Re: 🕯 A Place To Be With Others Who Are Grieving! - Page 14

Anonymous · ‎11-25-2022

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BeatleloverKT · ‎08-21-2023

I’ve been married twice. First one ended in

divorce, second one when he passed. I don’t

ever want to put my heart out there again. It’s

been broken too many times, more then I can

count. I have many blessings in my life and

many who I love and love me. Just loving

another man is not in my plans. Best of luck

to you, I hope you find what you’re looking for

Cadee2719 · ‎08-21-2023

I am at a stage of my life that being married for 61 years was a blessing. However, I no longer feel that I need a man in my life. For the first time, I will discover who "I" am. I always tease my son saying "I do not wish to train another man." 🤣 You, Bill are young and I think it is important for men to have companionship and a partner to share their life with. You have to complete your mourning, get emotionally strong again and put yourself out there. I must admit "out there" is a frightening place in today's society. I wish you much luck and happiness.

NicoleRetired2020FL · ‎08-18-2023

👣 1 Step At A Time!

Luv You, Nicole (((hugs)))

MarcyW882921 · ‎08-21-2023

Nicole @ NicoleW439658 , Tomorrow will mark the 10-month anniversary of my husband's departure from his life here with us.🥲💔

Marcy

MarcyW882921 · ‎08-22-2023

Thanks Nicole @NicoleRetired2020FL . I appreciate the hugs! 🤗

BeatleloverKT · ‎08-22-2023

@MarcyW882921 Thinking of you on this difficult day. Hoping the good memories and prayers by us will guide you thru 💜🙏

MarcyW882921 · ‎08-22-2023

Thank You BeatleloverKT @BeatleloverKT ! I truly appreciate your thoughtful support and I am going to get through this day.❤️🙏🏻

NicoleRetired2020FL · ‎08-21-2023

👣 1 Step At A Time!

Luv You, Nicole (((hugs)))

MarcyW882921 · ‎08-21-2023

Nicole @NicoleRetired2020FL , So far my only plan is to play tennis in the morning if the weather cooperates. I got rained out this morning and substituted an online Zumba class.

Marcy

Cadee2719 · ‎08-21-2023

Z U M B A!!!!! 🤣 My classes are Balance, Beginner's Yoga, Classic with very light weights and stretch bands and Gentle Stretch. YOU GO GIRL!!!!

BillH490171 · ‎08-10-2023

Outstanding words of support and wisdom. I friend of mine from the Netherlands told me "know that you never have that path to walk alone" when I told him that my wife passed. It true we're all walking hand in hand (in person or virtually). Take care my friends..

Bill

NicoleRetired2020FL · ‎08-07-2023

👣 1 Step At A Time!

Luv You, Nicole (((hugs)))

mc6844 · ‎08-24-2023

Dates of remembrance, conversations etc. all bring out the grief of losses. Sometimes quite suddenly. I was talking to someone yesterday and I could've sworn I was talking and laughing with my deceased sister. Gone over 20 yrs now. My heart still hurts every time I think of her. I acknowledge these times of vulnerability, let the grief flow and get on with my day. It's hard to tell if I'm feeling sorry for those that are gone, or for myself. I don't like to dwell on the past. So pretty quickly get back to the present. But it might be a little easier at my age, 73. So much is in the past. I'm grateful to have peace. The days seem to take care of themselves.

MarcyW882921 · ‎08-24-2023

Mc @mc6844 . Thanks for sharing this really important message. These things happen suddenly and we react or respond to them often without thinking or controlling. I love that you acknowledge your vulnerability and grief, but also don't dwell in that space. You mention getting back to the present and that is the mindfulness of bringing yourself into the moment. Information about triggers, feelings, and coping strategies is so beneficial!

Cadee2719 · ‎08-24-2023

Your message was a "gift" to me today. Thank You so much for sharing your thoughts with us. ❤️

Vexed · ‎08-07-2023

@BeatleloverKT , hugs to you. You are loved and you are strong.

NicoleRetired2020FL · ‎08-07-2023

👣 1 Step At A Time!

Luv You, Nicole (((hugs)))

JaneCares · ‎08-07-2023

HELLO BeatleLoverKT and NicoleW. I'm moved and grateful to you both for connecting, supporting, and sharing your kindness with all of us as well. For BeatleLover, this is a big milestone: 5 years of loss and grief, but also transformation. You are NEWLY reconstituted without your loved one, and at the same time, your husband's love, and character, and all those memories, are woven into every bit of who you are 5 years later. NicoleW, clearly you are working mightily to hold onto your integrity while other folks are being silly and hurtful (also known as toxic), and you know who you are deep down. That you two help each other is lovely and affirming of us all: we are herd animals, we humans, and we need each other.

I was listening to the sermon yesterday in church, which celebrated the idea of Jesus' transfiguration. And learned that Transfiguration implies a revelation of the true nature. I feel that grief does this: reveal our true nature. Grief burns off the superficial, and unimportant, the priorities we thought matter but actually do not. It reorients us to who we are and what we can be about in the world, and in our hearts. We are transfigured.

Thank you for being 'there' for each other, and 'here' for all of us.

Jane

Anonymous · ‎06-16-2023

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Anonymous · ‎05-31-2023

(1 comment) Thank you for the suggestion Marcy! 🤎🤗

▶️@MarcyW882921 wrote:

I just got back from my bereavement group meeting. Providing you can get out and there are groups in your area, it is another place where grieving people can go to be with others who understand.◀️

MarcyW882921 · ‎05-31-2023

I just got back from my bereavement group meeting. Providing you can get out and there are groups in your area, it is another place where grieving people can go to be with others who understand.

