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Grey hair - embrace it or dye it?

When do you decide to let it go grey?  There is a new trend for a grey ombre for younger people, which is funny since we all avoid the grey as we age.  When did you stop coloring or will you ever stop?

 

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AARPTeri
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My hair started turning gray in my 40s. It is an expensive proposition to have it done professionally. With it requiring a full coloring every other month and a touch up every 4 weeks it would have cost me a minimum of $780 a year.  So I did the math $780 x 10 years = $7,800; $780 x 20 years = $15,600, $780 x 30 years = $23,400.  THAT IS A LOT OF MONEY.  So I ended up doing it myself. I hated the time it took, I hated the mess and hated the fact that many women believe that if you don't color your hair that you don't care about yourself which is a bunch of garbage.  I took that $23,400 that I saved and lived on it for two years so that I could hold off taking my SS at age 70.  What makes me wonder is how any woman who has not aged well and there are plenty that color their hair the darkest blacks and browns they can find think that it makes them look attractive. But I say if you want to color your hair thats your choice. Be my guest . . . color away.  I don't need my hair colored to feel GOOD about myself.  I like who I am and if people want to think less of me because of it then that's their problem.

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I've been coloring my hair since age fourteen. I still color my hair at 68. It has nothing to do with the white or gray hair that may come in...I still only have a few white hairs in my head so don't color it that often and I don't color it to get rid of the white hair. I'm a woman and I do what I want to myself from head to toe all my life; no need quitting now. 😄
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Months away from 65 and hardly any grey, I would embrace it.  My daughter has way more grey than me in her 40s.

 

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Marylin

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I know a lot of women in their 40s with gray hair, too. At 68, I have a few gray hairs, but not much to fuss over. I just believe it's all in our genes when we get gray hair.
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I love natural, my hair is gray turning to white and I have had several people tell me they wish they had my hair. But I am blessed, because I have a lot of color in my face, so I do not need to wear makeup or color my hair. I wear my hair short because I am outdoors a lot and I like to shampoo and go with little fuss.

On the other hand, my former business partner has no color in her face and at times has a almost gray tint. She colors her hair strawberry blond and it has always looked natural along with her makeup which is very becoming. For an almost 85 year old she rocks her looks! Believe me the first time I saw her "without her face" as she calls it, I was shocked. Since I never wore makeup I was surprised it could transform a person so much.....hope my face did not show how surprised I was at the change....lol.

So there are two sides to the coin, those of us that like the natural look and those that want help to look their best. As long as we feel good about the way we look there is no right or wrong. Just keep rocking on!

 

 

 

 

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A few years ago when I saw a young woman in a spa with dyed gray hair, I thought, that's it, I am going for it. I stopped coloring my hair and I love it. It's wonderful not to have to scurry to dye my hair every 3 weeks when the grey grows in at my part. And the multi colors are actually kind of beautiful. Some people think that gray hair ages a woman, but let's face it, all they have to do is look at my face and they will see that I'm old! (I'm only 58 but it definitely shows). Now my hair looks more in line with my face. I still act young (I THINK) and my body is in good shape, so I feel that I am a good role model for my piano students in how to age gracefully. I wear light makeup that enhances and protects my skin, but doesn't try to cover up wrinkles. I feel great about my gray hair and hope that other women will give it a try because it feels so great! 

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The year I turned 50, I decided to see what I would look like if I let my curly hair turn grey. Would it grow out evenly or would it grey in clumps or patches? (It was very short at the time, about 3/4 inches all over my head, so it took about 6 months to grow out.) I stopped blowing it dry and let it be and it turned out to be my wisest beauty decision. It's a very light shade of salt/pepper, pretty, easy to care for and I love it! I'm 70 now and have my share of wrinkles from a life well lived and my hair compliments my face.

 

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woow,i have the same trouble

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Dye it until the dye doesn't take the dye anymore then go gray with pride

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@AARPTeri wrote:

When do you decide to let it go grey?  There is a new trend for a grey ombre for younger people, which is funny since we all avoid the grey as we age.  When did you stop coloring or will you ever stop?

 

Share your story.


Well, as for me and for the time being, my dark hairs far outnumber the grey and I do not color my hair at all.  So I guess I'm embracing the dark hair for now.  But when the grey starts to overtake, I may decide to dye it to match.  

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I'm not knocking anyone who chooses to dye their hair, it's a personal choice! 

I don't like beauty parlors, I'm not good at doing fancy things to my own hair, and as I have very few wrinkles though 4 days short of turning 70, I chose not to dye! 

My daughter and all her friends, male and female, dye their hair. ..so this is strictly my personal choice. 

If you feel better with dyed hair, go for it! 

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Well for me and my grey hair I hate it.  I will dye until I can no longer dye it.  I will do it myself due to the high cost of salons.  I feel as though as some of us age we no longer care or want to look our best.  Well, I want to look my best  for as long as possible.   And looking my best includes no grey hair, good physical condition, getting my nails done and yes I will be wearing makeup everyday.  Well, I must end my e-mail now,  I am off to go dye my hair. 

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Looking "your" best is subjective.  Everyone has a different definition.  Just because a woman chooses to NOT dye her hair doesn't mean she isn't looking "HER" best.  So please, if you feel looking your best means dying your hair then by all means go do it.  But hair color doesn't change the person you are.  You can be the most beautiful woman in the world, wear the most expensive clothing and jewelry and be a witch. As for me, I'm confident in myself that I don't have to go around looking like I'm going to a masquerade party every day.  There comes a time when dark hair on an 80+ year old woman and a heavy makeup actually makes her look 100.  She is kidding no one but herself.

