New widow

[gs2116]

Became new widow on 7/12/19. Having hard time coping. Feel so lost.

[k55866r]

Dear New Widow:

My mother lost my Dad after 64 1/2 years of marriage. Naturally she was devastated.  As her son I have tried to help by assisting with finances and insurance.  I also am helping with groceries etc., so it is a team effort.   My sister is also a terrific help to date.   

I would encourage you to seek out family and friends as well as your church if you have one.  Take frequent walks if you are able and it is safe to do so.  Reading or gardening may help or simply reach out and call someone.   Stay active and don't sit in the chair and waste away.  Also maintain frequent doctor and dental visits to keep fit.  I will pray for you and hope you will pray for us!

Caregiver of Fellow Widow

[ml272993]

I’m sorry. After having all of your life revolving around your husband’s care, it must be very hard to have that void. Have you thought about talking to a grief counselor or therapist? My husband is in last stages of early onset Alzheimer’s and I know talking to a therapist is helpful for me. When my dad passed, my mother met a group of widows at the senior center, and she found that helpful. Best wishes.

[FrankC990173]

I became a widower 7/16/19. I can only tell you if you have children and friends to keep them close. I also am leaning on a gentleman who i met at church who lost his wife 5 years ago. I believe anywhere you can get comfort from people like us who are in your shoes is healthy. I will be praying for Gods peace for you....