Anonymous · ‎05-25-2023

(1 comment)Thanks Marcy, Nicole 🤎🤗

▶️@MarcyW882921 wrote:

I read an article last week that may be beneficial for our group. It doesn't look like this forum will accept the link so I will provide the article title and author in case you have to search it out. The article title is "Dear Griever, Give Yourself Some Grace" by Stephanie Farr.◀️

MarcyW882921 · ‎05-25-2023

I read an article last week that may be beneficial for our group. It doesn't look like this forum will accept the link so I will provide the article title and author in case you have to search it out. The article title is "Dear Griever, Give Yourself Some Grace" by Stephanie Farr

Anonymous · ‎05-22-2023

The reality is that you will grieve forever. You will not ‘get over’ the loss of a loved one; you will learn to live with it. You will heal and you will rebuild yourself around the loss you have suffered. You will be whole again but you will never be the same. Nor should you be the same nor would you want to. – Elisabeth Kübler-Ross

Anonymous · ‎05-21-2023

What we once enjoyed and deeply loved we can never lose, for all that we love deeply becomes part of us. – Helen Keller

MarcyW882921 · ‎04-13-2023

I just watched a short interview with Amanda Kloots. She talked about grief and how it can "eat you up." Something she found helpful was finding a community where there are others who understand your pain and loss. I had heard this information from other sources and wasn't sure it would be helpful for me.

I have however made connections individually and within a group setting with others who have experienced loss and it has been very beneficial for me.

Anonymous · ‎04-13-2023

(2 comments) Marcy @MarcyW882921 , how do we find these communities? Thanks, Nicole 🤗🤎

➡️@MarcyW882921 wrote:
I just watched a short interview with Amanda Kloots. She talked about grief and how it can "eat you up." Something she found helpful was finding a community where there are others who understand your pain and loss. I had heard this information from other sources and wasn't sure it would be helpful for me.

I have however made connections individually and within a group setting with others who have experienced loss and it has been very beneficial for me.⬅️

jonibee · ‎04-18-2023

Look to service organizations such as Old Colony Elder Service or Hospice care or contact your local Visiting Nurse Assoc. for info as to where these groups are. The local senior center may also be able to point you in the right direction and also your local churches may be able to help you here..I have been able to go it alone by reading books on how to handle grief and losing past members of my family kind of prepared me for the loss of my husband. I think when you go through the illness stages you kind of face the inevitable vs a sudden death loss which comes as a shock because it was unexpected..Not to say that I don't experience good and bad days which I do but try to get passed the bad ones by keeping my mind occupied...We all have memories both good and bad and have to deal with them accordingly as well as we can..

mc6844 · ‎03-28-2023

Nicole I saw your post about your awful day. I have awful moments and times during the day too. I tell "awful" that it's not going to take my whole day. I think we get that awful feeling when looking for the familiar and it isn't there. I try to switch the focus. And look at what is still there. Is it the Aloe plants growing outside my door? Why didn't I notice them growing bigger? They need bigger pots. I could go to Home Depot for them. Except my husband had one of his heart attacks in Home Depot parking lot. He actually died on the pavement. The paramedics brought him back to life. I haven't been able to go back there. He joked that you'd think Home Depot would give a coupon or discount if a person died in their parking lot. Of course it wasn't their fault. But not something that happens every day

It is hurtful when family or friends ignore the pain of loss. I've seen this happen many times to many people. I've seen lone caregivers more times than I can count. Very few people can be there for end of life care. And the grieving after. I suppose it's not their calling. I think people in general need to do a better job of dealing with death. It's the people worn out from caregiving, and the ones who are left to grieve that need help and comfort at that time.

I hope you feel better Nicole. I saw your upside down smiley and got concerned. Please take care.

Anonymous · ‎03-28-2023

2 comments (Tuesday 3/28/23) Hi @mc6844 , thank you for caring. The upside down smiley face is a FUN 🥳💃 version of a smiley face. Yes, I can imagine Home Depot is a "trigger" for you!!! Hang in there my friend. WE luv you, Nicole 🤗🤎

➡️@mc6844 wrote:

Nicole I saw your post about your awful day. I have awful moments and times during the day too. I tell "awful" that it's not going to take my whole day. I think we get that awful feeling when looking for the familiar and it isn't there. I try to switch the focus. And look at what is still there. Is it the Aloe plants growing outside my door? Why didn't I notice them growing bigger? They need bigger pots. I could go to Home Depot for them. Except my husband had one of his heart attacks in Home Depot parking lot. He actually died on the pavement. The paramedics brought him back to life. I haven't been able to go back there. He joked that you'd think Home Depot would give a coupon or discount if a person died in their parking lot. Of course it wasn't their fault. But not something that happens every day
It is hurtful when family or friends ignore the pain of loss. I've seen this happen many times to many people. I've seen lone caregivers more times than I can count. Very few people can be there for end of life care. And the grieving after. I suppose it's not their calling. I think people in general need to do a better job of dealing with death. It's the people worn out from caregiving, and the ones who are left to grieve that need help and comfort at that time.

I hope you feel better Nicole. I saw your upside down smiley and got concerned. Please take care. ⬅️