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Re: Lasting Loving Relationships
If two people really appreciate one another and enjoy their very presence, then a lasting relationship is easier to obtain.
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I completely value my wife's opinions and support her in everything she does. we have only been married 1 year but we grow stonger in our marriage everyday. both of us have made a mistake or 2 but forgiveness and understanding is the key to a good marriage, and a good god loving, devil fighting, bible believing church is a good thing too.
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I totally agree with that. The more me and my wife are together, the more we argue. but she does have separation anxiety issues.
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Some people think too much time together can be bad. Some people think too little time together be bad for a marriage. Some people are apart for long periods of time because of the military and cannot be helped. But when it can be helped, being apart for months at a time is not always real good for a marriage. If you marry knowing that, I think that is different because you are in essence agreeing to it. If it was not like that when you married though, I do not think one partner can expect to be apart from the other partner for such long periods of time. For instance being gone 2 weeks out of a year spread over the whole year is way different than only being home for 2 weeks or less out of a year spread over the whole year.
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We've been married 55 years, we knew each other since we were 12, I didn't like him, dated at 15 he had changed, then married at 17. I feel it is very important to be friends first, if you can't like someone, you can't love them.
We have been thru 4 yrs of The Marines, Viet Nam, a daughter killed and we are still loving each other just as much. Laughs and fights along the way, this tends to happen when you marry at 17. Sometimes if we do argue, I have learned to just say OK Bob and walk away, esp. after our daughter was killed. I learned that in grief counseling, just walk away, then there is NO argument.
Lots of laughs, my husband jokes with all of us, Our 10th Annv. was a surprise trip to NY. and for our 25th we went to the Bahamas. On Valentines Day all 3 of us girls got candy. Flowers at times, cards and clothes too many times.
Now we have gone out for a nice lobster dinner for the past several years.
I feel you just truly love someone or you don't. I always say he is the man my HEART loves. I will love him until the day He Dies.
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I was married for 67 years. I am 86...in reasonably good health (held together by my good Doctor with vaious pills) and I lost my husband June 20th, 2018. Then I lost my older son ( who had Schitzophrenia) July 10th, 2018. I am seeing a grief counselor and I am a reasonably strong person, but I did suffer an anxiety attack recently (which brought me to a hospital). Back to the topic...for a good, solid marriage that lights up your life...bury your ego. You are not always right...neither is he! He is as smart as you always knew him to be and so are you. Negotiate the problem with a good attitude!
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Re: Lasting Loving Relationships
@barajasdawn wrote:
I pinch my husband's butt too and he returns the favor. Together 37 years.
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I just had the best laugh when I read your post. I am a spooner and a belly rubber. lol lol lol
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I believe that the secret to a close, lasting, loving relationship is communication. Without communication you have nothing. You can have passion but if you cannot communicate with each other you simply have a one sided relationship and that never works. I believed in communication but the man I was married to did not think it was important. We were together almost 20 years and married for almost 15 of those. The lack of communication is what broke us up and because he would not talk before filing for divorce, I would not discuss getting back together. Besides by that time he had moved out of state and I was not interested in moving from a sunshine state to a state where there was snow and ice.
I also believe that you need common goals. If you do not have common goals either short term or long term you are working against each other. You need to be a team. "There is no I in TEAM!" We were always a team or so I thought bu the last 4 years the man I was married to took a job as a cross country truck driver. After the 4 years on the road, he had no interest in getting off the road. I would have liked to have him home, and start a family but he had no interest in giving up his freedom to have a normal life. What it boiled down to was he had no responsibllities like he would have if he was home everyday and he liked that. He no longer even had to water the lawn, feed the dog, or take out the trash because I did all of it for him.
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I totally agree that having separate hobbies or activities are healthy for a couple. My husband loves to mountain bike but I can't due to medical reasons. I love to sew and create. Why should we stop doing things we love just because the other doesn't participate?
My advise is to not stress over the little things, enjoy those relaxing times together and apart.
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i am so heartened to see all these cool comments!
Laughter, Laughter Laughter, and enjoying time together. alone time and making time. i really like my husband, you gotta really like your partner.
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