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@Lahayle58  I'm not so sure what you are asking in the title of your topic.  Do you want a concise answer with a blueprint or are you asking for suggestions from those with similar experiences of loss and pain?

 

The questions put forward are a good start because they will help you identify your life history and factors which may affect your life journey in ways both positive and negative.

 

That said, I've always been a big believer in seeking help through education, self-exploration and yes, counseling if the issues rise to a level as to seem insurmountable over time.

 

There are some excellent self-help books about divorce and redefining self out there.  There are self-help groups and blogs you may want to check out as well.

 

Here are some resources on resilience you may find helpful as a start:

 

https://www.forbes.com/sites/margiewarrell/2013/09/25/bolster-your-resilience-5-ways-to-build-psycho...

 

http://www.apa.org/helpcenter/road-resilience.aspx

 

https://positivepsychologyprogram.com/resilience-in-positive-psychology/

 

https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/design-your-path/201305/10-traits-emotionally-resilient-people

 

Good luck to you!

"Never succumb to the temptation of bitterness." ~ Rev. Martin Luther King, Jr.

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@Lahayle58 - What have you been doing the first 10 years, once "the dust settled"? What stage of life are you in .. children still at home/empty next? working/retired? Have you maintained friends you had while married, developed a new circle of post-divorce friends?


Good questions.  

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@Lahayle58 - What have you been doing the first 10 years, once "the dust settled"? What stage of life are you in .. children still at home/empty nest? working/retired? Have you maintained friends you had while married, developed a new circle of post-divorce friends?


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