To Web unWise Woman: That is the worst advice ever. Did you not read that he is not a relative, so what lawyer is he to contact? He wrote he is the boyfriend of the grandmother and therefore not a relative.
Again, he is the ex-boyfriend of the children's grandmother. !
Contact DCS, do you mean Department of Child Services as in claiming child abuse and initiating foster care? Have you ever talked to someone who has gone through the Foster Care System, it is a horrific and could be worse than the current living situation. Foster Care will not keep the 2 children together, did you consider that aspect? Did you not read that the writer lives in the same apartment complex and calling DCS who will tell and reveal to the mother who made the call, what do you think the living situation and blow-back would be for the writer? The writer wrote: "the ex is constantly miserable to me, and unavoidable since she lives in the same apartment complex as the kids" what do you think the situation will be after the writer makes a DCS report? How could you not realize the writer is already in a tough situation, you think it will improve after a DCS call?
What exactly do you mean about heritage your statement "she needs you to not be what her heritage will lead her to be" explain that comment.
I am suggesting a name change for you to Web Unwise Woman.