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I think one of the things you obviously missed (Social Butterly) was I said for me and my grey hair.  I have seen some gorgeous women with grey hair that look great meaning their whole package inside and out.  Then there are some others who look like a old bag inside and out.  That is fine but again I said for me. As far as makeup, clothing (note:  I shop at the second hand stores for my expensive clothing and jewelry) etc goes;with anything you do  I don't care what age you are you need to know how to, when to  apply.  Unfortunately it is peope like you who don't respect or appreciate other people's opinions on these public forums only your opinion counts  "NOT".    I am very confident and definitely look the part and when I am 80+ I definitely have better things to do than be jealous  and opinionated about what others do.   

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Gray hair, nope, no thanks.

I’m not crazy about the expense every 6 weeks, but I’d like to think personal maintenance is an investment in myself. I also get facials and nowadays I wear less makeup than I used to. Aging isn’t for sissies. 

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I don't know who you are referring to as a "sissy" in your post, but those of us who decide to go gray are definitely NOT.  We are self-confident women who believe in ourselves and our accomplishments.  We've earned those grays the hard way and are proud of it.

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Well said LogicsHere!! Getting old isn't for sissies, but unfortuneately we all have different views and some are just mean about it. Gary.

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Embrace it. After dying my hair for 20 years I decided to stop because I thought it would make me look older. I was so wrong. I enjoy my gray 

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How wonderful for YOU!  But I perfer to continue to dye.  Thank you,

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we are ALL beautiful just the way we are already!  God made us one and all, and HE does not make junk.  Love yourself just the way you are 😊

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I wish we had more positive thinkers like you on this planet, especially how things are today!! Love the grey!! Grey= Sexiness

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I embraced my grey hair that begin to show around my temples.  My family doesn't grey very fast, but the grey around my temples will not be dyed. I feel that you should just grow old gracefully.  Now some grey hair is dull, yellowish and lifeless, so if that's you, you may want to try a rinse vs dye just to add to the luster of your hair.  There are many products out there that is just for grey hair, shampoos, conditioners, etc. so that if you decide to let the grey fly, you can do so with confidence.  Me personally, I decided to grow old gracefully, grey hair and all.  Each year that God gives me is a blessing and I'm not going to waste any of it on stressing about grey hairs.  My plan is too keep eating healthy, to get some form of exercise and to minimize as much stress out of my life as possible and enjoy each day as a gift that God has given me.  Like I tell my family and friends at each birthday...."You're not getting older, you're just livng longer " 🐵

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I started dying my hair because the hairline all around my forehead was white while all the rest of my hair was dark.  I did it for years and as more gray/white hair appeared, I was dying my hair every 3 weeks.  I was getting sick of it (and the cost was ridiculous), but I had no choice but to continue.  How was I going to grow it out!  Then I had to have this massive surgery and I would be house bound for months.  So I went to the hairdresseer and told her to cut my hair short because this was my chance to let my hair grow out.  Oh boy did she cut my hair.  I had about an inch of dark hair and the rest was gray and white.  Two hair cuts later and my hair was GERORGEOUS!!!!!!  Because of all that white in my hair, it looked like I dyed my hair gray and frosted it with white.  I got so many compliments I couldn't believe it.  AND what a perfect time to go gray!  Young people are dying their hair gray!  I won't lie, going gray is a bit of a shock.  You loose all color.  But you learn to change up your makeup to work with your new look.  I'm still experimenting on making my eyes pop and using lighter lipsticks.  Going gray was the best thing I did for myself!

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@mamanconi wrote:

 AND what a perfect time to go gray!  Young people are dying their hair gray!  I won't lie, going gray is a bit of a shock.  You loose all color.  But you learn to change up your makeup to work with your new look.  I'm still experimenting on making my eyes pop and using lighter lipsticks.  Going gray was the best thing I did for myself!


@mamanconi  That's a really good point. 

 

My gray hair actually brings out the green in my hazel eyes. And I am able to more successfully wear colors I could not when my hair was red. Indeed, my wardrobe has changed considerably as has my makeup. 🙂

 

 

"The key to success is to keep growing in all areas of life - mental, emotional, spiritual, as well as physical." Julius Erving
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I got my first grey hairs in my early twenties.  Not once in my life have I ever dyed it.  At age 67, I now am mostly grey but get many compliments on my long straight grey hair.  I don't believe women should hide their greys.  I had twin boys at age 18 and earned all my grey hairs.  My family also has a genetic tendency to go grey young.  I fully embrace it and am glad I never destroyed my hair with dyes and perms and other things people do.

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I frost my hair at the salon to add more grey! My face and body look senior citizen, complete with wrinkles, padding and sag.  My family has been fortunate to have a gene that keeps the grey away for well into our 70s and 80s.  But when I don't frost my mousey dirty blonde, it looks like I am dyeing it to look younger.  Trust me, it just doesn't fit the rest of my  "outfit" when left natural.  I have some grey starting, but until it befits my looks, I'm adding it.

amcoffiebean
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I've been dying my hair since college, long before it ever started turning grey.  At 55, I have no plans to stop dying now or in the near future.  I suppose at some point I may go natural but I love the fact that I can have any color hair I want and have spent decades playing with my hair color.  It's just who I am and I love it.

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