYS working hard UNLOADING stuff, HELPING customers with a SMILE. I saw her last Tuesday  💃💃💃  and she gave me a "peek" under her wool cap - she is so EXCITED her hair is finally growing back. 👍👍👍

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IN BETWEEN OUR TEARS/SADNESS, IT IS GOOD MENTALLY/EMOTIONALLY/SPIRITUALLY TO STEP AWAY FROM OUR CIRCUMSTANCES!!! TELL US ABOUT YOUR PLANNED OR ALREADY DONE STEPPING AWAY. THANKS, NICOLE  🤗🤗🤗

 

Me - now that my Utility Room Floor is no longer flooding, I can Step Away without rushing back to replace the Absorbent Snakes I had bought.  💃💃💃  Luv ONE DAY TRIPS to explore neighboring cities to the one I live in (Virginia).  👍

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💡Just For TODAY - AARP Online Community. See link at bottom of this post!  🔽
 
 ‌‌[1] What is YOUR "Just For Today" ...
 
‌‌‌‌[2] Please REACH OUT to *1* GRIEVING person.
 
(A) Email/text/call/visit.
 
(B) Invite to do something fun.
 
(C) Babysit/help around their house.
 
(D) Or ask what is needed.
 
Grief & Loss TEAM  👍👍👍
 

https://community.aarp.org/t5/Grief-Loss/Just-For-TODAY/m-p/2474449#M1178 

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HOBBIES help us to ESCAPE our thoughts and maybe meet new people or reconnect with folks we lost contact with. Are you pursuing any hobbies? Tell us about them when you can! Thanks, Nicole  🤗🤗🤗

 

(5/20/24) Me - had dug out my hobbies last year and still looking at them. But I made a promise to myself THIS YEAR 2024 would be the year to get moving. I luv completing the Variety Puzzle Books they sell each year. Totally EXCITING stopping by the Magazine Rack to see the NEWEST edition. Also had started reading up on the moon, sun and so on. Need to continue this 2023 Project. There are other stuff, but these two are a start.  👍

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Life has a way of bringing people we NEED into OUR LIVES.

 

[1] It maybe for us to ADD to their life with OUR TIME (listening and sharing).

 

[2] It maybe for them to ADD to our lives.

 

Either way, PAY ATTENTION to life and what it is TELLING you as you travel today/tonight!!!  🙃

 

When you do, your INSIDES feel better in my opinion.

 

Knock, knock - OPEN that door...

 

Luv you,

Nicole  🤗🤗🤗

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Call, visit, text, email and so on TODAY the folks you CARE ABOUT.

 

Why?

 

Tomorrow is NOT PROMISED...

 

Luv you,

Nicole  🤗🤗🤗

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YOU ARE SPECIAL!!!

 

NEVER compare yourself to OTHERS.  👍👍👍

 

[1] Some of us are Group Folks. Support Groups and OTHER Group Activities have ADDED meaning to lives.

 

[2] Some are NOT. I fall into this group. Alone Time & One-On-One Interactions = groups stress me out. Maybe that will change, who knows.

 

[3] Just travel YOUR PATH YOUR WAY.

 

[4] There will be "suggestions" on this site and WE have to use what WORKS FOR US. And ignore the rest. Nothing wrong with that!!!  👍👍👍

 

[5] YOU ARE DOING GREAT & I am honored to have you visit and post.  💃💃💃

 

Luv You,

Nicole  🤗🤗🤗

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DO YOU HAVE A QUESTION AND/OR A TOPIC YOU WOULD LIKE US TO DISCUSS?

 

‌‌‌‌▶️‌‌‌‌To reply, click on reply button at bottom of this post. Enter your text. Click reply button again.‌‌‌‌◀️‌‌‌‌

 

Thanks,

Nicole  ‌‌‌‌🤗‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌🤗‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌🤗‌‌‌‌

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Stop by to chat when you feel up to it.

 

NO rules or judgement here.

 

We support everyone who stops by.

 

OUR WELCOME MAT IS ALWAYS OUTSIDE OUR DOOR.

 

The Grief & Loss Team  🤗🤗🤗

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💃  Tell Us About YOUR GOOD days! And YES, we will have a FEW SOME weeks - AARP Online Community. ‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌See link at bottom of this post!  🔽
 
Any HAPPY DANCES to share?
 
And support OTHERS with a comment when you can!!!
 
Thanks,
Nicole  🤗🤗🤗  ‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌‌
 

https://community.aarp.org/t5/Grief-Loss/Tell-Us-About-YOUR-GOOD-days-And-YES-we-will-have-a-FEW-SOM...

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👋  Help and signs from loved one - AARP Online Community. See link at bottom of this post!  🔽
 
Stop by to JOIN Carolyn's discussion when YOU have a few spare moments!
 
Thanks,
Nicole  🤗🤗🤗
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https://community.aarp.org/t5/Grief-Loss/Help-and-signs-from-loved-one/m-p/2478924#M1452

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♻️  (1 comment) REMEMBER THE SAYING AND PRAYER ABOUT STUFF AND PEOPLE WE HAVE NO CONTROL OVER? HOW ARE YOU DEALING WITH THESE SITUATIONS RIGHT NOW? THANKS, NICOLE  🤗🤗🤗

 

Me - my right now have NO CONTROL OVER are my Neighbors From H.ll Above Me. I won't lie and say I like them. I don't!!!  😱😱😱  It has been H.LL with all 3 sets of neighbors above me since moving in 2018. Luv my Cute Studio Apt in the Virginia hills but NO MORE neighbors next to me when I move. Until then, MY MUSIC keeps me SANE.

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REMEMBER THE SAYING AND PRAYER ABOUT STUFF AND PEOPLE WE HAVE NO CONTROL OVER?

God, grant me the....

God, grant me the PURRrenityGod, grant me the PURRrenity

 

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