AARP Online Community and Discussion Forums - Loss of husband and sister

PamM972466 · ‎10-05-2019

Aust 5th my sister passed away unexpectedly and than on August 10th my husband passed away after a lengthy stay in the hospital. My heart is broken as I lost my 2 best friends. Its very hard to understand all of this.

LydiaN586309 · ‎10-05-2019

Dear Pam,

I am so sorry to read of your losses. To lose a loved one is always hard. But to lose two very significant loved ones and then loosing them within a few days of each other, can be ultimately devastating. So again you have my condolences.

Now, in addition to reading through the forums relative to loss and grieving as suggested by another poster, I recommend a very good book which has helped me greatly as I have sorted through my own grief and pain at many, many losses over the past few years. The title of the book is Grief Day by Day: Simple Practices and Daily Guidance for Living with Loss by Jan Warner. I hope it blesses you!

May God bless and strengthen you day by day.

LydiaN586309 · ‎10-07-2019

Good morning, Pam!

I thought of you this morning and said a prayer. I hope you are doing okay. Just wanted you to know that even though you may feel yourself alone in your grief, you're not! Cuz, I for one, am here and you are even now in my thoughts and prayers. Reach out any time.

Lydia

PamM972466 · ‎10-07-2019

Thank u Lydia. Very thoughtful of you. It is very hard but it does help to have people like you around and my family and friends. Very helpful.

Have a wonderful day! I live in Orland Park, Illinois which is a suburb of Chicago. The weather is so beautiful, sunny in the 50 and 60s. Nice to go out and get fresh air before we get our cold cold winters here in Chicago. What part of the country do u live?

fffred · ‎10-05-2019

Pam, I am so sorry for your losses. Two hard blows, compounding each other.

If I can offer any suggestion, I found a number of the posts in this forum on loss to be very wise, very supportive, and very sympathetic. You may find some comfort just in reading through this forum and replies.