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Where do you meet people to date?

Have you tried online dating? Dating agencies? Singles events? If so, what were your results?

 

Do you have a good tip on where you've met someone special? Share it with your story here.

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My friend met her husband through an online dating site.

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Is it possible to start a dating forum and/or post from the current date and stop revisiting dates prior to a new one???

 

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Periodic Contributor

It would be nice to meet someone at church (over 55).

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 I am 53 y.o female. I thought that I would stress that. 🙂 I, do go to church frequently.

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At the golf course have met many nice men there some have led to great rounds of golf, great dinners and terrific sex.

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Was that regular or miniature golf that you speak of? And what did you have for dinner? I'm so very curious! Oh and did you enjoy many nice dinners with these many nice men? Hmmm?



It's nice to be important but it's more important to be nice.
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Good to know. 😄

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Hello!  I met my husband through an online dating site August 2005.  We chatted online and then the phone every day for 6 months before meeting in person as he lived far away.  Long story short, he moved closer in April 2006,  and we dated until Dec 2007 when we married.  We are still going strong!

I think meeting people though dating sites on the web is fine but be careful and take your time.

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Be careful if a dating agency. Ones with contract  for number of dates, glamour shots and advice claiming only send you on dates that match your profile...as a women!!!

 

I paid for 2 different ones. Matched potential men with my profile was a joke!  Then learned, men over 50 pay nearly nothing for service as company was desperate to fulfill all the demand from older women!!.  Instead they promised to complete 2-3 dates per week.  Complained waste of my time and got response from 1 agency. "You need to be more open minded as you never know who might be right for you."  

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Smile, give people your email address, communicate, talk, share and have fun. Remember it takes time to connect and first impressions are usually clouded by anxiety, past disappointments or misunderstanding.

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The problem is we stop ourselves from connecting
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Dating sites are a waste of time. Been there...done that. There are far more FAKE MEN than not today. WHERE ARE THE REAL TRUE AUTHENTIC MEN TODAY??? I just want ONE MAN to love for the rest of my days.
Regular Contributor

Read your post....Totally agree with you!  I wish you good luck in your quest to find someone special!!!!

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Just brouseing and this subject caught my interest. I too wonder where to meet legitimate (people) men for dating. Not a lot of men at my church, just women in my travel group, men at my pt job all married. Not sure of these dating sites for older people. Any advice or suggestions ? Thanks to everyone!

 

 

 

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Sure wish I knew. I feel the same as you do. Very challenging to say the least.

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Meeting a friend takes work because both men and women have to be equally active in beginning a relationship. Past traditions and fear of taking risks usually make most women wait for a man to initiate contact. Keep waiting as both sides need to work together to arrange any first meeting.

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Any place and every place. Smile, have a card with your name and email address or phone number. Figure out activities you like and look there. Do not be shy or afraid to talk. If you are not interested in someone, tell them you have a partner.
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IMO, handing out a card with my name, email address, and phone number (other than a business card for business purposes) to total strangers is really NOT a wise move that I would suggest to anyone...be they female or even male...especially in this day and age.  I guess you aren't familiar with stories of people who give out too much information about themselves to total strangers and how some have ended up?

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Internet dating is a waste of time. It can help with communication skills, but do not expect others to follow through. Meet people in person.

 

 

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The most proactive and healthy way to meet people is to smile at them and say hello. People are all over and the first step is to begin a conversation. You will know if there is more to talk about Almost by magic, if there is a connection, both of you will find a way to meet up again. 

 

 

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We all go off the deep in in describing our quest for love, friendship and fun. People should just be open and honest. Sex is not the issue but it helps to tone it down by briefly talking about it or engaging in holding hands and even smiling at the other person. There really is no reason there is so much lonliness and bitterness.  People have barriers that preclude basic friendship and sharing.

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I've been reading alot of these letters. I know it isn't easy to meet someone, with all the scammers on the onli e dating sites. But I'm a hopeless romantic and refuse to believe I or anyone can't find their soulmate. Sometimes it just takes time. Like someone said you just need to get out and mingle with people. Whether at a senior ctr or a gym. You have to keep believing it will happen. As the old saying goes, good things take time. Sincerely hopeless romantic...

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I met my Significant Other, after my husband died at the age of 74, at a Tai Chi class that I had been in for a number of years when he wandered in to take the class.

Just goes to show, you can meet good guys anywhere even when you are just doing something healthy!

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my age prevents me from finding anyone there are no social activities near me and I won’t do on line

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Me again

On this community site You can put your Bio in your profile

Which I did & I check others info to find out their name by clicking on community ID 

So far I've not come across any others that posted their Bio but do find their names to get to know others. 

Also its nice that you can send private messages through this community have chatted with some folks there plus can chat with Community Helpers also. 

Have a beautiful week! 

Ginger : ) 

 

🙂 Smile & the world Smiles with you 😉 Pass one on....its free
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I've been single for three years now after a decades long marriage.  While I did try out several online dating sites, unfortunately, I wasn't impressed with the results I was getting with any of them.  With every new site, I would change my profile, thinking that my profile was attracting the wrong kind of prospects.  I would also put the time, energy and effort in to make the meet and greets as pleasant as possible.  After several different sites, over a two year period, I realized that the whole online thing just didn't appeal to me (and never did). 

 

I'm an active, energetic, healthy, passionate, intelligent, independent, professional woman who has spent most of her adult life in long term relationships with people who shared a similar mindset and lifestyle.  In the past three years, I've discovered that most of the best dates I that I've had, and most certainly the men who I dated for any length of time (several months), were people I met through someone I already knew.

 

I have found that attending professional and community functions and events is a great way to not only meet people who work in the same industry as me but to also meet people who live in my neighborhood (I live in a downtown, urban area).  Another way I have met so many really nice people is through MeetUps.  I now belong to several MeetUp groups and I just love all the different types of groups and events that are available - people who enjoy doing the same things that I do.  

 

Below is a list of the different ways I have met some really great people, some of who I ended up having some really great dates with:

 

Professional Events Committees

Community Groups & Events

Bowling League

Hiking MeetUps (I belong to several)

Cycling MeetUp

Single Professional MeetUps (so many to choose from)

 

I think one of the biggest issues that I had with online dating sites is that they are just so passive and really kind of lame and lazy.  If you're looking for someone to develop a "meaningful connection" with, that takes time, energy, effort and space and if you're not willing to put in the time, energy, effort and make the space in your life, then the results you end up with will reflect that. 

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Good for you. Does it matter if you are outreageous or creative in how you express yourself? The dating system is toxic as it makes both people sad and fearful.  Be your different self. It takes more than just finding another single person. It takes your hopes and dreams with a smile.

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@joefriday14 

Hi Bruce

Thought I'd read all posts here

Question? Who are you replying /writing / posting to? 

Thanks Have a beautiful day! 

Ginger  : ) 

🙂 Smile & the world Smiles with you 😉 Pass one on....its free
Trusted Contributor

People are everywhere in front and behind you. They want to get to know you. Will it be love,lust or another let down?  Only through enthusiasm,humor and kindness do we ever connect.  Slowness in connecting always ends relationships before the first hello.

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